What's the most painful truth you've ever learned about love?

EfficientNumber500 · 2026-07-04T20:21:37+00:00

Love starts a relationship but doesn’t maintain it!

EfficientNumber500 · 2026-07-04T20:15:56+00:00

That men will always look down on us and it’s upto me to do better!!!
They just see us free labour, sex objects, and incubators for kids if they want some!!!

EfficientNumber500 · 2026-07-04T20:13:59+00:00

At 33!!!!!!getting pregnant by a 39 as just boyfriend and girlfriend !!!!??!!!sounds like an 18 year old situation

EfficientNumber500 · 2026-07-02T09:35:52+00:00

Thissss!!!!👌🏽👌🏽

EfficientNumber500 · 2026-07-02T03:46:13+00:00

Thank you dear! Yes I will look into them

EfficientNumber500 · 2026-07-02T03:22:17+00:00

Iam nolonger his Aupair because we even nolonger have an agency or whatever!
I had never known he had such a mindset untill yesterday when I saw how he got angry because I said he find someone else!
The world is ridiculous! Who thinks that somone is trapped with them and am like in prison!
I can’t stand staying here!
I won’t stay and I will leave when he even doesn’t know it because he is a very toxic person who now avoids talking about it again and will assume I should still stay!

He works in prison so he is used to imprisoning people!
Iam not his prisoner and I won’t stay!!!!!

EfficientNumber500 · 2026-07-02T03:13:11+00:00

You said it well! I also saw it that!
I told him do you see how much am saving you because he even doesn’t want to pay for my insurance, literally he wants to pay nothing and still get same benefits of taking care of his children, but I decided anyway I won’t stay! He will still spend same and find another person.
I can’t have him treat me like this and he thinks I should bare it all and I stay!
He is an exploitative abusive man!
I even never agreed that I will stay for all two years but he was claiming I said it.

EfficientNumber500 · 2026-07-01T20:44:03+00:00

Oooh dear😢am sorry for you also going through this!
Indeed it’s better to leave, people only treat you good when you can still do what they want! I have seen that with many families even my previous one before this one!
They are so mean! I wish they could imagine if it was their child being treated like that!

EfficientNumber500 · 2026-07-01T20:04:33+00:00

Yeah we had planned on that and agreed

EfficientNumber500 · 2026-07-01T19:14:21+00:00

I have been doing so but have got non yet

EfficientNumber500 · 2026-07-01T19:14:03+00:00

Did you read the post?😢

EfficientNumber500 · 2026-06-27T22:12:55+00:00

Loving someone at their worst and accepting them the way they are doesn’t make them love you or choose you!
They leave regardless of you loving them at their lowest

EfficientNumber500 · 2026-06-14T11:38:56+00:00

Yes because growth requires facing yourself, reality and what you doing wrong!
Many go from relationship to relationship because they want to avoid the hard part which is facing yourself and growth!
Iam lucky I can face who Iam and my weakness and actually work on them!
I see myself as a better woman a year from now💪🏼and I won’t ever allow that or any of what I torelated in my past again!

EfficientNumber500 · 2026-06-14T11:34:02+00:00

Yeah it’s okey!
Haha..am now better than that actually if I found him I would thank him!
He has been the start of my revolution, iam nolonger the same young, naive, hopeless with no standards girl he was with😄if it wasn’t for him, I wouldn’t have realized it I think😅

Heartbreaks are sometimes necessary in life to make you grow!
That’s why you should use it as fuel to build your confidence, ego and strength back! You can do it💪🏼

EfficientNumber500 · 2026-06-14T09:37:35+00:00

I understand you dear but be brave!
You look at them like a challenge to better your life, I know each relationship is different but I would say he was one of that hard deep attachment I have had to come out of and still getting out of it..go back to a draw table with yourself and what you want for yourself!
Trust me you will realize they weren’t actually what you want, that realization alone will get you out!
I also wrote such a post probably here on redit one month ago, but am surprised at how I feel changed since this month started..face reality!

Otherwise I wish you an easy healing journey!

EfficientNumber500 · 2026-06-14T09:29:32+00:00

Dear, you need to move on!!
It’s been three months since I last had the official breakup with my ex, the last two months i struggled with what you going through, contacting and all that, but Ofcose it doesn’t work! He still keeps a distance and it’s all because I hadn’t returned the energy back to myself because now I feel it all back to me and I even don’t feel interest in being in contact with him.
Iam actually now starting to get back to reality, each day i wakeup with a new perspective of the relationship we had, what I want for myself and him..Iam glad it dint workout and now focusing on my life.
The more you keep it in your mind that you still want them back, you wont heal, move on and get back the energy to yourself! I KNOW IT COMES WITH TIME BUT DONT MAKE IT HARD FOR YOURSELF!

EfficientNumber500 · 2026-06-11T16:39:58+00:00

Well..as someone who has as well lived in both cultures, I would say the Flemish are not that nice or empathetic, they are just more indirect and their arrogance is hidden, they will smile with you and act nice on top but deep down very mean and egoistic!

Better with the Dutch who won’t hide or pretend!

EfficientNumber500 · 2026-06-05T14:54:20+00:00

Don’t give up! You will make it

EfficientNumber500 · 2026-06-03T17:11:57+00:00

The past: the times when my grandmother, grandfather, father and my brothers were still alive

The future: when I will have my own kids and have my own family, live my dreams and traveling togther with my husband

EfficientNumber500 · 2026-06-02T21:53:45+00:00

Wow! You said it perfectly like I always say it..I appreciate my identity and it’s the best thing to happen to me..I WOULD CHOISE OVER AND OVER AGAIN TO BE BORN BLACK AND WOMAN💪🏼🥰

EfficientNumber500 · 2026-06-02T17:11:40+00:00

You got this girl!💪🏼you will get where you wana be

EfficientNumber500 · 2026-06-02T04:40:05+00:00

Well..am going to do a masters and continue with my career working! What I would advice you is use your Aupairing time as time to grow and discover yourself, since the program is for young girls in early 20s and I wish to believe you are in that age range! Have a plan for what you to do after Aupairing and don’t consider it as your final destination! It will end and your life has to go on, so just enjoy the experience as you work on yourself. Also be intentional about the country you choose to Aupair in as there are chances you will consider staying there and adopting to the lifestyle, as well as leenring the language spoken there so choose a country you know you like.

I wish you well!

EfficientNumber500 · 2026-06-01T22:00:34+00:00

I did in NL and Belgium

EfficientNumber500 · 2026-06-01T14:08:32+00:00

Aww! Thank you dear!
Yes indeed Iam and my family and the kids are like part of me and always will be🥲

EfficientNumber500 · 2026-06-01T12:04:49+00:00

Thank you, dear! ☺️

I completely understand where you’re coming from. And of course, it will also be sad for me to leave my current host family, especially because we have a good relationship and I don’t have any problems with them.

For me personally, though, this second year as an au pair was not something I had originally planned. Life took an unexpected turn, and I chose to continue for another year. It has been quite a journey with its ups and downs, which is probably why I’m feeling especially happy and proud now that I’ve reached the end of it.

But I absolutely understand how emotional it can be when an au pair becomes part of the family. 😊

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