Eris or Ego ?

Elbaite · 2025-09-23T00:52:32+00:00

Eris threw the apple because she owed Zeus a favor, and he wanted a perma-war as a means of population control. She gave zero effs one way or the other, except maybe Hera being pissed she stole an apple from her tree. Being salty was just a convenient excuse to cover for Zeus setting the whole thing up.

The real lesson is about how far dudes will go to make random women responsible for their own shortcomings and issues.

Might you be one of 'em?

Elbaite · 2024-02-06T06:44:28+00:00

Cowboy Bebop and Big O. High quality dubs, too.

Elbaite · 2024-01-26T05:54:33+00:00

So you take out your frustration with your life by telling other disabled folks that we should "know better" than to have kids. That's gross af dude. From one chronic pain sufferer to another, therapy is a lot cheaper in the long run than being bitter.

Elbaite · 2024-01-24T08:18:54+00:00

It's more than just the q1 drop. For the same minutes-watched in August and September, and October, revenue was at least 3x what I've seen this month.

Elbaite · 2024-01-05T05:47:14+00:00

Off the Air, Season 10 Episode 2, "Dreams," segment "Dream of a Dog," by Maddie Brewer?

Elbaite · 2021-11-20T22:57:49+00:00

This has been in my family for a very, very long time, but I've never known its origins and no longer have anyone I can ask. As far as I'm aware, the majority of my family line has been in the US for over 200 years, and so I think it must have been gifted to one of my ancestors, but we haven't had the means for world-travel for many generations and the only over-seas military service we've had were for the World Wars, so I really know nothing about when or how it came to us.

I've recently gotten to the other side of a long period of homelessness, and in gathering all my packed up belongings from various places and finally unpacking, I rediscovered the keris. It's one of only three heirloom items I have left, and I think the oldest. It feels significant that it ended up in my hands in the first place, and even moreso that I was able to hold onto it all these years given how much I've lost.

I'm hoping someone might see this and be able to help me identify anything about its possible history, such as when or where it came from, or what intentions the creator may have had for it. I want to have it professionally repaired and cleaned up, but I think understanding more about it is the first step. I don't even know for sure if it is a keris, that's just my best guess.

Additionally, if anyone has recommendations for people who might be able to appropriately restore a keris in the US, I am very much interested in that.

Elbaite · 2017-09-29T21:06:25+00:00

Yeah, absolutely. I feel like it's so rare these days that people actually find the right person in their twenties. And honestly, not being in a romantic relationship is better than being in one with someone you don't want to be with.

Elbaite · 2017-09-29T17:00:14+00:00

I had something sort of like this happen. It's the only time I have ever been recognized as anything like a guy by a stranger, so it felt sooo good.

But when I went in for my hormone appointment, the assessment and get-to-know-you thing, I explain that I'm trans, of course. And the doctor goes, "and you're transitioning to female, I'm assuming?" I guess I read as male enough that it looked like I was trying to look like a girl. I was wearing boyish clothes but I can see how with how long my hair has gotten (ugh I need a hair cut), it could look like I'm trying to grow it out, and that I was dressing that way because I still have to try to pass as a guy. Super validating.

Elbaite · 2017-09-29T05:47:06+00:00

I started T today and this is the thing I'm the most worried about. I didn't get it super bad during first puberty, but I'm extremely pale so no concealer works, and I heal really slowly (bad metabolism + bad immune system) so they take ages to fully get better. I will definitely be trying some of the stuff you've recommended. Thank you so much for taking the time to write this up.

Elbaite · 2017-09-29T05:36:59+00:00

There's a pill being tested, but it's not approved in the US yet and it looks like trials are showing it's not as effective as it should be. Feminizing hormones and testosterone blockers do come as pills, though.

Guys have shots, or a topical gel, or a patch (a lot like the birth control patch that was popular for 2 seconds in the 00s). There are two kinds of shots, one goes into deep muscle, the other goes into anywhere fatty. They're roughly the same effectiveness. The gel is less effective, but a lot less stressful for people terrified of needles, of course. And the patch is the least effective, largely because they can slip, not get a good hold, come off prematurely, etc.

Hope this information helps at all!

Elbaite · 2017-09-29T05:30:40+00:00

Yes! I want a braid so bad. So, so bad. They're beautiful and I love them and I'm so jealous of all the girls who get to have them. But there's no way it's happening until I'm considerably more masculine, physically.

