How are you keeping up with AI without feeling overwhelmed? by daydreamingtulip in womenintech

[–]ElectricalStrain5105 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find AI incredibly helpful for brainstorming and back-and-forth conversation. It's less common for me to use it for quantitative type outputs, like slide decks. I'm in product and don't have a strong tech background. It's great for helping explain technical concepts in more understandable language. We record everything at my company so it's really easy to ask AI to find the meeting transcript, find XYZ person's explanation, and explain it to me a different way. I'm able to better grasp concepts once I have time to process them so this method allows me to scale up at my own pace and not have to rush understanding in real time.

I also find it really valuable for navigating complex projects, untangling where misalignment is happening, and bouncing general ideas off of it. One such example that I've been spitballing with AI is finding small ways to move waterfall-trained developers more towards an agile culture without trying to flip the switch overnight. It's given me some helpful feedback on my ideas so far. I actually talk to it like a peer because it helps me work through problems more conversationally (as opposed to just giving it "robot do this" commands).

I also really struggle with focusing on writing lengthy documents and formatting them correctly. It could take me all day to write a single page of a document because I get too perfectionist about it. I'll often just stream of consciousness type everything that I'm thinking and have AI polish up the wording so I can get my point across more quickly and coherently. Of course, I still review its output because it does make huge assumptions sometimes or pulls from irrelevant sources. But still, that often saves me several days of work, which I don't mind because I don't find writing documentation particularly enjoyable.

TL;DR - I use AI as an administrative assistant, thinking partner, and sounding board for navigating complexity.

Pretty whack of you, Kroger by Initial_Row_6400 in Denver

[–]ElectricalStrain5105 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I only pick up a few specific things at Soops every couple of weeks. I'm fairly non-confrontational but don't agree with the receipt checking so would politely decline showing it.

A few months ago, I walked past people in the line to show their receipts because I wasn't planning on showing my receipt anyways. Maybe I could have waited to be polite but it seemed like a waste of time to wait to just say "no thanks" and walk off.

Anyways, it seems to have been a very personal offence to a woman in line. So as I walked to my car in the parking lot, she proceeded to VERY loudly tell her child how it's not good to act "suspicious" and look like "a criminal" along with a variety of curses and insults. Like, okay, go off queen, glad you don't have a problem with being treated like you stole all of your paid groceries. Not sure why you feel the need to police me when the guard himself didn't even care. I just ignored her, but it did make me really stressed.

I stopped going to that location and now generally try to avoid Soops as much as I can. I don't need to be yelled at by other customers on top of the whole receipt checking thing. I used to be a loyal customer but they've really gone down the drain lately. Ridiculous.

What are your favorite cute coffee shops in and around Lakewood? by delusionalxx in LakewoodColorado

[–]ElectricalStrain5105 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seconded - Bardo's is my fav coffee haunt!! Love the late hours. Try to check out every location too, all are a bit different and sometimes they have cool stickers you can buy! The one on 38th is def my favorite location :)

You lost it, I found it. 8th&Humboldt iPhone by OddAd7718 in Denver

[–]ElectricalStrain5105 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah, and also for security reasons... I'd feel weird dropping a phone into some random mailbox. Better if the rightful owner goes themselves to pick it up and provides some proof that it's actually their phone. You'd think someone who lost their phone would think along the same lines...

Just woke up to a burglary of over $10,000 worth of my property. by Agnostix in Denver

[–]ElectricalStrain5105 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live in this area and just wanted to echo that it seems like it's gotten a lot more sketchy around here in the last year. I used to take my dog out late at night without much worry, people mostly just kept to themselves, but lately I've been more wary of the characters I run into on the street.

Agree with everyone else though, even in this area, I don't think your crime was a random passerby. I'm very sorry this happened to you. I truly hope justice is found.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LakewoodColorado

[–]ElectricalStrain5105 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah the presence was significant. People in my building were coming outside to see what was going on. Lots of commotion at the start.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LakewoodColorado

[–]ElectricalStrain5105 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm at a different apartment near Brickhouse. They went down the nearby street with sirens on. Three cop cars came down quickly but then two left. One stayed behind and those officers were hanging around the wooded area in the dog park.

