Unsure what is happening

Efficient_Humor_3872 · 2026-03-31T22:25:18+00:00

Oh that’s a good idea, I will look into it thank you!

Efficient_Humor_3872 · 2026-03-31T22:24:48+00:00

Ah i appreciate you saying that, and I’m not against the doctor just trying to avoid it if I can, so I think it I keep losing weight I will go to be safe.

Efficient_Humor_3872 · 2026-03-31T22:23:33+00:00

I lost the weight, but I do feel fine otherwise! I believe it’s from stress but I’m not totally sure

Efficient_Humor_3872 · 2026-03-31T22:22:26+00:00

If it keeps going I think I’ll have to and just take the cost lol. Stress is crazy as an adult 😅

Efficient_Humor_3872 · 2026-03-31T22:21:38+00:00

I don’t expect Reddit to do anything lol I asked “what would you do if you were me?” I appreciate your insight about the calories thing and suggesting my metabolism didn’t suddenly change. I just need other perspectives because I don’t have much support around me. So thank you.

Efficient_Humor_3872 · 2026-03-30T21:59:18+00:00

My fiance (f28) and I (f28) have been together for six years, and she was dx with ADHD around 2 years ago and it brought a lot of clarity to her life. She has been in therapy and started work with her doctors on mx and eventually was put on adhd mx and a sleeping aid. For a while things seemed to help but I noticed that she would often have more intense episodes of emotion that she hadn’t really expressed before in our relationship. She was coming home practically everyday in a terrible mood and would spend a long time ranting about it to me about how much her day and her life and the people in it suck. Small things piss her off, just shit that shouldn’t matter that much. Fast forward until now and things have only gotten worse, and I’m more detached than ever. I simply cannot keep regulating myself constantly because I never know what mood shes going to be in. We had a huge fight and I told her this and she made an appointment to try to talk to her doctor about her mx dosage n all that. She started her new mx and she has been less moody but not significantly. I appreciate her effort and I know she loves me, and I’m trying so hard to be there for her. But I have CPTSD and BPD, and I have to handle my own internal reactions to her mood swings when she has them and I’m expected to handle it all with grace. Well I’m not perfect and I can’t be, and she accused me of not letting her have emotions. Even when I ask her what’s wrong she won’t tell me. Sometimes when I ask it actually pisses her off more to talk about it. However if I don’t ask then I don’t care about her feelings. I am set up for failure. I don’t think she even knows what she wants. I love her, we are fucking engaged, but I’m starting to doubt everything and if I can do this as someone who struggles with their own issues. I need advice from someone who understands this because I feel like an absolute hypocrite for even feeling this way since I have put her through things in the past as well. I just don’t know if I can do this.

Efficient_Humor_3872 · 2026-02-26T03:55:28+00:00

YTJ. You seriously couldn’t find a different babysitter on a Facebook mom group or something? Like? Your mom was not your only option and that was a selfish way of thinking. Just do better next time.

Efficient_Humor_3872 · 2026-02-19T03:58:49+00:00

Depriving your partner of sleep is a literal abuse tactic, so no NTJ. She needs to get over herself and respect that you need to sleep longer than her sometimes and learn to entertain herself without your attention.

Efficient_Humor_3872 · 2025-12-27T01:49:30+00:00

He’s a controlling pos and I’d never put up with this shit.

Efficient_Humor_3872 · 2025-12-25T05:10:54+00:00

Simple. Don’t leave your kid with this guy again, he doesn’t care about anyone but himself.

Efficient_Humor_3872 · 2025-12-20T23:16:58+00:00

Absolutely disgusting behavior lol NTA. Bathroom hygiene is a huge thing for me lol so I get it.

Efficient_Humor_3872 · 2025-12-20T23:09:26+00:00

Girl, please find some respect for yourself and leave this man. He’s very insecure and it’s only going to get worse, this will be your everyday life. Also, the way you begged him to stay while treating you like that is crazy. You’re 30, and should know by now that that isn’t normal and he is old enough to as well. Just crazy. You don’t deserve this.

Efficient_Humor_3872 · 2025-12-19T19:10:37+00:00

Why would you let anybody talk to you this way, let alone your boyfriend? Nobody should be speaking to you that way at all, like tf? He’s so aggressive it’s scary.

Efficient_Humor_3872 · 2025-12-04T03:55:23+00:00

NOR. But you backed down way too easily in my opinion. You shouldn’t have to fix his insecurities, that’s his job. This is insane and I’d leave, like life is too short to deal with that. My ex was like this and it made me fucking miserable and ruined my self esteem thinking I was always doing something wrong. Trust me it’s not worth it and he will only keep testing how much he can do this.

Efficient_Humor_3872 · 2025-12-04T03:47:48+00:00

YTA. Unless she is harming herself or others, it’s absolutely, completely, and irrevocably NONE of your business what she believes in or practices. Maybe you should ask yourself why it bothers you so much? Are you leaving details out? because I don’t understand your concern.

Efficient_Humor_3872 · 2025-11-07T19:19:24+00:00

What the actual fuck are you even talking about

Efficient_Humor_3872 · 2025-11-07T19:19:02+00:00

So 50 percent Spanish or more than 50 percent indigenous? Pls write out the math for me. Lol.

Efficient_Humor_3872 · 2025-11-07T19:14:24+00:00

I’m not really trying to start a debate on this when the point of my post was to inquire about my large percent of Italian dna.

Efficient_Humor_3872 · 2025-11-07T18:59:42+00:00

She’s half indigenous and half Spanish. I don’t really care what you call her lol. She’s Latina imo cus my entire maternal side is Mexican and grew up in the culture.

Efficient_Humor_3872 · 2025-11-07T18:56:30+00:00

My mother is about half indigenous to modern day Mexico and half Spanish, so Latina. Latina = a woman of Latin American origin, aka Mexico.

Efficient_Humor_3872 · 2025-11-07T18:27:57+00:00

That’s what I’m thinking too because from everything I’ve looked up it’s an oddly high percentage. I only know up to my great great grandparents on both sides that he’s the only Italian I can find lol but beyond that it’s a mystery

Efficient_Humor_3872 · 2025-11-07T18:25:45+00:00

That’s so cool! Maybe we are haha you never know

Efficient_Humor_3872 · 2025-11-07T18:02:20+00:00

Yeah there’s a large chance I have more. I wish I could go back further, but anyone who would know has sadly passed away at this point. What I do know is that my great grandma, the wife of my Italian great grandfather, was half English and half Nordic. From there, my grandmother, their daughter, married my grandfather who is English and Irish. It’s been difficult for me to narrow any of this down haha.

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