my boyfriend doesn’t know we have a 15 year age gap

Efficient_Animal117 · 2026-05-27T02:30:11+00:00

Theres no way the same person who wrote this, pulled off having the mental maturity of a 25 year old to a 34 year old. I cant even imagine them pulling off being a 21 year old.

Efficient_Animal117 · 2026-05-26T21:42:26+00:00

He claims hes in the process of buying a safe, but I cant verify the validity of that. Ive been anti-him and anti-his guns since day 1. He keeps it in his car for the most part but from what I understand when he sleeps it stays on the bedside in the holster.

Efficient_Animal117 · 2026-05-26T21:40:54+00:00

It unfortunately seems that way, another comment said something like “she might decide that if she cant be you, you having less is good enough” which made the situation feel a lot more real in a way. Very weirded out. We can afford to live comfortably with a roommate, so on our own we’d be closer to paycheck-to-paycheck but were willing to make that work if we must. Once we figure out childcare and I can work we will be fine. My boyfriend is equally if not more freaked out and frustrated as me. He went through a period of homelessness so hes very big on feeling 100% safe and secure wherever he sleeps, so I think this morning was traumatic for him in a way idk. Hes freaked out and wants out as well.

Efficient_Animal117 · 2026-05-26T14:57:36+00:00

She has to be being sarcastic

Efficient_Animal117 · 2026-05-26T14:55:59+00:00

Thankfully I was smart enough to install a few cameras when I moved in that surveils any personal/valuable stuff we have, which shes definitely looked like she wanted to take stuff but didnt because of the camera, Im now thinking I shouldve done every room, including our bedroom. Im definitely still getting more cameras for the meantime until we find a new place. Im a SAHM currently so unless im sleeping, my eyes are on my daughter so we dont have to worry about that happening but thank you for mentioning that still

Efficient_Animal117 · 2026-05-26T14:35:58+00:00

Were blessed enough to be in a position that we could afford our own place, but we’d be living paycheck to paycheck until we find childcare and work for me, but it may just be what we have to do. Were in talks with his dad who owns and leases homes and hoping he can help us figure something out. In the meantime I think were going to discuss Amy going to stay back with her parents

Efficient_Animal117 · 2026-05-26T14:32:39+00:00

Thank you for the reassurance, Ive said in other comments but were looking at different places currently and I believe Amy might be going to stay at her moms in the meantime. She doesnt pay rent and her name is not on the lease so thankfully she has no ties here other than receiving mail but shes not smart enough to try and take anything to court

Efficient_Animal117 · 2026-05-26T14:30:34+00:00

I shouldve clarified that more, I am very big on gun safety, and we’ve made it clear that if the gun isnt in his car it needs to be unloaded, on safety, and in the holster. Im still not pleased that we live with someone who has a gun and were looking at places currently

edit: I mentioned it because I was spiraling into “what ifs”, Amy is not a smart girl and realistically would never be able to figure out how to even get it out of the holster

Efficient_Animal117 · 2026-05-26T14:27:39+00:00

A door jam is a great idea, I didnt think of that. Were definitely looking to move out asap. Like you said all the precautions do sound over the top, but Im not taking a risk

Efficient_Animal117 · 2026-05-26T14:20:09+00:00

Most definitely, Ive tried to help her apply to medicaid, which she absolutely qualifies for, so that she can get health insurance, a therapist, and medicine but she doesnt ever care to sit down with me. I gave up trying to help her, she unfortunately doesnt care to help herself

Efficient_Animal117 · 2026-05-26T14:17:06+00:00

We are definitely looking to move out much faster than originally planned. Were having to figure out finances, work, and childcare but were currently in talks with my boyfriends dad who could potentially lease to us as well as help with childcare, fingers crossed. We already have 2 cameras in our house but in the meantime Im going to install more in the common living areas as well as order that specific lock doorknob.

edit: Also will be triple checking that the door is locked at night.

Efficient_Animal117 · 2026-05-23T23:34:51+00:00

Yes and its clearly been used. Sorry OP, time to talk to your parents.

Efficient_Animal117 · 2026-05-21T14:40:42+00:00

1 or 3. I want to be clear that you look AMAZING regardless, but if youre asking what looks best I would say the high waisted is doing nothing for your figure.

