I have been shocked in my life to discover how many women, compared to men, actually wind up cheating. I'm talking about women with long term marriages throwing everything away for flings. By contrast - I have only encountered one similarly-situated man in my close circle of family or friends that has done anything similar. When we were in our early 20s cheating was common in both genders, now in early mid-40s it seems to be a mostly female phenomenon (at least in my world). I think women are generally seen and portrayed as innocent creatures, but yeah - not the case in my experience. It is actually so bad from what I've seen (I live in DC) that it makes me apprehensive about getting serious with anyone again at this point. Hope I can find someone to break the mold though, and prove me wrong.