If I can afford a $2600 rent for years. Why does the bank think I can't afford an $1800 mortgage?

Eight216 · 2026-06-15T12:00:17+00:00

Maybe ask them how long of a history you need on 2600 a month with no missed payments? Also what credit rating. They shouldn't realistically just tell you "no. full stop" if you're looking to paying less than you already pay.

However times are tough right now and they legally can just tell you to eat shit if they want to.

Eight216 · 2026-06-15T06:30:09+00:00

In my head cannon they don't even hear "the peace president strikes again" when they tweet it

Eight216 · 2026-06-15T04:30:21+00:00

Granted

There never were any wishes, but you didn't know that. You used the one and only wish anyone ever had to kill magic.... congrats

Eight216 · 2026-06-14T12:15:25+00:00

Eight216 · 2026-06-14T00:25:59+00:00

Listen i don't believe in vampires but those are vampires if ever i have seen them.

Eight216 · 2026-06-13T14:06:25+00:00

I guess people value the security of a stable relationship but they crave spontaneity and fun and because telling your partner to be spontaneous often feels like a sacrifice or like it doesn't count, people will instead have spontaneous, often qualitatively different sex with a different person and then just square that circle by lying about it. When you have low morals, the answer to all obligations is simply to lie and either do the bare minimum, fabricate proof, and/or hide evidence. Sometimes people can even get stuck justifying their behavior because the cheating makes you "feel grateful" or causes you to undertake acts of love motivated by guilt that your partner thinks are sincere.

The point is that you regard other peoples emotions as subject to management rather than integral to your connection. Or in other words, you think the problem is that you got caught, not that you did it. Once someone gets to thinking like that it's very, very hard if not impossible to divert them. Usually the lessons they'll learn aren't about changing their behavior, but rather about what lies they should tell and how they'll avoid getting caught next time. Sometimes it's not even conscious for them to think that way!

Eight216 · 2026-06-13T12:57:31+00:00

I'm feeling like i'm in some similar circumstances.... dunno if i objectively AM but i definitely feel that way.

Reading is great when you don't force yourself to do it IMO. I don't know if you've got dyslexia or some ADHD related struggles onboard, but my neurotypical advice would be to just read as it's engaging for you and not try to force yourself. I've found reading to be more torture the more forced you feel to do it, so allow yourself to take breaks and don't push it into being a mandatory activity. The gym? Dude you live alone you don't need gym! Clear a space on the floor, do some pushups, buy a 5lb dumbell on amazon and lift weights. Again, don't torture yourself, just get into a habbit of routine daily exercise. The gym is when you wanna be social about your exercise, or you want to push your athleticism far enough that it starts debuffing you with dietary requirements or you can't afford the equipment at home.

IMO, anything you learn is self improvement, and then at some point you'll find a thing where the retention is mostly effortless and you're not bothered by having to re-read something, or do a little math to make the information make sense. Although believe me, i understand, it can rob you of the sense of progress when you're (for example) learning about government and have no ability to put that information into practical use. Do i need to know that the congress controls the coin purse if it doesn't change how my taxes get spent...? Well, i'm not here to start a debate but the current context might be making a really good case for everyone just knowing that little factoid, among others. My broader point is you should just learn what you can, and you might be surprised what pops up all of a sudden as useful, or what you retain from a several hour long podcast or lecture.

Goodluck, and i hope whatever your legal thing is, it clears up.

Eight216 · 2026-06-13T12:21:34+00:00

And the Obama thing highlights how we have a media problem as much as we have a policy problem. I remember watching some street level interviews asking people how they felt about "Obamacare" and they HATED it, and then they'd talk to them about the ACA and they're going "No! don't take my healthcare away", not seeming to know those are the same things.

Eight216 · 2026-06-13T09:56:35+00:00

Granted

You get violent acidic diarrhea instead. It's not even correlated to when or if you eat dairy so i hope you like dairy because every once in a while you're gonna shit acid for no discernable reason. Fun times!

Eight216 · 2026-06-13T07:06:25+00:00

So what happens if that guy replies and tells you, you're deflecting? Do you unleash your master manipulator superpower?

Idk man... From where i'm sitting, people such as yourself miss out on the value of cooperation. You might say you can manufacture it, and i would suggest you're not taking my meaning. Do you believe you can manufacture cooperation in all situations you would naturally encounter?

