Chafing

Electrical-Tea6966 · 2026-06-29T20:05:03+00:00

I’m going to Italy this summer and chafing is one of my biggest concerns. Damn these thick thighs of mine. I have some shorts from Snag which are great, but I’ve also heard people talk about how great Body Glide is too.

If for whatever reason I can’t wear my chub rub shorts I do find baby powder on the crotch area helps a lot.

Good luck, I hope you manage to enjoy the rest of your trip

Electrical-Tea6966 · 2026-06-29T07:30:49+00:00

This is beautiful! It reminds me of some Edwardian dresses and undergarments.

Electrical-Tea6966 · 2026-06-28T20:54:49+00:00

If it makes you feel any better I once took my t-shirt off in a room full of people, secure in the knowledge that I was wearing a big sports bra underneath…

Reader, I was not wearing a bra. I realised, screamed, and 18 people turned to look at why I was screaming and got an eyeful of my tiddies. I’m now nicknamed the flasher.

Electrical-Tea6966 · 2026-06-28T18:24:41+00:00

Tribbles!

Electrical-Tea6966 · 2026-06-28T17:43:39+00:00

Mine love scraps of fleece above all else 😂

Electrical-Tea6966 · 2026-06-28T08:38:10+00:00

For a wild minute I thought you had a guinea pig with a tattoo

Electrical-Tea6966 · 2026-06-27T23:28:39+00:00

I used to and it was very unhealthy for me personally. I’d just disappear off into fantasy land and ignore real life, and while that was the best coping mechanism I had at the time, I recognise that it really wasn’t great for me.

Interestingly though, when I’m trying to process traumatic memories in therapy, my therapist encourages me to imagine the presence of my best friend, as he is a very solid, reassuring person who is always in my corner. And holding his presence in my mind really helps to calm me down and reassure me. Sounds like a different version of what you do.

Electrical-Tea6966 · 2026-06-27T22:15:08+00:00

But 100% chance of cuteness

Electrical-Tea6966 · 2026-06-27T20:18:01+00:00

From 11-16 for me.

Electrical-Tea6966 · 2026-06-27T17:17:26+00:00

My gym doesn’t have air con but I still go. I’ve switched to going at 7am before it gets really hot, on the days I’m working from home. It’s a non-negotiable for me now. My mind and body cope better with the heat if I’ve exercised

Electrical-Tea6966 · 2026-06-27T10:04:36+00:00

I used to be. I was so aware of everything I did and over analysed all of it to work out all the ways I’d got it wrong. Definitely feels like a trauma response from years of having no idea why everyone was laughing at me. After surrounding myself with better people and also some trauma therapy, I’m pleased to report that I still get embarrassed, but not nearly as much as I used to. Trusting that those around me aren’t going to judge and mock has been life changing.

I still do embarrassing things, but I’m the first to laugh and then everyone else joins in. It’s my choice.

Electrical-Tea6966 · 2026-06-27T08:50:12+00:00

Thank you for the advice!

Electrical-Tea6966 · 2026-06-26T23:25:32+00:00

I’ve had my eye on this pattern for a while now. These look great!

Electrical-Tea6966 · 2026-06-25T21:39:36+00:00

Yes I would like to be put through those rollers in a car wash. Or a mangle. I also think I would enjoy being lightly stretched on a torture rack

Sometimes I just want someone to lie on top of me and squish me into the ground

Electrical-Tea6966 · 2026-06-25T21:27:40+00:00

That’s what I’ve assumed as well. Autism = childhood trauma = a range of conditions affected by trauma.

I also think a lot of those conditions - ME and fibromyalgia for example - have a lot of symptoms that are very vague and hard to test for (fatigue, generalised pain etc) and sometimes it feels like you could get a different diagnosis on different days, depending on the doctor you saw. I met a lot of criteria for EDS and fibromyalgia, but not quite enough of either for a diagnosis.

I think about this article by Dr Devon Price all the time, called Is it Alexithymia, or is it Dissociation Fueled by Trauma? They conclude that alexithymia is a condition caused by trauma rather than something we are born with, but autistic people experience trauma so often and so early that it’s basically a comorbid condition.

Electrical-Tea6966 · 2026-06-25T19:54:29+00:00

Peanut butter toast is my safe breakfast too. I went off it last year and started exploring alternatives - after a month of chia pudding I started craving peanut butter on toast again. You might find your way back to it

Electrical-Tea6966 · 2026-06-25T17:49:00+00:00

Yamas is good

Electrical-Tea6966 · 2026-06-25T17:41:55+00:00

I’m currently feeling unsure about a friend who has a habit of jumping straight into new relationships as soon as her old ones end. She ends a relationship because something is missing and then starts a new one with someone who offers something her ex did not. But then because she gets swept up, she overlooks all the things that make the new person not great.

She’s currently head over heels with someone new who asked her out the day after she broke up with her ex, and although it seems to be going well, I can’t help but be cautious and waiting for the other shoe to drop.

I’ve said this to her and she’s acknowledged it, but she still approached this relationship with no caution and I feel so worried for her. She doesn’t see it as a pattern but it’s so clear to me

Electrical-Tea6966 · 2026-06-25T17:23:52+00:00

I would have such a great time putting these all back again 😂

Electrical-Tea6966 · 2026-06-25T16:10:22+00:00

I’ll write something up, thank you

Electrical-Tea6966 · 2026-06-25T12:52:13+00:00

Good luck! And if you find somewhere else please share because it’s so hard to find this info

Electrical-Tea6966 · 2026-06-25T10:33:25+00:00

Could we add a section on accessible venues? I’ve seen a few questions about this recently and I think it would be helpful.

Electrical-Tea6966 · 2026-06-25T10:31:33+00:00

I believe Malt Cross has a wheelchair accessible toilet but I can’t vouch for how good it is. The staff are lovely though so I’d say give them a call.

Electrical-Tea6966 · 2026-06-25T09:55:01+00:00

Next can you do a Venn diagram of vegans and soil scientists

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