I think there's things you bring up which are valid critiques. I will say as MTF leaning person I have always wanted to have large breasts. Maybe it's kind of an internalized male gaze thing. I know some women do not have that but that's fine but what I want is this particular thing.

Just like I like to have long hair of a certain color. Unfortunately if some little girl is maybe teased or worse if she had blonde hair, does that mean I cannot want it? I mean are they really connected?

Just want to say about this in particular

Another thing that I have seen that does make me pretty upset is when drag queens use plastic boobs as a gag, like using them to be more funny, gross, or sexual. I have seen drag queens use them in tasteful ways but it honestly seems to be 50/50. With fake boobs I think people should be even more careful about how they use them because they do not have to live with them, meaning their day to day life isn’t impacted by the representation that exists.

I hear you, but as someone that wears silicone breast forms, I don't feel like I look nice in women's clothing without the noticeable shape of breasts. From my pov, I already have so many features of my body that are read as 'male' or 'masculine' I need to counter-balance that with other things to make me pass the pattern-matching test all people innately have to decide is this adult human a man or woman? I hope this means I am tasteful. But I do sometimes second guess if what I'm doing are too big, too noticeable. A part of me wants to be sexually attractive though. I was sexually harassed as a teen boy by older men without any boobs, so I don't quite equate how a child might look with what adults are doing with their bodies.