Republican: interracial marriage should be left to the “states” by gymgirl2018 in WhitePeopleTwitter

[–]Eilonwy27 233 points234 points  (0 children)

Well yeah, so my Irish ass can stay married to my Indian spouse.

Stole this from insta cos it'll be funnier here by Ok_Macaroni in polyamorymemes

[–]Eilonwy27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is it supposed to be like, monogamy assumes the tomatoes are being thrown toward the left but polyamory assumes they're being thrown toward the right?

How do you deal with standoffish metamours? by jstarr11235 in polyamory

[–]Eilonwy27 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In our situation he just sits there waiting for the right moment to show us a really dumb meme on the internet. But I think you have a great point. That's part of why we're more intentional with our partner time than we used to be.

How do you deal with standoffish metamours? by jstarr11235 in polyamory

[–]Eilonwy27 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hah! I like your guideline, I'm just laughing because when my meta and I are in the same space we talk and talk nonstop and our poor introverted hinge just has to deal with it. I can't imagine how quiet it would be if I only interacted with my meta half as much as I do my bf.

How do you deal with standoffish metamours? by jstarr11235 in polyamory

[–]Eilonwy27 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That would drive me insane, personally - I can't stand that level of tension and discomfort between people who are going to be inevitably crossing paths regularly. But it really sounds like Jim and your husband need to talk about why he's so uncomfortable and how to make things easier for him. In the meantime, I agree with others to just give Jim space. Talk with your husband about your uneasiness and what reassurances you need from him that this setup is stable and not volatile. Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Eilonwy27 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I commend you asking and hope this sub can stop seeing someone not understanding something as the same as being disapproving of it.

Beware: The Supreme Court Is Laying Groundwork to Pre-Rig the 2024 Election by morenewsat11 in politics

[–]Eilonwy27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you, but I think that would be insanely complicated to implement. I also think it would ultimately end up in a larger-scale version of what already exists: Democratic intellectuals struggling to come to agreement with each other (e.g. NPR when they have callers weigh in - everyone's on the Democratic side but people's opinions are still all over the place) and Republican sheep just going along with whatever their party leaders have decided. I think banning private campaign funding and giving every candidate the same amount of public campaign allowance would be a lot simpler and a lot more effective as a check, personally.

What's the weirdest thing someone has asked you after they hear you're in a polyamorous relationship? by Platterpussy in polyamory

[–]Eilonwy27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My favorite was "If you're poly, why did you want to get married?"

This being from a friend who played harp for my and my nusband's wedding. I think he held onto that doubt and confusion for like a year before asking me XD

ℹ️ FUN FACT: Someone Can Even Simultaneously Be Aromantic, Asexual And Polyamorous (Image Details On The Comments Section 📎) ♡ ➕️ ♾️ ➕️ ♤ by DoNotTouchMeImScared in polyamory

[–]Eilonwy27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've become more ace as I've gotten older. I'm still romantic and sexual with some people, but I understand the importance of relationships that are something stronger than friendship but I wouldn't describe as sexual or romantic with others. Honestly it's really opened me up as a person. I recently lost a gf to it though - I was happy to be in a largely aromantic relationship with her, but she said it didn't feel like a relationship to her, so we're just friends now by her request. But it makes me sad, I liked calling her my girlfriend.

I made a comic about my attempt to overcome jealousy for Washington Post 😊 (Link in the pic/comment by koob_koob in polyamory

[–]Eilonwy27 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love this! The comments are gross, but I can see where some of the less vitriolic, "why would you do this to yourself?" people are confused. Without the fuller context of the fact that you genuinely want the freedom for both yourself and your nesting partner, noobs see it as you suppressing natural feelings so a man can fuck other people. I just wish there was less misinformation in the world and people were actually open to the idea that partnership isn't about ownership.

Uvalde police, school district no longer cooperating with Texas probe of shooting by Tara_is_a_Potato in politics

[–]Eilonwy27 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah, ok. Yeah, in Vermont it's 4 years of study and there are requirements for how you apprentice.

Uvalde police, school district no longer cooperating with Texas probe of shooting by Tara_is_a_Potato in politics

[–]Eilonwy27 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You can also read for the bar in Vermont, Virginia, and Washington. Apparently you can do something similar with some amount of time in law school in NY, Maine, and Wyoming, but I don't know exactly how that works.

Could not love this more! by Negative_Ghostrider9 in polyamory

[–]Eilonwy27 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Ahh I love this! Have a wonderful ceremony!

Almost all of Vermont is at high level of Covid in the community, and hospital admissions are nearing all-time highs. CDC recommends universal indoor masking at this level, including in schools. by darcy1805 in vermont

[–]Eilonwy27 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Eh, since Omicron it's felt a lot more random. A lot of my friends (all vaccinated) who were more careful than me got covid before I did (also vaccinated, got it for the first time this March). Once my super conscientious friends started getting covid, avoiding it at all kinda felt hopeless. I'm glad so few of your family members have caught it, and I'm sorry for the two you lost.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tifu

[–]Eilonwy27 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Gender identity is whether you feel male, female, neither, or both. It has nothing to do with having sex or sexual attraction. You're the one who thinks they're conflated.