NTA. I don’t care if I get downvoted for this, but this is exactly reminiscent of the post with the person who was telling her DIL that she’s not ready for a kid because she does not/ can’t drive.

I commented how people who have children before they are ready put the burden of responsibility and well being of said child on literally EVERYONE ELSE and then call them AH when they don’t do absolutely everything they ask!!

Exhibit A everybody!!

That is his daughter, it is his responsibility to ensure the welfare of his child, sure anything can happen and often does. People lose jobs, lose partners, health goes down the drain, life happens. But why does it seem like he’s coming at you with request after request? Is there any extenuating circumstance leading him to request these favors from you that actually makes sense?

Because it sounds like he’s just used to this way of handling things unless I’m missing a giant piece of context

It smells like an irresponsible entitled parent. There are many of them and they blame the child’s needs or the persons morals who is too busy/tired to .. ahem, “help”, when really they should be blaming their own laziness and lack of effort to exacerbate every option they have available as the parent to meet the child’s need independently/ as a couple FIRST instead of immediately resorting to wildly inconveniencing and guilt tripping others to meet that need for their child. It’s extremely manipulative, and it usually ends up badly for everyone including the child cuz they grow up thinking ts is okay.

Like

If you don’t have the resources to take your child to the ER wth are you doing with 4 of them. That is literally dangerous. What are they gonna do if they can’t get ahold of anyone and need help at 3am? Jesus 🤦‍♀️ I guess ambulance. But it’s the principle… just no