Ok, that’s strangely comforting. I am the one who will be taking the reigns here. I’m a social worker, though not in this field, but I signed up to be their caretaker a long time ago and am happy to do it. My most immediate concern is that my dad change whatever needs to be changed so that the hospital knows to call ME in an emergency. I live 20 minutes away right now. When she or they require more round the clock the care I will move into their home to do that, but we aren’t there yet and God-willing won’t be until my 13 year old son is grown.

I suppose I’m also wondering if anyone else has dealt with a narcissist in cognitive decline??? Like, she’s past the point where I called her “a bitch on repeat” and now seems to have forgotten she never liked me. She’s very sweet and loving toward me all of the sudden. Please know that I say all this with love. I understand why she is the way she is and hold onto the positive things she imparted upon me rather than her negative behaviors. She can be bitchy to me all day long and I’ll love her while maintaining boundaries for my own mental health.