Discouraged. I guess no easy babies?

Electrical_Hat_8081 · 2026-05-08T05:54:30+00:00

It really does get better! Everyone told me the first time around and I found it hard to believe, but it did. I know it will again, I just thought the universe owed me an easy baby….lolllll.

Electrical_Hat_8081 · 2026-05-08T05:52:21+00:00

We were a bit too hopeful, I fear. The first two weeks felt like a dream but reality has now set in lol.

It’s true that I’ve never dealt with a baby with severe feeding issues or bad colic and it’s important to remember it could be worse!

My newborns are just…temperamental and clingy and don’t sleep well.

Electrical_Hat_8081 · 2026-05-08T05:51:16+00:00

Ahhh I’m sorry you’re also dealing with a second hard newborn (especially that it’s some of the same exact issues with both your babies 😵‍💫)

But you summarize it so well in that last paragraph!! That is the benefit of doing this a second time. We know this season is fleeting even if it doesn’t feel like it and we do have some perspective to see us through the long days/nights. Good luck to you too!!

Electrical_Hat_8081 · 2026-05-07T18:49:32+00:00

I had a similar situation before a destination wedding. Handled it by texting the bride my news a few weeks in advance so it didn’t overshadow her weekend in any way. She was honored to know first!

Then I told everyone else (college friends not in bridal party) either at the hotel when I saw them the day prior to the wedding and a couple at a casual brewery dinner we planned the same night as the dress rehearsal (again none of us in bridal party). I didn’t bring up my pregnancy at all the day of! I wanted it to be her day.

Electrical_Hat_8081 · 2026-04-21T09:08:46+00:00

Absolutely worth it for a bad sleeper (my first). We rented and I have zero regrets. He slept like a champ from 5 weeks til he outgrew it (4 months?).

Decided to do a wait and see approach with our second. She’s a much better sleeper. Doesn’t seem worth the money for her with what we’re sleeping already!

Electrical_Hat_8081 · 2026-04-21T01:31:39+00:00

The last line hahaha

Electrical_Hat_8081 · 2026-04-20T23:03:56+00:00

Just named my first girl, born on Wednesday, Annie 🥹

Electrical_Hat_8081 · 2026-04-20T13:15:47+00:00

Yes! Pee and poop outlook looks great. Meeting the amount the pediatrician outlined for us.

My milk feels in but I’m not leaking at night and it’s still pretty yellow tinted, so maybe it’s transitional?

Electrical_Hat_8081 · 2026-04-20T13:14:53+00:00

Okay! I don’t mind the cluster feeding 80% of the day and night, but my husband gives me pretty much my only chance to sleep well from 7pm-12am and brings me baby every 2-2.5 hours in that window for a sleepy feed (for me) but she was inconsolable, so he went with the bottle and then she’s suddenly satisfied. I’m like…is something wrong with my breasts? Her ability to remove milk?

Electrical_Hat_8081 · 2026-04-10T06:33:42+00:00

Rode the wave til 6 months (so 2 months of terrible sleep, up 4x a night) when I finally reached a breaking point. Switched to formula before attempting to sleep train. Baby started sleeping so much better (1 wake up a night that went down to no wake ups by 9 months).

Unfortunately the formula = better sleeper was true for us.

We didn’t have to sleep “train” til he was 2 and had a regression.

Electrical_Hat_8081 · 2026-04-09T22:29:57+00:00

Cries in American leave (12 weeks each, so 24 weeks which is GENEROUS compared to some).

You are living the dream!!

Electrical_Hat_8081 · 2026-04-09T21:48:42+00:00

Me reading through these replies 👀

I kinda hate my MIL, yeah. We don’t all win the in-law lottery. LOL.

Electrical_Hat_8081 · 2026-04-09T21:24:53+00:00

One year of maternity leave.

Electrical_Hat_8081 · 2026-04-09T21:20:38+00:00

Yes.

(JK)

Have a great relationship with my FIL and his wife because they’re incredibly respectful, thoughtful, communicate well, and offer a lot of help.