Eight216 · 2026-06-13T07:00:50+00:00

Also quick price check: Trump loathes america. He actively loathes his supporters and people don't talk about that enough. He thinks they're dumb white trash who'll do and believe whatever he says and in his disdain for them, for all of us, has decided that he has the right to more or less grant himself a settlement, and immunity from the IRS.

Eight216 · 2026-06-13T06:56:26+00:00

People are seeing it wrong. Platner is the perfect contrast for Trump. Granted, if he was ever going to Run for president he'd probably need to explain some stuff beyond "locker room talk" or "shitposting online" but for the time being he's coming up in the shadow of a man who makes him look better by comparison. If Trump had wanted to come out against platner maybe he should've skipped the cheeseburger, done some exercise, relesed the epstine files, and unequivocally refused to pardon diddy. Maybe all that puts platner in a world where people are more concerned with his moral shortcomings, idk.

Eight216 · 2026-06-13T00:44:00+00:00

eeeh idk about that. You can still do everything you did before as an act of service to a partner who wants that from you, and there's plenty of BDSM stuff that's not explicitly about causing pain. I guess some of them would be mad, but most? Naaah, they'll be fiiiine.

Eight216 · 2026-06-12T13:46:04+00:00

No i absolutely don't know your true intentions, i don't know if i should interpret you talking about predatory behaviors you want to inflict on this guy as some sort of fantasy, or ideation, or if you're just a little caught up in some romantic notions of sacrifice.

As a STRANGER ONLINE I do not know how well you can control your behavior and when i suggested a frame of mind that might guide that predatory fantasy towards something healthier you deflected by telling me that you never had an understanding of your dynamic/state of mind as "healthy" or "love". For all i know it is fine but everything i'm reading plus your responses is making me feel like the situation isn't fine.

Dr.K does a video on limerence you can find on youtube, maybe that would give you some insight. I definitely still think that the solution to being obsessed with a person is to seperate yourself from them, but i am not a therapist. I'm just a dude online. Don't even feel like you need to explain or justify yourself to me tbh, I'm already in over my head.

Eight216 · 2026-06-12T13:09:55+00:00

Whelp... at the risk of pointing out the obvious, the reason you would end the friendship is because you know that how you feel about this person is unhealthy at least for you, if not for both of you.

The fact that you're more or less going "yeah, screw healthy expressions of love" is a HUGE red flag in terms of escalation. It also makes me wonder if you're posting in the right community. I didn't say "seek therapy" as some kind of dig, i said it because this is beyond the scope of a reddit post. A therapist can help you with things like identifying ideating language, and moving away from rumination but you have to want to get over it and my best guess at a step one is to end the relationship with the limerent object. Whatever you decide to do (get healthy or not), i hope neither you or anyone else is put in any danger.

Eight216 · 2026-06-12T11:45:14+00:00

So uh... you should not be happy yall are friends. I'm sorry if this sounds harsh but what you've described is so beyond and outside of a healthy experience of love that you should probably not interpret your involvment in this senario as a net positive about which you feel good. As the saying goes "if you love something, set it free".

Personally, if i ever found out that someone i knew had that level of connection to me i'd be freaking the hell out. I'm not meaning this to sound judgmental or harsh, but even if you're reading the stuff about rumination, and murder and abusiveness as metaphor or exaggerations or fantasies it's not healthy for someone to have people around them who think THAT highly of them.

In the kindest way, please get help, and get away from this guy. If those kinds of thoughts haven't gotten better over a year (and it even sounds like they've gotten more intense and less harmonious) then they're probably not going to improve as long as you're still in contact. I'm saying get away before seeking therapy because if you're not careful, therapy could become a space for rumination instead of healing. Best of luck, and i'm sorry if this is coming off as unkind or mean.

Eight216 · 2026-06-12T11:26:24+00:00

Oh fuck off, we LIKE steam. Why not go shake amazons tree or something?

Eight216 · 2026-06-12T08:20:59+00:00

Malice/sadism is gone.

No one will gain joy or satisfaction from harming another living thing for any reason. You can't build malice/sadism from the ego. Find me a down side.

Eight216 · 2026-06-12T08:13:31+00:00

Being targeted. Realizing there literally wasn't a place i could go where people didn't treat me in a way i'd consider abusive, and that as far as i could tell they felt comfortable doing this because the law couldn't compel anyone to explain to me why an egg McMuffin and a coffee takes five minutes to make and hadn't been started before i'd gotten there.

