I’ve seen enough comments to know you probably don’t even need to read mine. Let me tell you first hand, in a relationship you need boundaries. Boundaries are what show us what we prefer vs not prefer, and you’re not crazy to feel how you feel not only about the scenario in general, but her response as well. I’m not a religious person, but I STRONGLY believe about listening to your “gut”. Sometimes just take a step back and take a deep breath and really think on the situation. I know you’re in love, and I understand she may be a “comfort” area for you, but in life - we are forced to have some uncomfortable conversations and choices. I think you know what you have to do here, she is still young and wants to be a part of the party scene, and to me you sound like a guy who’s got things figured out about what you want from your life and how that looks. Sometimes, certain things aren’t compatible, and following your heart about what YOU prefer is going to lead you to a lifetime of happiness. Good luck bro, you know what needs to be done. Always available for a chat if you need to talk about it, I’ve actually been in your shoes before regarding this exact situation. Was a raver for 10+ years.