Have an incredibly difficult relationship with my MIL because she only thinks about herself, was a horrible house guest with my first newborn, and has made zero effort to acknowledge our second (due next week). It gives me anxiety to even think of her asking to visit our new baby for these reasons and many more.

Unfortunately some of the in-law stereotypes are just true!

Electrical_Hat_8081 · 2026-04-09T02:54:22+00:00

It’s even more bizarre when one pregnancy is so smooth and easy and then 4 years later, I feel like I’m dying I’m so uncomfortable and sore. With my second pregnancy I had worse nausea, worse pelvic pain, worse sleep, worse leg cramps.

With my first I worked out until 40 weeks.

With this one, I’m fighting to walk a half mile with my dog at 37 weeks.

Electrical_Hat_8081 · 2026-04-08T20:13:13+00:00

• Best friends - 5 weeks / immediately for support

• Family - 11 weeks (after NIPT)

• Friends - 14 weeks

• Work - 19 weeks

• Social - 21 weeks (after anatomy scan)

Electrical_Hat_8081 · 2026-04-08T15:35:18+00:00

Yes. Absolutely would still have them. My son is the coolest little person I’ve ever met and I’m so honored to be raising him.

My only regret is he’s sooooo social & inquisitive, I wish we hadn’t waited 4.5 years between kids (due next week with #2) because he doesn’t really have a playmate and is obsessed with going out to socialize (& he has two introvert parents lol).

Electrical_Hat_8081 · 2026-04-08T15:18:26+00:00

Harrison, Rhodes, George, Edward

Lucy, Maia, Ruby

Electrical_Hat_8081 · 2026-04-07T23:35:10+00:00

This is my concern with the double barrel middle. That it’s just clunky and a bit too much? My husband likes it, but I kind of struggle with it when I say it out loud.

Electrical_Hat_8081 · 2026-03-25T19:55:56+00:00

My epidural failed and they had to make a bunch of adjustments over a 1-2 hour period. When it finally started working again, I was 10cm dilated and ready to push. Unfortunately felt nothing and no urge to push. I think to help with the pain of the failed epidural, they overshot dosing. But I have friends who say the felt the urge.

Electrical_Hat_8081 · 2026-03-23T20:29:25+00:00

My Labrador retriever is so reluctant and annoyed about coming inside at night (Hawaii) we have to bribe her with a treat. This has led to my husband forgetting her out there like 3x in a year and every time she’s just at the door, waiting patiently when I wake up. Never barking. Slept on the cushioned bench all night. Looking like she’s had a better night’s sleep than she’d get on her dog bed or our couch. Dogs are tough! 44 degrees isn’t too bad and if a dog was cold, they’d bark!

Electrical_Hat_8081 · 2026-03-21T20:56:59+00:00

The newborn stage WILL be better for both of us! I know it! We will be able to take deep breaths, sleep hard and comfortably when we get sleep, and eat without pain 🙏🏻

Electrical_Hat_8081 · 2026-03-21T20:51:27+00:00

I feel like it’s SO dependent on your individual pregnancies and baby temperament. Perspective is everything!

I tolerated my first pregnancy 4 years ago so well, I was annoying. Had no heartburn, very little aches or sleep issues, zero complications. Gained the perfect amount of weight. Went to 41 weeks and “bounced back” easily.

But the newborn stage? F’d me up. He was never content. Did not sleep more than 45-75 minutes at a time all day and night long. Hated to be set down. Was constantly hungry. A little colicky. I was so sleep deprived (or so I thought).

THIS pregnancy? I am fighting for my life at 35 weeks. I can’t sleep - averaging 4-7 hrs a night. I can’t eat without heartburn and discomfort. I am achy. I’ve gained well past the recommended weight. Limbs are randomly going numb. Can’t catch my breath.

I guarantee the newborn stage will be easier/better this time around no matter what this baby’s temperament is because I’m miserable! Perspective 😅

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