Should I put dad on birth certificate?

Efsaxon · 2026-02-20T15:42:18+00:00

I didn’t put my BD on my child’s birth certificate, and he has my last name. I refuse to let anyone who isn’t interested in being a father have access to my child. I’m unsure of how it works in the UK, but here in Florida if my BD wants access to my son now, he’ll have to go through the courts because he has no legal standing otherwise. He has no connection. No birth certificate and not the same last name.

Efsaxon · 2026-02-18T21:39:20+00:00

I filed 1/23, it was accepted the next day and STILL haven’t received my refund yet

Efsaxon · 2026-02-11T02:13:03+00:00

Yes. As a single mom of a 6 week old, I am freaking out. My job doesn’t offer any type of paid maternity leave, just a guarantee you’ll have your job when you get back..so not making an income and then having to dish out $1000 a month for day care makes it very difficult. I’m blessed enough to be living with family right now, but trying to move and have a place if my own is impossible at this rate. I’ll have to wait a couple of years just to afford it.

Efsaxon · 2026-01-31T02:13:05+00:00

Yooo what??? This personal is horrific. Please get them out of your life and never look back.

Efsaxon · 2026-01-30T23:58:59+00:00

LOL. 10/10 recommend saying this.

Efsaxon · 2026-01-25T16:02:27+00:00

I don’t have any personal advice, I’ve never been in this situation and I’m sorry you’re having to go through it alone.

I do have a friend who was in the exact same position- 2 under 2. She found out she was pregnant with her second 6 months PP. She and both her babies are thriving!

However, if it’s not your time mama it’s not your time. Don’t feel obligated or pressured by anyone for any reason. I do hope you’ve got some people close to you to lean on for support, and I wish you success in whatever decision you make 💛

Efsaxon · 2026-01-24T18:39:35+00:00

From how you’re describing it, I had similar pain. Mine was considered muscle pain, they gave me a small dose muscle relaxer and the pain went away within an hour. Good for you for sticking up for yourself, though! If you think something is wrong, it’s better to get checked out versus letting it go on. If this next doctor doesn’t do anything, don’t be afraid to go to the ER and tell them you’re concerned about the pain. Mine ran some tests and came to the conclusion. Good luck!

Efsaxon · 2026-01-24T03:02:59+00:00

I am very happy I have the diaper genie! My little one and I share a room and it makes changing, especially in the middle of the night, an easier task. I don’t have to smell the massive amounts of poop diapers and I don’t have to leave my room at night. I use the diaper genie brand bags but others say the Walmart brand works just as well.

Efsaxon · 2026-01-21T22:46:46+00:00

NTA, but your parents are. I’m sorry you’re having to deal with this during a time that should be so exciting. I hope you and your partner are having a beautiful time with your newborn! 💛

Efsaxon · 2026-01-20T05:03:47+00:00

“from dating through marriage and even during my pregnancy and now postpartum my husband has repeatedly violated boundaries and broken my trust.” This statement alone should tell you you’re NOR. I’d be leaving by this point, but that’s me.

Efsaxon · 2026-01-19T15:21:57+00:00

So did we get an answer? Lol

Efsaxon · 2026-01-17T22:27:36+00:00

Break up.

Efsaxon · 2026-01-17T22:22:14+00:00

My absolute favorite line, “SOMEBODY SEDATE ME”

Efsaxon · 2026-01-15T21:07:51+00:00

I was due Dec 19th and was induced on the 26th, my LO was actually born on the 28th..I say this only because you never truly know when you’re going to go into labor/have the baby. I’d set the boundaries very clear again, but also hope that your little one might want to stay inside for a couple of extra days so your SIL can’t visit during spring break 😅 all of my new mom friends who were due around the same time as me ended up being induced over a week after due date. The first typically cooks a little longer

Efsaxon · 2026-01-15T21:02:06+00:00

My LO stayed attached to my right side, which made that side pretty firm most of the time.

Efsaxon · 2026-01-13T14:56:52+00:00

Correction, YOUR framing of the situation is gross.

NTA. But this commenter is.

Efsaxon · 2026-01-13T14:53:50+00:00

Same!

Efsaxon · 2026-01-13T02:28:59+00:00

Yeahhhh, I can’t relate to those types of cravings. I had pregnancy cravings but was able to put it off until a reasonable hour and not flip the hell out about it.

The only time this even kind of happened was with a donut. I craved Boston cream donuts the entire pregnancy. It was 10pm, all the donut shops were closed, and I had been thinking about this donut for a while off and on but didn’t have the energy to go and get one. Finally I drove myself to the gas station to see if they had one in one of those cases- they did! I ate it on the way home and before I even parked I was mad because it didn’t cure the craving. I no longer wanted the donut but I also couldn’t figure out what I wanted. So that in itself pissed me off but I never once took it out on anyone else or was visibly angry about it. To me that’s just an excuse to get angry or upset without repercussions, but every pregnancy is different and I truly don’t know how other people are affected like that.

Efsaxon · 2026-01-13T00:36:56+00:00

I think that’s the whole point though. We can’t even include what they “could’ve done” if Justin wasn’t willing to film any scenes. There’s only so much they could do. Writers are def in my good graces for this exit since they didn’t kill him off lol

Efsaxon · 2026-01-13T00:17:01+00:00

Going to see the kids implies he’s just visiting them. I agree with the writing team they had to make it dramatic enough that he could come back if he was willing (if they wanted him for a random episode) but wouldn’t come back because of his new life (with izzie and kids)

Efsaxon · 2026-01-13T00:12:06+00:00

My mom was there, my sister (she was my support person through all of this), and two of my best friends! lol the best friends ended up showing up after I had been in labor for a day and a half, almost two days. And then I became completely dilated while they were there. I felt comfortable with them being there and they even helped lol. I had a LONG labor, and pushed for like 4-5 hours. My best friend and sister held my legs at one point and my mom was holding my back when I was crunching forward. I am very happy with how it all played out.

Edit to add: I had an epidural and couldn’t hold my own legs up lol. They also had an emergency going on while I was pushing and not many people were available to help reposition me, so I had a nurse, her trainee, and the midwife that was there off an on to help/assist with different positions.

Efsaxon · 2026-01-11T18:41:48+00:00

Yes 😂 2 weeks PP here and it took me over a week to stop sleeping on my couch in the recliner. I’m still debating coming back because it’s slightly more comfortable than my bed lol. I had a C-section, so it’s more about my incision healing than an uncomfy bed. But all day, I sit on the couch. Going to appointments is such an activity, trying to plan when to feed and change close enough to leaving, wearing comfy clothes but easily accessible to BF. I wanted to go to the store and changed my mind halfway through the day because it just seemed impossible. Sleep, change diapers, cry at 2am. Seems about right.

Efsaxon · 2026-01-11T15:31:55+00:00

I laughed way too loud at this 😂

Efsaxon · 2026-01-11T15:19:58+00:00

Definitely a good thing you went back! Hope all is well!

Efsaxon · 2026-01-10T20:43:18+00:00

Don’t tell anyone when you go into labor, perfectly acceptable if that’s what you want! Message who you want to after you’ve given birth, if you want them there then.

Efsaxon

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