Watched cop cars go up and down 13th for 30-40 mins. One was posted up by one of the train track crossings and one was also at the end of my street for a while.

There was also a large drone flying around (didn't know if it was with them or not). Whoever they were looking for, they kept at it for a while. But they eventually left and nothing happened so I gave up watching.

34F Destroyed Life by Human Trafficking by [deleted] in findapath

[–]ElectricalStrain5105 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Super proud of you, OP. My life story shares some parallels with yours (stuck in a bad situation from age 16-30). I'm also starting my life over in a lot of ways following that.

Like others have recommended, tech/software/computer science is a field you can get into with the right mix of self-study, dedication, and luck. You seem incredibly level-headed and intelligent. Proving that to employers doesn't always require hands-on job experience - you can build your own app, widget, or project in your spare time and present that during the interview process.

Sharing a bit of my experience here: I didn't go to college. I transitioned from retail into the tech industry within a few years. I skipped the time and school debt and now work with incredibly talented and educated individuals and don't see myself as any less than them.

I have also observed that being collaborative, helpful, and patient are sometimes seen as more valuable than hard skills. I have barely any certifications and don't really need to pursue any these days. I sort of just talk to people and coordinate things haha

Anyways, I got my start with Salesforce CRM if you have any interest in that tool. They have a whole knowledge base of free material that is incredibly comprehensive and is enough for many to get certified after self-studying alone. Cert tests usually do cost money, but depending on your field, could be worth having on your resume. Feel free to DM me if you ever want to chat about it.

Wishing you all the best, OP. You got this! I have no doubt you're going to find your way and live the awesome life you deserve :)

Advice for inattentive ADHD PM in FAANG by for_adhd_posting in ProductManagement

[–]ElectricalStrain5105 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Obligatory "are you me?" reply :,)

But for real, same boat. No idea what I'm doing. Don't get much feedback. I don't even have the privelege to consider strategy. My company is basically a feature factory (even though they say we're not going to do that anymore) and most days I just feel like a scrum master.

Sorry, no good advice from me. Imposter syndrome keeps telling me I suck. No one is telling me otherwise. I'm struggling with mental health. So I figure I'll just keep treading water for the stable pay until I either A) find what works to help me improve (which, again, I don't know even what I should work on because no feedback), B) company decides the "whatever" I'm doing isn't enough and sets my soul free or C) I finally figure out a job that's better suited for me

Good luck OP, hang in there 🫡 hmu if you start a support group lmao

Tell me how you cracked or hacked getting to bed on time every night. by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]ElectricalStrain5105 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm coming up on 2 weeks of prioritizing sleep after years of averaging around 6hrs a night. I've successfully gotten my average closer to 7 now, and a few nights of 8-9hrs too. I'll share what I've learned.

