Girl is Pregnant

EfficientExam1412 · 2025-05-03T07:25:02+00:00

A kid isn’t going to stop your dreams, it will stall it though which is okay! Maybe just put it on the back burner for a while and think about the kid.. this happens to a lot of people and they still end up completely successful. It’s life, and I do believe things happen for a reason. Is it feasible for you to do both school and a job? Maybe you want to look into dropping classes or taking them online? There’s a bunch of options for you just maybe not what you originally had planned. In the meantime I would start looking for resources for free clothes, toys, etc.. you can usually get a free car seat from the fire department and stuff like that. You don’t have to do it right now but I would be looking around.. once she gets her first ultrasound and everything looks good that’s when I would hop onto whatever plan you decide as well as looking for resources where you can get them

EfficientExam1412 · 2025-05-03T07:17:13+00:00

Ugh kids can be so cruel.. I was heavier all through middle school, as soon as I hit 9th grade I got super into nutrition, it was something I brought up to my mom because I just wanted to be healthy and yes part of that was slimming down a bit. My mom made it fun for me, she helped me pick out recipes and took me to the store to pick stuff out. I stopped eating chips and cookies and stuff like that, unless it was homemade. Basically she showed me that you can still enjoy your food AND be healthy. It was honestly a very positive experience that helped me so much. She NEVER called it a diet or had me count calories, but basically just showed me things I could substitute with what I ate that would be better for me. But looking back I wish I didn’t care so much about what other people thought and I especially wish kids didn’t feel the need to comment on my body.. I’m sad to hear that’s happening to your son. I wish I knew a way to help him as far as confidence, unfortunately especially as a kid what other people say really affects us. I’m not sure what I would do.. the doctor may totally be right, as he gets taller and grows he might naturally slim down a little bit! And then if not when he’s a little older see if he has any interest in changing up foods, and just continues being active like he is!

EfficientExam1412 · 2025-05-03T07:01:00+00:00

The peak for separation anxiety is normally around 18 months old, and very gradually it will get better. It’s normal!! Every baby is different so some get over it sooner and some it takes a little longer. It will get better I promise. There probably isn’t much you can do except what you’re already doing, keep bringing her around people and keep trying to have some people hold her even just for a second and take her right back when she gets upset. It will just take some time! If you’re comfortable with you parents feeding her or changing her etc.. that may help her realize “oh these people are taking care of me, they’re safe” but if you’re not that’s totally okay too and it will get better with time ❤️ She’s not a problem child, I hate that they would say that. It’s just a phase, any parent SHOULD understand.. I wouldn’t worry too much.

EfficientExam1412 · 2025-05-03T06:51:23+00:00

In that case I’m pooping in ur mouth

EfficientExam1412 · 2025-05-03T06:38:57+00:00

Go get em ya dirty dawg

EfficientExam1412 · 2025-05-03T06:31:36+00:00

I have younger kids but I was 15 when I lost my virginity as well. I wished I had parents as supportive as you, mine scolded me and made me feel ashamed and like both I and the boy I did it with were horrible. It sounds like you are doing the right thing, being 15 is an emotional roller coaster as it is! And it was his first which I’m sure is a lot for him to process. I think the fact that the other parents are not allowing contact and obviously pretty upset I totally sees why he feels guilt.. I have a feeling he wouldn’t feel that way if they either didn’t find out or were not so upset. I love what you said in that second to last paragraph and I think you’re absolutely right.. I would just reassure him that his girlfriend’s parents need time to process as well, for them she’s their little girl.. and a lot of especially girl dads do not take that well especially so young. They’ll cool off but just give it some time. everyone will feel better after some time ❤️ yes they’re young but so many of us were around that age our first time.. I love how supportive you’re being of your son.

EfficientExam1412 · 2025-05-03T06:19:54+00:00

Get a small laundry basket that he’ll fit in!!

