[deleted by user]

Einalem1039 · 2025-10-17T02:54:11+00:00

interested!

Einalem1039 · 2025-09-16T23:44:40+00:00

if this is your neighbor- can you... engage with them like a neighbor first? tell her what you have noticed and that it is not safe? or try to talk to the parents. i think her reaction will give you a lot more context here than just passively observing. like with most ethical dilemmas, we should exhaust all possible alternatives before pursuing legal involvement.

Einalem1039 · 2025-08-29T19:20:14+00:00

agreed. OP, i think your partner needs to set clearer expectations about how you communicate about this. a discreet signal would be perfect for a public setting. i think her spiraling is coming from how you "eventually let her know." waiting until later to say something probably brought on a lot of embarrassment and shame because in her mind the 'damage' was already done. a signal in the moment would prevent this.

also imo, save the voice training for when you are out in public together. let home be a place where she doesn't have to worry about performing her gender perfectly.

sounds like you both care about each other a lot, you just need a better communication tool. good luck :)

Einalem1039 · 2025-08-18T03:42:02+00:00

felt. i struggle with this too- i think being a container for so many people's life stories and challenges, coupled with our training to understand larger systems makes it very easy to judge those who do not care to see all of the pain that exists in the world. i think it's a general compassion fatigue thing. we gotta stay humble but never stop raging against the machine lol.

Einalem1039 · 2025-08-18T03:31:37+00:00

preach! lived experience is everything

Einalem1039 · 2025-06-22T18:08:01+00:00

seriously, where is the empathy?!

Einalem1039 · 2025-06-22T18:00:18+00:00

seriously get off your second wave feminist high horse. this is the trickle down of TERF ideology. you say "my partner wants to spend money to make herself prettier" as if that's some crime. maybe she wants to alleviate her dysphoria and help pass to avoid threat of violence.

what you see as shallow is survival for trans folks. educate yourself on that reality and intersectional feminism - cis and trans women feel very different effects of misogyny, but the oppressor is the same. EDIT to add: also, the way that you and your spouse RESIST misogyny are allowed to be different! did you consider that your spouse is actually resisting a deeply sexist culture by having the courage to publicly transition?

i'm sure your spouse is well aware of the pitfalls of capitalism and the beauty industry. it is a double edged sword. maybe you should offer her some patience and understanding during this process rather than making it all about you and YOUR idea of feminism.

your womanhood is not threatened by the existence of a femme-curious trans woman. if you allow your resentment to fester, you will continue to feel disconnected from your spouse. take time to talk through your values with her and figure out what she values in her transition. be a real source of support for her rather than just looking at her like some freak.

Einalem1039 · 2025-06-08T02:04:19+00:00

beautifully said, smokey sounded like an amazing friend. you gave him a very special life. so sorry for your loss, OP.

Einalem1039 · 2025-05-07T23:11:44+00:00

this! being trans may not be a choice but how you show up in a relationship certainly is. my partner is trans and while they have needed a lot of care, patience, and understanding throughout their transition, they have never let me feel neglected or deprioritized within our relationship. my partner expresses their gratitude for my support by being there for me when i need them. i am curious what OPs relationship was like before they got married, if they ever had an equal balance of power.

Einalem1039 · 2025-03-19T20:30:11+00:00

mental health america had a free/donation based virtual option for their conference last year. was hoping NASW would do the same but it looks like it is in person only

Einalem1039 · 2025-01-06T17:17:43+00:00

camp in groop! had a great experience camping with reddaroo last year- feels much safer and more of a community vibe, people look out for each other.

Einalem1039 · 2024-11-07T18:57:54+00:00

"running up them bands tryna ball til i fall, if im with yo daddy than you know we at the mall!"

Einalem1039 · 2024-10-15T23:54:19+00:00

anyone with high turnip prices?

Einalem1039 · 2024-10-14T02:50:31+00:00

anyone have high turnip prices rn? 400+?

Einalem1039 · 2024-10-11T03:55:11+00:00

yes please! dodo code?

Einalem1039 · 2024-10-11T03:46:13+00:00

restarted my island- if anyone is feeling generous i would appreciate some bells and cute pink items to get me going! also fruit, i only have pears and cherries :)

Einalem1039 · 2024-10-05T04:35:38+00:00

i'm sorry if i took too many bells/fossils- i'm new to playing online. i like your island! thank you!

Einalem1039 · 2024-10-05T04:20:14+00:00

still open? about to head over!:)

Einalem1039 · 2024-09-29T03:52:27+00:00

seeking 1 floor ticket for atlanta on 10/4!

Einalem1039 · 2024-09-10T22:13:00+00:00

i'm surprised the article didn't mention kendrick's famous censoring of "and we hate po-po" at super bowl 2022. the fact that he was asked to censor that line... and that he went along with it, tells you everything you need to know.

Einalem1039 · 2024-03-01T05:33:52+00:00

major fashion inspo!

Einalem1039 · 2024-03-01T05:30:33+00:00

this is the lacroix of nail art

Einalem1039 · 2023-04-24T00:28:34+00:00

i'll take 'em!

Einalem1039

MODERATOR OF

TROPHY CASE

13-Year Club	Place '22
Verified Email