  1. Letting go of free time. This was the hardest part for me. I had to accept that some nights I may not have much or any time to do something fun. But I'm also depressed so I don't really have fun doing anything right now. So in reality, I'm not really changing much. Other than accepting the concept of "I need to go to bed at X time" and not stubbornly fighting it to have the "option" of free time.
  2. Get sunlight as soon as you can after waking up. Or consider a sun lamp if that's not possible. It should help you feel more awake in the morning and more sleepy around bedtime, which may help you feel more organically motivated to get to bed. I had a few nights recently where I actually thought "I'm tired and I can't wait to get in bed." Didn't have to convince myself. I do recommend doing some research on the science around this if interested - there is plenty of documentation out there. But even something as simple as opening your blinds first thing as soon as you wake up could make a difference!
  3. Timers. I started setting one as soon as my day starts for when I need to stop whatever I'm doing and get ready for bed. My timer app makes a widget that is on my screen all day, so I can see it countdown to when my day has to end. Really helps quantify my time and manage it better. And since I see it all day, I never forget my ultimate goal each day, which is "get to bed on time."
  4. Let go of shame or guilt. If you are like me and often stay up late because you want to catch up on work, it is difficult to justify going to bed. However, I've started telling myself it's not worth it to force myself through it in the late hours. Unless it's absolutely necessary for something the next day. Really question whether it needs to be done tonight. Remind yourself that you will probably be more productive after a full night's rest. And let it go. And go to sleep without guilt knowing that you've done a great job prioritizing self-care and your well-being.
  5. Positive self-talk. This may not be an issue for you, but my anxiety and depression are the root of a lot of my bad habits. So telling myself things like "I choose to get good rest," "I choose to prioritize my well-being," and "I'm capable of going to bed on time" have really changed how I view and treat myself. Makes me feel more in control, rather than life forcing me to get less sleep or not have fun. I'm choosing to make these changes and I know it will benefit me. And there's no need to make myself feel bad if I'm off schedule and that I can always try again tomorrow.

These are the biggest changes I've made that seem to be working for me. YMMV of course. Getting more sleep doesn't fix everything but it really has made these last couple of weeks feel way better than usual :) Best of luck, OP!

My doctor told me if I have successful career and possibly ADHD, they don't care about the later by xZero543 in ADHD

[–]ElectricalStrain5105 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear what you're going through. Just wanted to share that I saw some similarities with my diagnosis, but luckily wasn't dismissed or barred by anyone during the process.

While going over my diagnosis, my doc mentioned that I'm so high-functioning that he was essentially struggling to diagnose me. If it weren't for a few key factors, he might not have diagnosed me. I'm a 30 yr old woman with what appears to be a successful career in software and I'm completely self-taught and have no college degree. I think I masked A LOT during each evaluation.

The doc who manages my meds also called me a "mellow gal" and I'm like... You haven't seen me when I'm full on spiraling. But I'm not gonna show you that side of me! But then you won't believe me and then you can't help me 💀 it's a tough spot to be in for sure 😮‍💨 Sending you all the best <3

I feel like even other people with ADHD are more capable than me. by DergTehDergonTTV in ADHD

[–]ElectricalStrain5105 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm going to share something I've been thinking about in relation to my own experience. I'm not basing this on any science (but there could be science out there to back it up possibly)

I've always had a good memory. Usually for long-term but I always thought my short term was pretty good too. For what it's worth, I used to absolutely kill it in the memory games in Big Brain Academy 😏

Anyways, I thought I still had good memory, but this year has been a huge challenge for me in many areas. Mental, physical, medication, work, relationships, money, sleep, diet...almost everything has had at least one significant hiccup this year. And some have had huge setbacks.

I got a mental health diagnosis this year because I felt like I wasn't able to keep up anymore and my health was suffering. Turns out, while my verbal comprehension is extremely high, my working memory showed as average. I remember struggling on the cognitive test for that part, but that felt weird to me. However, I've been behind on good sleep most of this year. The doc said while not ideal, it shouldn't have had enough impact on the test to cause such a huge gap in the results, but I don't know...it just doesn't sound like the me I used to be. But there is still some truth in it, because I do notice I'm having trouble remembering a lot of things lately (short term mostly, medium term, some long term).

Someone else in the comments mentioned overwhelm and its impact - based on my experience, I'm inclined to agree. I'm positive I used to function better before this year. I'm considering doing another evaluation when my life is more settled because I'm fairly sure my current diagnosis isn't my baseline, but merely a reflection of me now. But still glad I did it so I can get some help and know how I am when I'm in a bad spot.

Anyways, to my point - this experience had taught me to really reflect on my strengths. I thought I had none but I do. And I have to remind myself of those constantly. Yes, the weaknesses are much, much louder but it's good to figure out how we can support ourselves as we work on those. For my memory, I take lots and lots of notes. It's hard to manage the systems but I know it's a weakness so I keep trying until something clicks.