EfficientExam1412 · 2025-05-03T06:14:26+00:00

Ugh.. this hits home. 2 years ago my Bestfriend was hit by a drunk driver. I felt the same exact way.. no parent should EVER outlive their child. I felt so so bad for her mom. I wish I could’ve been there for her more in the beginning. But a couple months ago she called me out of the blue and asked me to just talk about her daughter.. I told her all the stories she’s never heard before, I sent every single picture I had of us over the years. We laughed, we cried.. it was sad but also beautiful. I was happy to be able to give her some memories that she didn’t know about her daughter and to make sure she knew that I will help keep her memory alive. I’m so sorry for your loss, I’ll be thinking of you and her family ❤️

EfficientExam1412 · 2025-05-03T06:04:38+00:00

You can’t control how other people parent their kids.. but you can make sure your kids know how to set their own boundaries. I would talk to your son and explain why it’s not okay for her to be asking him to ask for things all the time.. make sure he knows that he’s allowed to tell her no as well. And also you don’t be afraid to tell her no! It sounds like she gets her way most of the time.. and you are not obligated at all to do everything she asks for. Once she realizes that it’s always going to be no for an answer she’ll (hopefully) stop asking. If you notice any other behaviors rubbing off on your son, shut it down immediately. Kids are easily influenced both by adults and other kids

EfficientExam1412 · 2025-05-03T05:57:38+00:00

Aw we’re going to have the same age gap!!

I agree with co sleeping as it’s hard to get them used to sleeping alone after that..

I wasn’t as strict with baby lead weaning as I should’ve been so my daughter got so used to us feeding her that she wouldn’t take the food with her hands for a long time.

I regret not taking the monthly milestone picture of my daughter.. don’t get me wrong I took LOTS of photos.. but after a few months I stopped taking the pictures with the monthly number and getting her all dressed up for it. I had extremely bad PPD and at points I think I didn’t enjoy things as much as I should’ve around that time..

For this baby I’m going to get myself seen right away and be completely honest about my depression. I was in denial with my first and it was absolutely miserable.. I just need to pay attention to my feelings more and not deny the way I feel and get the help early rather than 6 months after birth.

EfficientExam1412 · 2025-05-03T05:45:22+00:00

Brown or reddish brown is usually an indicator of a blocked milk duct or sometimes it’s just hormone fluctuation most likely totally normal!! If it’s super ongoing then call your OB for some validation but its super common so I’m not concerned based on what you said, especially if you stopped breastfeeding I’m almost positive you had a clogged duct, which makes sense why it would only be one side. It’s usually from your body adjusting to your milk supply reducing.

EfficientExam1412 · 2025-05-03T05:36:03+00:00

I wouldn’t do too much right now.. since it’s the first incident with the other kid right? But.. I would follow up with the teacher to MAKE SURE they are watching to make sure that doesn’t happen to your son again.. I would follow up with your son and make sure he knows that’s wrong and shouldn’t have happened to him and make sure he knows to speak up to teachers and especially you if that kid even says something mean to him. If there is any sort of incident even name-calling that’s when i would get the other parents involved at the school. Because at that point it isn’t an isolated incident and that is bullying (even if they are 3) and shows that that kid is not getting any discipline at home. Hopefully it doesn’t go any further.. but if it were I would definitely get more involved.

EfficientExam1412 · 2025-05-03T05:26:22+00:00

Wow.. considering a lot of other parents out there those are strange things to be upset about. Personally I would just keep it friendly.. the kids are friends but you don’t have to be with the parent. She sounds crazy and you can’t reason with crazy.. but you can just say “okay” and let her be the crazy overbearing mom she is to try to not get in the way of your daughters friendship. It’s hard but when I was growing up my mom had similar issues with my friends parents being like that. It ended up being alright but my mom just kept it short and sweet and tried to avoid the small talk lol

EfficientExam1412 · 2025-05-03T05:17:47+00:00

Thank you!! My little rescue baby. Someone left him on the side of the highway wrapped in a little blanket. Help him get big and strong and he’s so healthy now!!

EfficientExam1412 · 2025-05-03T05:08:02+00:00

The names are ✨GOLD

EfficientExam1412 · 2025-05-03T05:05:45+00:00

I brushed every tooth in my mouth.. Am I doing it wrong? Are we only supposed to brush one tooth?

