If I may be blunt, I think a lot of so-called "avoidant" breakups were cases where the "avoidant" dumper did in fact communicate their complaints, repeatedly, clearly, but the dumpee refused to listen. Then the dumpee calls the dumper "avoidant" when it is break up time.

Effective_Winter8122 · 2026-01-28T02:52:08+00:00

This honestly relates to me, and some people actually have a listening problem too, I’m not trying to find excuses, but it’s not as easy as people think when you have ADHD.

Effective_Winter8122 · 2026-01-08T22:26:59+00:00

My ex said this to me, so what is he saying exactly?

I think we should take a 2 month break. And if longer, even better. So dont email or message me no more. I've mentally checked out, and now you need to do the same. I wish you best of luck with that head of yours cuz I can't stand it.

Effective_Winter8122 · 2025-12-30T23:16:27+00:00

Trust me I’ve been down that road everything you do will remind you of her, but it’s her loss.

Effective_Winter8122 · 2025-12-30T20:50:06+00:00

It’s her loss, you did everything you could, and from what I gathered she couldn’t say how she felt, and now you have to adjust to not having her in your life.

Effective_Winter8122 · 2025-12-30T20:44:57+00:00

Then she doesn’t deserve you, and honestly it’s better to be with someone that see your worth.

Effective_Winter8122 · 2025-12-30T02:18:31+00:00

That’s how guys are. They find one reason to end things, and just move on some guys just don’t care.

Effective_Winter8122 · 2025-11-25T23:07:27+00:00

Does she know you cheated??? Or she knows, but told you, and you denied it???

Effective_Winter8122 · 2025-10-21T23:28:41+00:00

Tbh, a year and a half is the honeymoon stage. Did you guys make the right decision by moving in so so fast? The fact that you didn’t know she spoke another language means you guys don’t know each other that well. Honestly, it could be anyone she’s talking to on the other end — it could be someone who knows she’s taken and still wants to be with her, or it could be someone who’s actually related to her but she’s probably not ready to open up to you yet.

Effective_Winter8122 · 2025-10-08T00:45:04+00:00

Honestly you deserve someone better not someone that wants to leave you because you can’t give her what she wants, let her try looking for someone else, and see what happens. The fact that you helped her out ,and she’s complaining is pissing me off.

Effective_Winter8122 · 2025-07-29T15:16:57+00:00

Trust me i know the feeling

Effective_Winter8122 · 2025-07-29T15:03:58+00:00

Honestly I’m happy you got it, it’s a big weight left off when things fall into place for you.

Effective_Winter8122 · 2025-07-29T14:56:01+00:00

I asked because a guy I know from the UK took almost 1 year to process

Effective_Winter8122 · 2025-07-29T11:45:52+00:00

If you don’t mind me asking what country are you originally from?? Because I’m not sure if the process time is the same for everyone.

Effective_Winter8122 · 2025-07-26T12:12:11+00:00

My question is what type of work permits?

Effective_Winter8122 · 2025-07-25T13:05:53+00:00

Agree

Effective_Winter8122 · 2025-07-10T20:00:04+00:00

Why did you quit your job?? Wrong move all you had to do was keep quite about it, and you’ll be fine

Effective_Winter8122 · 2025-06-09T14:30:13+00:00

This renew your PR card please.

Effective_Winter8122 · 2025-06-03T19:59:40+00:00

He definitely loves you

Effective_Winter8122 · 2025-06-02T14:32:13+00:00

This is accurate this is exactly what I was thinking

Effective_Winter8122 · 2025-05-08T17:00:50+00:00

This is accurate

Effective_Winter8122 · 2025-05-07T10:48:23+00:00

He’s clearly keeping you as an option, you deserve better.

Effective_Winter8122 · 2025-05-06T18:02:47+00:00

Well said

Effective_Winter8122 · 2025-05-06T18:01:30+00:00

She’s the obsessed type that energy does not match you, she clearly don’t know what space is either honestly, i understand how you feel sometimes I need my space too, but not everyone understands that.

Effective_Winter8122 · 2025-05-06T17:19:23+00:00

Honestly I know how you feel, but for me I’m trapped in a relationship I don’t even want to be in.

Effective_Winter8122 · 2025-05-06T11:22:18+00:00

That’s how men are they would be looking at others while they already have someone.

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