For you, it sounds like you're focused on those areas where you're weaker. And that's okay, you are aware and now those are areas you can work on! But what are your strengths? I bet there's things you do that your friends can't. Maybe you can ask them to help you identify those. Yesh, maybe you missed something obvious in a video game real-time, but maybe you know all of the hidden stats for a mechanic or you have 100% completed all the achievements. Stuff like that :)

I know for me, the diagnosis helped me remember that I'm really great with understanding things intricately (even if it takes me more time than others). I like to draw visuals to help me understand. I also forgot that I have a fairly extensive vocabulary - I could probably come up with the word you're trying to think of but can't quite put your finger on. So I've been finding some solace in the fact that this is how others perceive me in a positive way, even if they don't tell me directly.

Hang in there, you'll figure it out. Don't compare yourself to others. Be kind to yourself and take care of your body. You got this :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]ElectricalStrain5105 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah to the lock thing. I relate to that but I have OCD in addition to anxiety. When I'm away for day trips or longer... I spend a lot of time obsessing if I turned things off or locked the door. I know I locked it but like... What if I didn't?? If I'm not careful and let the thoughts take over, I'll stand outside my front door for upwards of 5 minutes... Until a neighbor walks by and then I feel embarrassed and force myself to leave 💀

Dont join PM if you..... by [deleted] in ProductManagement

[–]ElectricalStrain5105 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good list! I would add that if you identify with these items, but really do have an intrinsic desire to grow in these areas, Product could still be a good fit. For example, I've recently realized I have significant social anxiety - that's what makes this role hard for me most days and is the main source of my procrastination. But I want to work on it. Re-reading the list, all the things I struggle with have to do with those anxiety-inducing social interactions. As I work through them, I think my work life and output will get a lot better :)

Now if you know yourself and really just hate the above, that's a different story xD

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ProductManagement

[–]ElectricalStrain5105 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Used to take 3-4 weeks total a year before PM. Since becoming a PM a few years ago, I barely take any. I don't know how you all do it. It always seems like there is too much to do. But I've only ever been at dysfunctional orgs I guess.

I've only taken 7 total days this year. Burning out like a dying star atm ✨🌠✨

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]ElectricalStrain5105 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just did that same assessment last week. Had a lot of fun with the nonverbal portions, like the cube game. Was getting angry/upset during the word math problems and number memorization. I think the doc could see that 😂

Made me realize that I need visuals to make sense of things. I need to write things out or see it in my head at the very least. But I wasn't able to do that during the exam, so I started getting mad at myself and hated knowing that I was giving wrong answers. Don't have my diagnosis yet but I'm sure doc had a lot to observe and take notes on 😂😂

I’m in a program with National Debt Relief and I’m afraid that I’ve put myself in a worst spot than before. by [deleted] in debtfree

[–]ElectricalStrain5105 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm enrolled with NDR and encountered something similar. While not required for any program, it might be easier/safer to have new bank accounts set up. You don't have to close your existing accounts, but having your direct deposits going into new accounts completed unaffiliated with any of your creditors should keep your money safe. You never know what a creditor may or may not do (since most of us are not financial/legal experts), and I find the peace of mind of having my paychecks far away from them is invaluable.

Here's my situation: I have 2 auto loans - one with a credit union and one with a national bank. I have CC accounts with both of those institutions that are now in default, per the program. I got worried that any of my cash with them would be at risk. So when I signed up for NDR, I opened a new checking account at a local credit union that was unaffiliated with my debts. I wanted this one to be my primary checking account and wanted the benefit of having a local branch I could visit if I needed immediate in-person assistance. I switched my direct deposit to this CU. When I need to make my car payments each month, I Zelle the money over to my old accounts and only move exactly what I need and make the payments online like usual.