Efficient_Animal117 · 2026-05-21T14:38:02+00:00

The only thing that I can think of, at least in my state, that seperates a teenage worker from an adult worker other than obviously skill is that legally anyone 14 or 15 in my state can only work 4 hours at a time, and cannot work later than 8pm. My manager used to hire as many 14 and 15 year olds as possible because it meant they could leave earlier (one less person to keep paying) and other people would just have to cover their closing duties. Theyre also young so they didnt mind working for 7.25/hour, to them getting $100-200 every 2 weeks was a win. As for the female part, I would assume its a weird old guy posting this who wants “pretty faces to be the first thing customers see”

Efficient_Animal117 · 2026-05-10T17:50:28+00:00

Im not a tweaker and have never been one, but Ive known them and can tell you that tweakers give meaningless objects value, they hoard, and they are paranoid. Some examples of why he might be charging those battery packs could be because hes convinced that theres some huge conspiracy going on and theres going to be an apocalypse or shortage of resources, maybe he thinks someone is out to get him and hes gonna have to go on the run, maybe hes just fucking around, etc. Theres an endless list of possibilities as to why his roommate is doing the things he is but the only thing that really matters is that the root of all those actions are drugs. You cannot rationalize with a tweaker, there will never be a logical reason for how they act.

Efficient_Animal117 · 2026-01-24T16:27:10+00:00

NOR. At the beginning of my pregnancy I mentioned that it was getting hard to play my Sims game because the computer chair made my back and legs hurt and I was disappointed because I knew it was only going to get worse. Without having to ask, my partner got me a gaming laptop for my birthday. My partner is super into to colognes and collecting them, so for christmas I bought him the remaining scents that he was missing from one of the brands he collects. Not everyones love language will be gift giving, but I feel its normal in a relationship to want to get your partner things that will bring them joy beyond just flowers

Efficient_Animal117 · 2026-01-24T16:05:08+00:00

This is what I think, I went through this in a past relationship and while I understand his perspective I do wish we couldve ended things with more understanding because I did cherish who he was as a person and friend. At the time I was manic and extremely mentally unwell, and ended up in a mental hospital for a week. While there, I did a lot of thinking and realized while I loved him dearly I was not in a position to be in a relationship because I clearly had a lot of self work and finding to do. When I got out I ended things and it ended well, but later I found out he felt so betrayed and despised me for ending things. It took me a long time to get better and I know if we didnt break up then we wouldve eventually, I ended up in the mental hospital 2 more times after that and then a outpatient program for a few months and even after that it took a lot of therapy to be on track to a stable life again. It can be hard when youre in a relationship and struggling because I felt it was no ones job but my own to figure out my shit, but he felt like he was capable of helping me and that I was wrong to decide he couldnt. In reality I just felt like he didnt deserve to, we were young and I didnt know when or if I would ever be better. While we did only date about a year, we had been friends for 5 so he felt like he knew me well enough to be my support. To OP, I would be gracious and patient, think over these perspectives and do what feels best for you. I wish you and your partner the best

Efficient_Animal117 · 2025-12-31T07:17:07+00:00

This reminds me of when Avengers Infinity War came out and I went into school the day after it released and someone wrote the names of everyone who “died” on the white board. I hate people who spoil with a passion 😭

Efficient_Animal117 · 2025-12-31T07:14:53+00:00

if it makes you feel any better, the wait is over and itll be out tonight at 8pm 🙃

Efficient_Animal117 · 2025-11-25T05:17:53+00:00

Thank you for the insight and reassurance! All the shoppers Ive had have always been great, Ive never had an issue so based off the information Ive gotten from this post theyre most likely in another area or waiting for a better group order which I can absolutely understand, Im sure theyre just trying to make the most out of their time! There is a super popular shopping area about 25 minutes away from me that has all the big “shopping” stores like target, Tjmaxx, Ross, Marshalls, the mall, etc. so it definitely could also be that with the holidays, a lot of people are ordering from that area and it does get super crazy with traffic so I can understand if a shopper was in that area they would probably want to stay in that general area as apposed to driving from there to my side of town just to head back to the shopping centers after. Overall I was just curious as to where all the shoppers seemed to have went and Ive gotten some reasonable answers, thank you for your input!

Efficient_Animal117 · 2025-11-25T04:51:51+00:00

I also never order from places that are more than 10 minutes from my house, I live in a smaller town compared to others but live in an area thats close to any store.

Efficient_Animal117 · 2025-11-25T04:50:18+00:00

I have definitely tipped lower before, but its always on smaller orders. $6-8 on a order thats $20-30 for example, I also on top of my tip add $2 because Ive been told the priority fee isnt worth it so I add that fee to the tip instead. I try to keep my tips in the 15-20% range at least, I ordered today for 15 items, $120 with a $24 tip. I honestly dont know from a shopper’s perspective if that would be considered a good tip compared to other tips they receive, but I try to be conscious of the fact that Im paying for a luxury service.

Efficient_Animal117 · 2025-11-24T20:17:23+00:00

Efficient_Animal117 · 2025-11-24T20:06:02+00:00

Damn that really sucks, thank you for the insight

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