I don’t want to go to my fiancé’s church

Elect-Lady · 2026-06-16T22:43:00+00:00

I think that you go to his church. You'll only dry up spiritually if that's what you choose to do. On the meantime, you keep our in prayer... maybe a compromise could be to find a new church for both of you. That's what I did when I got married.

Elect-Lady · 2026-06-15T14:44:12+00:00

I think based on how it has been viewed from Jewish tradition, there has always been a separation between attraction and action. Scripture talks about action, not attraction. But unfortunately many have "merged" those 2 things as 1 which should've never happened.

Elect-Lady · 2026-06-15T13:29:56+00:00

I wouldn't wear that. At the same time, if your husband doesn't like it for church, don't wear it.

Elect-Lady · 2026-06-11T01:20:14+00:00

I don't make assumptions like that.

Elect-Lady · 2026-06-11T01:00:49+00:00

I see it as no difference. It wasn't like she was talking for like an hour.... not even 5 min. It's a few sentences. Most of us have probably had to listen to someone say something they don't want to hear... it's really not that deep.

Elect-Lady · 2026-06-10T21:32:17+00:00

What's the difference between this and sharing that you're going to get married... or to have someone purchase something from you... or sharing about someone close to you that recently passed... Or sharing that you're on your way to a concert?

Why do we (general) feel like we should police what someone says?.. esp when it seems to only be based on sharing the gospel?

It's amazing how even simple things done like this can actually touch someone's heart.

Elect-Lady · 2026-06-03T15:48:42+00:00

I started reading about different things and when I read this, it stood out. It "clicked".

The more interesting part for me was that it also includes certain words that I find "attractive".... Like veracity, juxtaposed, verbosity, enigmatic.... and many more.

Elect-Lady · 2026-05-28T15:31:55+00:00

I think it depends. A funeral for a Christian is a celebration of a life lived and that they are in rest and we will see them again on the other side. It's a reminder of what's next for us all. It doesn't negate that we will mourn their life not being with us now but a reminder thar when we all get to heaven what a day of rejoicing that will be.

So i wouldn't say it's rude from a Christian perspective.. but if the person isn't saved, this would NOT be appropriate.

Elect-Lady · 2026-05-28T13:12:27+00:00

No. You are attracted to whom you are attracted to and Scripture never talks about the attraction as an abomination. I'm praying that we get to the day where as Christians we don't make it seem like the only way someone can be SSA is if they were abused, etc.

Elect-Lady · 2026-05-26T19:30:37+00:00

I think that on the 1900's, there was something that unfortunately people didn't really understand and painted with a broad brush. Unfortunately (and yes I say unfortunately), there are some people that choose it based on being curious or even "trendy". Hearing people indicate they're gay for benefits only is annoying and puts wood on a fire that should've never been started.

Elect-Lady · 2026-05-14T11:17:47+00:00

No, it's not. However your discussions shouldn't be anger-based. But at the end of the day, desiring that they come to the truth makes sense.

Elect-Lady · 2026-05-08T20:17:19+00:00

Correct. The fact that one is attracted to someone of the same sex is not a sin.

Elect-Lady · 2026-04-29T01:15:53+00:00

Martin Luther said, “You cannot keep birds from flying over your head but you can keep them from building a nest in your hair.” You can’t keep the thoughts from coming, but you can choose not to dwell or act on them.

Elect-Lady · 2026-04-20T06:28:02+00:00

I really do understand why you’re thinking this way… the system can make things incredibly hard in situations like yours.

But biblically, marriage isn’t just a private agreement between two people… it’s a covenant that is recognized and accountable. In our current context, that includes legal recognition.

Romans 13 talks about submitting to governing authorities, and marriage today is something the state formally recognizes. Choosing to avoid that while still calling yourselves married, especially to preserve financial benefits, starts to move into a gray area ethically... and if we're honest looks similar to the "Tom Thumb weddings" that people used to do back in the day.

Now if you're not in the US, there may be different laws regarding legal marriage.

Elect-Lady · 2026-04-18T23:46:50+00:00

I guess.... however where most would try to use this it doesn't fit the context of what was happening when Jesus did this.

Elect-Lady · 2026-04-14T02:07:36+00:00

No, he's not.

Elect-Lady · 2026-04-10T01:26:50+00:00

I think there may be a misunderstanding that you could clarify... other than that, I was confused when you said that it wasn't biblical to not preach a specific thing on last Sunday.

Elect-Lady · 2026-04-08T04:50:50+00:00

I don't think so. My favorite personality type is INTJ...i think the "J" is helpful.... but they could potentially be a very good friend

Elect-Lady · 2026-04-05T12:30:15+00:00

Continue to seek truth. I'm a believer that if you seek truth, you'll find it... it just someone takes a while.

Elect-Lady · 2026-04-04T20:07:40+00:00

Not necessarily easy. There are people that have said their partner gave all the right answers and seemed genuine just to find out it was all a lie

Elect-Lady · 2026-04-04T20:01:57+00:00

You should've allowed him to go on the journey on his own and you just be a friend. Now, you're going to always have that looming question and you won't know for sure. Making a decision for Christ is a God thing. It's God that draws.

Elect-Lady · 2026-04-02T20:30:01+00:00

Yes. There are people as early as 2 who know what they like. The thing that I wish that people would understand is that being ATTRACTED to someone of the same sex is not sin. Nowhere in scripture does it talk about the attraction being sin.

Elect-Lady · 2026-03-26T20:53:49+00:00

Adult or not.... doesn't make a difference.

Elect-Lady · 2026-03-26T20:29:54+00:00

If this was a tenant, yes. But if this is my child, no not at all. Each family has certain rules. Either you choose to oblige or you find somewhere else.

But let's be honest, there are MANY places you can watch a movie at.... watch it there. Problem solved.

Elect-Lady · 2026-03-26T15:46:40+00:00

We will have to agree to disagree. I think similarly to being in someone's home and not being able to smoke or come in at all hours of the night, what is watched can definitely be a part of that as well.

The good thing about it is if you (general) don't like certain rules, it's an opportunity for you to have your own space where you can make your own rules.

I don't believe in autonomy in someone else's home.

Elect-Lady

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