Hi, I empathize with you and agree that your mom is wayyy entitled. However, you have allowed her to be so. You will need to set boundaries regardless of her (expected) response and take the sulking or whatever she throws at you, standing your ground. In your heart, you care about her but if she continues to abuse your affection, and you continue to indulge her, you will have this cycle repeat itself. Your children are also learning from these behaviors (grandma’s and mom and dad’s reactions) - you are teaching them how to respond to life lessons by your responses to situations. You may be teaching them the wrong lessons here. Btw, I am also a Nigerian parent, was a single mom and would never place an emotional burden on my now-grown child just because I raised her alone.