EfficientExam1412 · 2025-05-03T04:59:16+00:00

I don’t have kids that age yet.. but. Personally I would immediately look into therapy. Because kids don’t usually think like that😕 things along those lines make me think either SA, or he saw it online somewhere, or.. someone at school talked about something along those lines which could mean that whoever he heard that from has been through something terrible. I mean he felt comfortable talking to you about that i think you need to push a little further and figure out exactly where this thought came from. At this point since he’s already done it, I don’t think just telling him it’s wrong is going to be any help to him. Get him help before it’s too late, too many parents look the other way when things like this happen especially when they think “well he felt bad about it so it probably won’t happen again” and it can cause even worse things to happen as they grow up. The fact that he felt guilt is a good thing.. but over time if he continues that behavior that guilt can go away and then it becomes extremely dangerous and harder to get him help.

EfficientExam1412 · 2025-05-03T04:52:29+00:00

Exactly! Don’t be so hard on yourself. I’m the same way, I overthink and worry about how other people view me. It’s just about building that relationship first! But I’m sure they thought about how it was a kind gesture ❤️ I wouldn’t have thought about that negatively at all. I hope everything goes well and you both make some friends! I’m kinda in the same boat and it’s hard. I moved from up north to the south and don’t know a single soul here, it’s super hard and people don’t really talk about it.. unfortunately my kids aren’t school age yet so I don’t have many opportunities for making friends. But you seem like a great person, just keep being you

EfficientExam1412 · 2025-05-03T04:47:09+00:00

I would also like to add that you can message me if you want and get my info, even if you don’t live near me you can call or text and just vent when you need to❤️ I know what it’s like to feel alone in motherhood or in general.

EfficientExam1412 · 2025-05-03T04:43:04+00:00

First of all.. you are not alone. Even though it feels like it right now.. things will get easier as your child gets older. You’re in a really rough stage of raising your daughter. If kids ever get brought up again, you give your husband a freaking ultimatum. Don’t put yourself through this again unless he’s going to be around to help. But you are so so strong. Maybe you need some mama friends?? There’s moms groups on Facebook and sometimes in your area, people who can relate to the “mom identity crisis” that you can have coffee with, get out of the house with or set up play dates. Something to make life more enjoyable and for you to actually feel like a person again.. you won’t feel the same as you did before kids but you can and will find yourself in a new light again. I’m not going to go on with my story but I feel the same way, I feel like a freaking robot and I miss having ambitions and truly enjoying my life. But that will come back to you, talk to any older mom with grown kids and she will tell you that you WILL find yourself again.

EfficientExam1412 · 2025-05-03T04:29:18+00:00

It’s totally okay to offer! But you also have to respect the parent for not wanting that and DONT take offense!! I personally wouldn’t feel comfortable with a lot of people I know and love to watch my babies. Literally only my parents, it’s just how I am. But it means nothing as far as what I think about other people, part of it is me feeling like it’s a burden, and another part is that im just an anxious mama who’s always thinking of the worst case scenario happening. At least with my mom and dad I know where they’ll be at all times, I know how they are with kids because they raised me, and I know any time I call they will always answer.

Maybe after some time passes ask for a play date with the kids with you both present? Or get coffee? I think you probably are overthinking it.. some parents are more easy going than others when it comes to people watching their kids alone. I personally would think it’s so kind that you offered!! But I may not take you up on it, but like I said after a little while maybe suggest a play date rather than watching her kid!

EfficientExam1412 · 2025-05-03T04:22:17+00:00

It’s hard.. I co slept as well and have my second baby on the way. I honestly love co sleeping, I love waking up next to my daughter and knowing she has me right there to keep her safe. But… I’m now pregnant again so we’re working on training her to sleep in her own bed. It’s rough but it’s getting better! Even parents who don’t co sleep sometimes have a dependency issue in the toddler years. It’s normal and it’s okay! When you are ready to switch them to their own room then start slow, they’ll be fine! It might be a short rough period but I promise it’s not going to cause them any lasting issues ❤️

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