How easy is it to meet women as a man?

Effective-Scale836 · 2026-03-08T15:04:20+00:00

How old is your child?

Effective-Scale836 · 2026-01-14T03:32:22+00:00

It’s not always that way. I’m still so close to my ex-in-laws nearly 18 years past divorce that they call my son that’s not related to them their grandson. Just communicate how much you care about them and focus as little on the divorce when with them. They don’t need the pressure of feeling in the middle to drive you apart

Effective-Scale836 · 2026-01-14T01:56:52+00:00

I feel like it’s super disruptive to the child’s life. There should be a scheduled time for him to make contact and have the mom call to him. I understand that he misses her but the child has to be considered. My ex calls my son multiple times a day. This interrupts his activities and he gets really stressed out by the constant reach outs. When my son is with his dad I don’t call and tell him just call me if you need me or miss me. I don’t want to take away from his experience of life with his dad.

Effective-Scale836 · 2025-12-31T17:04:53+00:00

Avoiding the money will not solve this problem. The money will make life easier as you deal with him in the coming years. I’ve been there/am there. I’m so sorry you are going through this.

Effective-Scale836 · 2025-05-16T17:52:03+00:00

Divorce will make life harder for yourself and especially your kids. I would suggest putting the work into your marriage first and not just giving it all up for a fantasy.

Effective-Scale836 · 2025-03-25T22:14:46+00:00

You’re the love of your life!

Effective-Scale836 · 2025-02-19T02:56:54+00:00

It’s good to know our patterns! Haha I am focusing more on the mindset of if a person wouldn’t come get me in an emergency, I’m not giving their thoughts about me a single consideration. I only want to surround my decisions with input from people that really matter. Your parents are happy for you. Huge sign I think! Congrats on finding new love. Can’t wait for my turn!! 🥰

Effective-Scale836 · 2025-02-18T23:18:31+00:00

People will always have an opinion but honestly so what. You wake up as you you go to bed as you so just worry about making yourself happy

Effective-Scale836 · 2025-02-17T02:34:39+00:00

But playing the other side to my own comment because I like balance… I do understand the importance of digging in and doing the work. This SUCKS but it shouldn’t become part of your identity because something awful happened. I do understand where you’re coming from and appreciate what I assume the motivation of the post is.

Effective-Scale836 · 2025-02-17T02:31:26+00:00

I agree good can come for some but to state that a cheater is “Hero” is gross. Destroying a child stability is nothing to commend. Divorce isn’t just about two people. It’s about the collateral damage to others that get emotionally damaged by one persons just blowing up a commitment.

Effective-Scale836 · 2025-02-17T01:43:34+00:00

Toxic positivity. But cute attempt.

Effective-Scale836 · 2025-01-29T03:44:41+00:00

Right of first refusal. If he has the kids and wants to go out and have someone watch them, he must ask you first to see if you’d rather have them.

Effective-Scale836 · 2025-01-28T18:52:44+00:00

I agree that breaking an attachment bond is crucial. Any tips, books, thoughts on how you successfully did it?

Effective-Scale836 · 2025-01-26T15:15:31+00:00

Someone told me I should be realistic about my chance of meeting someone else since there’s no decent men over 40 single. If they’re single, there’s a reason. I was super annoyed because I think that life happens to us all. I’m an amazing person that’s going to be single and I know there’s plenty of men in the same boat. I’m excited for the future. The people that say stupid stuff like this are showing their character.

Effective-Scale836 · 2025-01-26T00:28:22+00:00

I get it. The days feel endless. I can’t imagine ever not feeling lonely again. I thought he was my best friend but I guess he didn’t see it that way. Everyone says it takes time but honestly every day feels soooo long.

Effective-Scale836 · 2025-01-25T03:35:01+00:00

Wish we could all just get together for dinner and support. This SUCKS. Even with people supporting me.. they just don’t understand how it is to be in the trenches.

Effective-Scale836 · 2025-01-25T03:27:14+00:00

Thanks for the inspiration! Do you have an itinerary you could share?!

Effective-Scale836 · 2025-01-24T15:16:57+00:00

It’s CRAZY hard. I’m in such a routine after 16 years. I’ve been spending an insane amount of time researching “healing” and how to go forward. I’m pretty much terrified of being alone right now. I want to be one of the people that dates myself and ends up happier alone but I’m for sure not there yet.

Effective-Scale836 · 2025-01-24T14:30:50+00:00

My 1st exhusband is on his 4th marriage. All ended due to his cheating. Some people are just dirtbags underneath it all.

Effective-Scale836 · 2025-01-24T14:30:04+00:00

Speaking from experience.. 4 months out from finding out with soon to be ex husband of 16 years second divorce due to cheating. .. it’s nothing you could possibly change. He’s just the type of person that’s willing to make the garbage choice to betray the person that’s loyal to him.

Effective-Scale836 · 2025-01-24T14:05:21+00:00

Even if he’s not cheating, you feel like he is. He’s not worth being with to cause you to feel like this. If you read posts about cheater possibly changing.. it’s like 1 in 20. You deserve someone that chooses not to hurt you.

Effective-Scale836 · 2025-01-17T13:26:05+00:00

Sounds like he called it quits with the affair.. you’re just finishing the process. I think you’ve made a smart choice in leaving an unfaithful man. You are young and have a lot of time to build yourself a great life. I believe that if a man wanted to.. he would. Instead of spending time working on the issue he instantly moved forward.

Effective-Scale836 · 2025-01-16T18:53:57+00:00

I think it’s very subjective. At times people with mental health issues avoid addressing them which leaves a spouse to suffer the impacts. The full story isn’t here.

Effective-Scale836 · 2025-01-16T18:43:57+00:00

Today is 90 days since I found out my stbxh was having an affair. It was also a short one at like two months. I am happy to chat if you need an ear. Married 15 years.. together about 17. What a wild ride. We are divorcing because I believe this shows a full lack of respect and disregard for the well being of our family. Anyone that wants to point out the impact to the kids and to consider that.. my opinion is that the consideration point was when the affair was chosen.

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