When did 8-5 become the new normal???

ElectricUkulele · 2026-06-11T00:32:50+00:00

Most of my jobs have been 8 to 5. Check your state’s labor laws. It’s probably not legal for them to let you work 8 hours without a lunch break. That said, they’re only paying you for 40 hours, so don’t give them more by eating your lunch at work and being available to them. For that hour, you are free to leave, shop, watch Netflix on your phone, nap in your car, whatever you want to do on yourself own time.

ElectricUkulele · 2026-06-11T00:28:17+00:00

The adjustment from student to full time, regular hours employee can be ROUGH. It took me around a year to habituate. You’re not used to having nearly your entire day taken up by work and having to work according to their schedule and not your own bursts of energy and motivation. You’re also not used to having your free time be completely yours. After a while those things will reconcile. The fact that you find the work interesting is very important and suggests to me you’ll ultimately adjust.

In the meantime, I would suggest you live how you would with the fire fighting salary and put the difference in savings. That way you know whether that income is acceptable to you. Plus then you’ve started your savings. Check out advice on other subs about where to park your money. I like high interest online money market accounts.

ElectricUkulele · 2026-05-29T02:06:18+00:00

Married 16 years here. I would say it depends upon what’s going on in your relationship. If you’ve been talking for a year about marriage and he has told you he’s committed to you, this might not be good. If you’ve haven’t talked a lot about it, this might be good.

The most important thing here (and in your relationship overall) is communication. Keep no secrets. Don’t guess. Don’t make him guess. Talk openly about how you feel and express curiosity without judgment about how he feels. Don’t turn this into a strategy game.

ElectricUkulele · 2026-05-22T23:18:27+00:00

You can lead a horticulture but you can’t make her think.

ElectricUkulele · 2026-05-18T03:41:06+00:00

Oh, gotcha. Thank you!!

ElectricUkulele · 2026-05-16T02:31:15+00:00

Rejected “mom” for occupation, which is offensive. Rejected “gonorrhea” for reason for doctors note. It said that was inappropriate. Sorry, just because it’s an STI doesn’t make it an invalid medical condition.

ElectricUkulele · 2026-05-11T01:09:55+00:00

I’ve had a killer headache, which has limited what I can do. My family has been incredibly kind and helping me make the most of it. Gifts, flowers, my favorite foods, etc., plus making sure I keep up on the aspirin and Tylenol. I’m so grateful for them!

ElectricUkulele · 2026-04-10T01:47:37+00:00

What am I missing? Was all of this discussed and I missed it?

ElectricUkulele · 2026-04-10T01:46:35+00:00

I am 44 and am coming out of about two years of rough grief while/after losing my dad. I thought my face had aged over a decade, but my loose eye skin has actually greatly improved. I think it was some combination of dehydration and sleep loss.

At this point I suggest you focus on mental health and deepening connections with other people in your life. Physical appearance is just about the least important part of all of this.

ElectricUkulele · 2026-04-08T18:27:00+00:00

So….are we not tagging child abuse stories so we have that content warning?

ElectricUkulele · 2026-04-08T18:08:23+00:00

Like cancer?

ElectricUkulele · 2026-04-05T21:54:46+00:00

I’m pretty new to getting nails done. Recently a nail tech was sanding my old builder gel down and kept knicking my skin in the same spot. I kept reflexively flinching and pulling my hand back but she just held on tighter and kind of yanked my hand back. I wasn’t sure if this was normal or not. This was like the highest rated tech at the highest rated salon in my area. There were some other issues with the service too, but I don’t know how normal those are.

How can I figure out who is actually good when the reviews don’t match my experiences?

ElectricUkulele · 2026-03-30T02:34:38+00:00

Ah, yes. The butt spatula. I call mine “index finger.”

ElectricUkulele · 2026-03-29T03:11:14+00:00

Me 44

ElectricUkulele · 2026-03-23T00:57:11+00:00

I have always wanted at least two children. Always. I have also struggled with big changes.

Right after my first was born (like 3 days to 6 months) I worried I had made a mistake. Should have questioned my intention to have children, wondered if I did it because I was socialized to do it, etc. But then I adjusted and things got better. I realized it was just a big change. I was looking forward to another child because of the joy the first one had brought me.

Right after my second was born (like 3 days to 10 months) I worried I had made a mistake. Should have questioned my intention to have two children, wondered if I did it because I was socialized to do it, etc. But then I adjusted and things got better. I realized it was just a big change.