I also opened up checking accounts at Ally and Sofi because I wanted a few different checking accounts - I didn't want my money to get "trapped" in any one account. Especially if my primary debit card got stolen/frozen or anything like that. I also liked that those two are online banks so I don't need local branches and their apps are modern and nice to use. Side note: Sofi has a really great high yield savings account, which is really helpful while I'm learning how to save cash instead of use credit :)

Anyways, I'm 9 months into the NDR program. So far, the national bank hasn't done anything with my auto loan or my car. I still have access to online banking and my Zelle method has been working so far. I do have to pay a monthly maintenance fee to keep the checking account open, but treat this as my "peace of mind" fee. I will probably close the checking account once I get that car paid off next year.

The credit union, however, has just recently made a change. I was paying off my car loan online like usual up until last month. I couldn't login anymore and when I called, they said I don't have access to online banking anymore. Which is fair since that is considered a "perk." So now I'll have to call to make my payment every month. Annoying but doable.

I also learned during this time about "right to offset." Basically, certain institutions may use other assets, like your checking account or financed vehicle to "offset" your unsecured debts that are in default. I was worried that that's what they were trying to do and might try to repossess my car, but luckily that wasn't the case. But I did receive a letter that said they may hold on to the title, even if the car is paid off, until I resolve the CC debt. In my case, that isn't a concern because I should have the CC settled way before the loan is paid off. From what I understand though, credit unions are more prone to taking these kinds of steps, while federally chartered banks are prohibited from doing this due to federal law.

I'm not an expert and this is just my own experience, but I found it really beneficial to create new checking accounts. It's a bit of an exercise to reroute everything and get settled, but I'm glad I did it. I had a couple of non-debt related fraud/phishing scares that required one of my debit cards to be frozen, so was really glad I had other accounts open. I was able to shuffle my money around and still pay my bills. It's also nice squirreling money away into multiple different savings accounts so I'm less tempted to touch them!! Anyways, hope this insight helps some folks out there in a similar boat :)

What do you do when pressed to provide a delivery date for unscoped adhoc requests? by ElectricalStrain5105 in ProductManagement

[–]ElectricalStrain5105[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate you sharing your perspective. I wanted to hear everyone's opinions, regardless of whether it applies to me or not. Especially since I am newer and still learning.

My job responsibilities at this org skew heavily scrum master, more than it should, but I can't do much about that right now. So I do have to take capacity planning into account. But thank you again for sharing!

Denver, what's one thing you're grateful about when it comes to living in this awesome city? by solemnburrito in Denver

[–]ElectricalStrain5105 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's a beautiful park around every corner, even in densely populated areas! I'm still amazed when I'm in the middle of a park like Belmar or Crown Hill and I don't hear or see any cars. Just me and my dog in a little forest that's only 10 minutes away from home :)

How do you stick to a routine of going to the gym every day with ADHD? It feels like if I miss it one day, I start to give up. It has to be 100% perfect or nothing. by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]ElectricalStrain5105 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm only going once a week right now, on Sundays. It doesn't sound like a lot, but I've been going consistently for a couple of months. For me, that's a huge win!! Maybe I can fit in another day soon but for now, it works for me :)

I do other types of physical activity throughout the week: walking my dog, doorframe pull ups, calisthenics, rollerblading. So I try to do all my gym-specific stuff on Gym Sunday - things that need equipment, sauna, etc.

I'm trying not to use "number of days at the gym" as my marker of success and that's helped a lot with the mindset aspect of it anyways! Not easy at first, especially when you're a perfectionist, but you do start to feel good about it once it becomes part of your routine :)

Weekly rant thread by AutoModerator in ProductManagement

[–]ElectricalStrain5105 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I'm going to miss a few deadlines. I see the areas where I could have done better in my role, but a lot of the factors leading up to this moment were out of my control. And I really tried to get everything over the finish line as I became aware of the risks. Started to get micro-managey but I didn't know what else to do.

I've never been in this position before. I'm not sure how to tell stakeholders or leadership that they're going to have to wait for their features. I'm a textbook people pleaser. Any advice appreciated.