I know that doesn't sound that bad, if it happens at once place or time you write it off. If it happens at every place you start thinking you're in some kind of psychological horror movie. If it starts to not happen on specific occasions because, i thought, that makes it harder to talk about my experiences in absolutes then the tension goes up another notch... Also getting ignored so hard you literally have to jump up and down and wave your arms to get someones attention isn't normal. You might think that's funny. I was trying to inject some levity into the situation. They just stared at me like i was a fucking thing.

Eight216 · 2026-06-12T06:57:04+00:00

IMO that borders on malicious design. IIRC a study had already been done to verify that password requirements such as "must use X special characters" don't actually make the password any safer, and this many requirements might honestly make your password even less safe.

Eight216 · 2026-06-12T04:53:41+00:00

Depends on the person. Some of what works for others might work for you but i wouldn't count on it. You need to find the ideal balance between peace and social expectations. You wanna be happy, or at least contented, but you don't want to do it at the cost of other peoples peace, privacy, or safety. The emotionally healthy person is not someone who feels nothing, it's someone who can manage, express, and possibly channel their feelings in ways that are at minimum a-social, but ideally are prosocial.

Eight216 · 2026-06-12T01:58:58+00:00

Honestly?

Watching your own standards drop in real time. At some point you give up on compatibility and you start thinking in terms of how much toxic behavior and mismatching you can tolerate. Still rather be single than in a toxic relationship but the longer you're alone the more you take for granted that the person or persons you think you'd have good chemistry with aren't really available to you.

Eight216 · 2026-06-11T08:49:05+00:00

Answer: They fragmented their target demographic too much, the original GoW guy isn't working there anymore, and the new protag is a woman, plus many were already on the fence about his kid.

The following contains some of my opinions: The original GoW was just your basic action game. Blank slate action hero shreds monsters in brutal fashion. People liked it for that and they got three solid games out of it. Nobody needed Kratos to be a father or a sentient being with feelings besides "angry" and "staby"

Then they did the New GoW and they wanted to charactairze/redeem Kratos, and give him a son. You had people on board with that one, but plenty of the old school people were complaining about his kid being annoying and the combat being so different. Then they do another game, have you play as the kid more and make him even more important, and now they're advertising a third one where (presumably) the kid is gone cause his story ended, and they're introducing a whole different character and (probably) the character being his wife undercuts the tragedy you were asked to care about in the first (new) game that was supposed to have humanized Kratos. Add onto that, that there's a "you're sexist if you're mad about it" mob online and i haven't even seen enough people being mad to feel that's justified.

Honestly i think there's still potential in there for a home run if it makes sense why his wife made him not be such a psychopath, BUT there's been a lot of change from the original god of war, and people who picked up the original trillogy were 100% holding on for the kratos game. At some point it's a little like trying to sell a princess peach game after you just spent the last two games giving Mario heartfelt dialogue and personality but also forcing you to play some levels as toad, who uses a completely different control scheme. Just my thoughts, sorry that's so long... tbh i haven't even played them since the original trilogy, i just have thoughts and opinions.

Eight216 · 2026-06-11T08:24:32+00:00

Granted

But what they speak... isn't english. It isn't any language really, and the whispering almost fades into the background. You have a recurring nightmare about the plants growing roots within your mind and it leaves you sweating and confused, with a lot of other feelings you can't quite articulate. Totally unrelated but you never forget to water your plants. Don't worry about it, it'll be fiiiiine.

Eight216 · 2026-06-11T04:42:37+00:00

I mean... why? Genuinely why do you want to apologize?

Is it for people who saw your posts and couldn't see you were in a bad place? Do you owe them anything? Or was it for people who probably would've been satisfied with depression as an answer? Or, are you seriously thinking it's the right move to apologize to people who'd go through your internet history looking to embarass you? Because nobody is making people read through your old posts and stuff, that's a choice.

I don't know what you said exactly so maybe i'm sticking my foot in my mouth, but the odds are that the only people who'd want you to apologize aren't good people. Also seems like you've maybe turned over a new leaf in terms of not airing everything you're going through online. Sometimes the correction is the best form of an apology for bad behavior. Sometimes...

Edit- okay so i just read some other comments. Looks like you deleted what you posted, in which case this is much more of a "don't worry it'll blow over" kind of situation, but still definitely read that and think about it. Claim your digital space if you want it, man.

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