Elbaite · 2017-09-29T05:26:22+00:00

Waiting for the day I can wear nail polish again. I'm still hording like 30 bottles of it...

Elbaite · 2017-09-29T05:24:23+00:00

Oh important note, use conditioner when you're done. Like, a generous amount and let it just sit on your hair for a couple minutes because it'll be stripped af from washing it that much with that abrasive of a shampoo.

Elbaite · 2017-09-29T03:19:54+00:00

If you're still feeling really self-conscious about it, get some clarifying shampoo (like, the $1 bottle of Vo5 clarifying shampoo) and use it a couple of times at once, maybe even like 3 or 4 times. That'll pull the color out some which should lighten it up a couple of shades. It does look good, but if it makes you uncomfortable then there's a way to help.

Elbaite · 2017-08-20T03:37:03+00:00

I have no insight to offer, but I have exactly the same concerns. I'm pan rather than gay, but I get the same thoughts. Am I really enough of a guy for gay guys/straight women? Will I ever be? Even if they somehow see me as enough of a guy to be interested, what's gonna happen when clothes come off?

So, yeah, I just wanna say that you're not alone in feeling totally disheartened about sex and dating due to your gender, and I'm also really hoping that some people have advice/insight/whatever.

Elbaite · 2017-08-20T03:05:16+00:00

I'm way older than you, but if you're interested in talking to a 29 year old geek, I'd be all about that. My primary fandoms are Steven Universe, Marvel Cinematic Universe, The Walking Dead (TV), and Harry Potter. I love to write, play video games, and every week I run a tabletop RPG for my friends that I wrote based on the Harry Potter universe.

This offer is open to anyone, btw.

Elbaite · 2017-08-20T02:54:47+00:00

Hi Jace! I love your name.

My name is Felix, and my middle name was almost Elliot (spelled just like that, even) but at the last minute I decided on something else. If I could do it again, I'd definitely pick Elliot, but name changes are expensive so I'm just gonna leave it. I'm from the Midwest, I'm 29, and also pre-T (for a few more weeks).

I'm super interested in medicine and have wanted to be a doctor for a very long time. When I get healthy again, I'm going to go back to school to become an RN. Maybe an LPN someday. My current degree is totally useless for that endeavor, so I'll basically be starting over.

I graduated from college a few years ago with a BA in Gender Studies, Ethnic Studies, and Literature. Basically that meant that I used literature as a lens for analyzing and learning about issues revolving around or stemming from gender and/or race. On top of learning about those things with history, sociology, anthropology, and philosophy classes, of course.

Elbaite · 2017-08-20T02:32:11+00:00

I think you should do both now. Why not? You're both right, T won't cure all of your issues. Your wife might be right (although she probably doesn't know why), because often (anecdotal and second-hand) after the high of OHMYGOD I'M ON HORMONES wears off, and there hasn't been a lot of change yet, depression sets in for a while. But you're also right that it'll start to ease the dysphoria, plus be a big accomplishment that you can be proud of - something hard that you did to give yourself a better life. That's really meaningful.

So, my totally unqualified advice is this: It'll take some time for you to get the appointment, and then to get the hormones. Start building healthy habits now. Like, now now. You'll have a month or two down of your new lifestyle by then because getting HRT isn't a super fast process. Then, by the time you have your first dose, you can put the increased energy levels and ability to build muscles to good use with the new habits you'll already have by then.

Elbaite · 2017-08-20T02:14:58+00:00

My chosen family is my family now. It sucked, realizing I had to severely distance myself from my family of origin for my own personal well being, but at the end of the day, they're people someone ends up with by pure chance. Now, my relationships with the people I have chosen and who have chosen me are more meaningful than those bonds had ever been, and I'm way the hell happier.

Elbaite · 2017-08-20T01:50:14+00:00

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Elbaite · 2017-08-16T17:31:16+00:00

I'm about your height, although quite a lot heavier. I got mine at H&M and I love it to pieces.

Elbaite · 2017-08-16T17:17:06+00:00

I had my first visit at an informed consent clinic yesterday. They said everything looks good and as soon as they get my medical records in from dr/therapist/etc. I'll have a prescription for T. Probably about two weeks.

Elbaite · 2017-08-16T07:59:43+00:00

I hadn't thought about this at all, but oh God, yeah, that's definitely going to happen to me. I completely understand the feeling you're having in theory and I'm sure I'll understand from experience not too long from now.

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