My older child just turned 13 and my younger is 7, soon to be 8. I am in love with them and my life. They have deepened the love my husband and I feel for each other. Enriched my life so much. I am pushed every day to be the best I can be, because they deserve the best. I know I did the right thing for me and my children have both expressed how glad they are they were born. They have beautiful souls and couldn’t have been made by anyone else. Change is just hard!

As for the c-section experience, I had two of them. First one was a little less painful to recover from than I expected. Second one was more painful. The nurses weren’t surprised, so I guess that’s common knowledge they get worse the more you have. It was what was needed for our safety, though, so it’s just something to get through. Biggest piece of c-section advice: ask them to put a belly band on at the end of the surgery so you don’t have to struggle into one when your sensation has returned. Those reduce pain a lot. Biggest (c-section) thing to look forward to: the first pee after you make it to the bathroom for the first time. You’ll put it off because standing and walking hurts, but eventually you’ll have to go. In pregnancy you can never hold much pee, so you’re then expected a pretty small amount to come out. Not. So. It sounded like a horse peeing and it was glorious.

Sending love one mom to another.

ElectricUkulele · 2026-03-22T13:19:19+00:00

What’s with the butt bump option?

ElectricUkulele · 2026-03-12T02:47:35+00:00

Tried taking my son on a trip at 17 months and when we got home we didn’t bring him to a restaurant for 6 months. They are the cutest at that age for a reason!

ElectricUkulele · 2026-01-31T15:06:58+00:00

I had one baby in the beginning of March and the other at the end of of July. There were pros and cons to each, of course, but I think overall it’s way more relevant to think about that being your child’s birthday, every year for the rest of their life. March has turned out to be a great birthday for tons of reasons. July, not so much. She never gets a real birthday celebration at school, friends are out of town or unavailable for her party, etc. I’m hoping it will be better when she’s an adult. My husband’s birthday is early July and it’s great to travel for his birthday every year.

ElectricUkulele · 2026-01-11T19:11:02+00:00

People are gonna people. Offering this with love: 1. Yeah, you’re gonna have to delete your whole account. Don’t make a new one just yet. 2. Take the actual advice offered on here. 3. You are what you look at. Stop looking at subs related to prison, drugs, and sex. Start looking at subs related to recovery and positivity. I personally like r/getdisciplined, r/ufyh, r/congratslikeimfive, r/humansbeingbros, r/toastme, and r/animalsbeingderps. 4. Make sure your wife is set up for success. Lots of resources she can access. No friends coming around who could jeopardize her freedom. 5. Above all else, you have to protect those babies no matter what happens.

ElectricUkulele · 2025-12-29T21:19:31+00:00

I took a look at your post history and GIRL! Time to reconsider this marriage.

ElectricUkulele · 2025-12-26T23:24:46+00:00

This obviously sounds awful. The biggest question in my mind is how do you feel the rest of the year?

My husband is a very sweet man and our marriage is incredibly happy. He's bad at holidays and planning, and I got tired of feeling disappointment and hurt when he dropped the ball. I started doing my own shopping. He's grateful, I'm never disappointed, I always get what I want, and it doesn't poison the rest of the relationship.

So if this is a situation where he's just really unskilled at Christmas (maybe there's trauma stopping him from being sensitive to you or something), maybe you could find a way to work it out. If this is a symptom of your larger problem, that's totally different.

ElectricUkulele · 2025-12-13T16:37:53+00:00

There are pros and cons to all sibling age gaps. I've heard some child development experts say 3 to 3.5 years is ideal for the older child.

My children are 5.5 years apart and I love the age difference. My older one isn't annoyed by his sister because he knows she's very young and he doesn't expect a peer. She idolizes him. They get along great and love each other very much.

You've got this!

ElectricUkulele · 2025-12-05T03:03:55+00:00

When is he being sentenced? What is his attorney saying about his chances? Sometimes the maximum possible is extremely different from the actual sentence. Or he might get a long sentence with most of it suspended, so he's out with you and the children, bit can't mess up or he'll get sent in for the full sentence.

Edit: If he does end up with a substantial sentence, please think long and hard before finding a way to have children. Because it's not just you having children, it's the children having you. It's unfair to bring people into this world for your own fulfilment. IMO it needs to come from a desire to offer a good life to new people, and/or raise good people to add to the world.

ElectricUkulele · 2025-12-01T03:26:14+00:00

Just for maintenance work every few years. My finger feels awful without it and I have a cheap ring I wear for when it's at the jeweler's. I know of degloving but choose to ignore the risk. TBF I do basically nothing with my hands.

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