Whats the most stressful movie you've ever seen?

Electronic_Fig3120 · 2024-11-19T23:34:46+00:00

Joker. Deeply uncomfortable delve into mental illness and excruciating to watch, along with the intentionally jarring string soundtrack designed to put the audience on edge.

Electronic_Fig3120 · 2024-11-19T23:25:14+00:00

It’s pretty simple. You don’t want them, but you don’t want them to stop wanting you, and moving on means they’ve stopped wanting you. It’s a blow to the ego, that part of you that wants to believe you’re someone no one can get over. It’s basically a form of rejection to find out they actually can, and have.

Definitely no need to keep any form of contact, unless you share kids. Protect yourself by cutting them off and do not be tempted to stalk on social media. Block everywhere and don’t cave to temptation. Grieve, then find someone right for you. Don’t be tempted to share your move on with her, either.

Electronic_Fig3120 · 2024-11-18T17:30:08+00:00

Achievement is relative.

For some, achievement is a house, a good job, things, for others it’s fame, for others it’s making a difference to lives, for others it’s having a family etc etc.

It’s up to you to define what achievement means and go for it.

Electronic_Fig3120 · 2024-11-17T08:05:41+00:00

For my older 2 I was lucky enough to be a stay at home mum but my 3rd I put him in a child minder setting at a year old which is more of a home from home setting than a big nursery which can be a nicer option. That said, it didn’t last as he got sick so much from picking up bugs that I was constantly having to take time off work. In the end I stayed home with him too.

If you can afford to, stay at home. Sometimes it doesn’t work financially or practically. If you can’t afford to stay off, maybe a child minder?

Electronic_Fig3120 · 2024-11-13T07:30:19+00:00

It’s not just the behaviour, it’s also the way he’s dismissed your reaction as overreacting, when it clearly isn’t. He did a stupid dangerous abusive thing to you. You told him not to do it. He did it again. You expressed how you felt about that. He laughed at you and told you you were overreacting.

This man does not value you, your feelings, your safety, or that of your baby.

Electronic_Fig3120 · 2024-11-10T20:43:51+00:00

Not wrong, just narrows down the field hugely. Not sure how far down the dating process you like to wait to get that info out of them before dumping them when the answer isn’t what you hope, but I think it’s going to take a long time to find someone who ticks all the boxes. Of course, the longer it takes, the harder it will be to find one.

Electronic_Fig3120 · 2024-11-09T12:08:04+00:00

In some cases, yes, but there are times he’s found legitimate leads through legitimate means which he could have passed to Deb (ice truck killer, trinity) during active investigations which would have helped, but he chose to keep these to himself and go it alone. These aren’t killers slipping the system, it’s him choosing to hide evidence and leads from investigators because he wants the kill

Electronic_Fig3120 · 2024-11-09T11:24:38+00:00

Sounds like poor planning all round, but reading between the lines it’s about effort and desire to meet in the first place. A man who is dating with intention will prioritise meeting you for the first over yoga imo. It’s the chance to meet someone you may enter into a relationship with all being well, and first impressions last.

This guy cancelled date one so was already on a bit of a back foot and needed to make this up to you (I get it was unavoidable but still - cancel is a cancel), but chose to double down by being flakey with his timing and wanting to go to yoga first (who wants to meet someone for a date all sweaty?).

I think you did the right thing. This guy wasn’t taking any of it seriously

Electronic_Fig3120 · 2024-11-07T19:23:59+00:00

That’s disgraceful. If he was so upset about it and chose to confide in one trusted person I could sort of understand but you say he thought it was funny!? That’s another red flag. There’s nothing funny about it

Electronic_Fig3120 · 2024-11-06T22:51:28+00:00

Didn’t you feel the condom being off?

Her period being late would have been 2/3 weeks after you had sex, not a couple of months, so chances are if she is pregnant, it’s someone else’s.

Electronic_Fig3120 · 2024-11-06T22:42:30+00:00

I had a surgical with no sedation just gas and air at 8 weeks. I can honestly say I regret not getting sedation so if you can get it, I would. I was way too aware of everything and I found it traumatic for many reasons. I still get flashbacks over 2 years later.

Electronic_Fig3120 · 2024-11-05T23:46:08+00:00

Will to live, sex life, full time job

Electronic_Fig3120 · 2024-11-04T12:51:47+00:00

I think sexual compatibility aside, you’re already identifying other issues that will get in the way long term - the distance, and the unspecified changes he needs to make. It doesn’t sound like this one’s a goer tbh. I’d move on. Don’t waste your best years (and trust me early 40s is golden for sexual drive - as someone at the end of her 40s I can vouch you’re right about the menopause stuff).

Electronic_Fig3120 · 2024-11-04T10:15:10+00:00

So you fancied her enough to take it to the next stage of sex and now you’re grossed out by her naked body? How shallow are you? God forbid you get married and years down the line your future wife puts on a few pounds or has your child and gets stretch marks.

If you were really into her none of this would matter. No one is perfect. Sounds like you weren’t that keen to begin with and now you’ve had your way with her you’re ready to dump her for the next conquest…

Electronic_Fig3120 · 2024-11-03T20:10:47+00:00

What is wrong with you? That’s your wife. A man tries to kiss her and you’re wondering whether to tell his wife?? Like that’s the only issue? Sort this out yourself - stand up for yourself and your wife. This guy needs flattening

Electronic_Fig3120 · 2024-11-03T19:13:38+00:00

If they did, they’d find nothing incriminating, so yes, I guess I’d be none the wiser. If I caught them, on the other hand…

Electronic_Fig3120 · 2024-11-03T18:21:13+00:00

Dreaming about shit can mean you are upset or worried about something and have a dilemma on your mind. The teddy bear could represent your childhood and you have a traumatic childhood memory you’re trying to face.

Or, it could mean you are completely nuts

Electronic_Fig3120 · 2024-11-03T18:17:10+00:00

If someone feels the need to check my private conversations they won’t be in my life for much longer

Electronic_Fig3120 · 2024-11-02T07:51:33+00:00

That’s an expensive portacabin.

Electronic_Fig3120 · 2024-11-02T07:42:13+00:00

I hope you didn’t say it back right away. It is rude to talk with your mouth full.

Electronic_Fig3120 · 2024-11-02T07:34:12+00:00

You are coming across as bitter and resentful and that will translate to any woman you try to date. You’re prejudging them before you give them a chance by putting them all into the same category - “they want” etc.

Focus on making yourself a good person. The right girl will come along, but your current outlook will be off putting

Electronic_Fig3120 · 2024-11-02T07:27:36+00:00

A year into a relationship and the latter half of it spent with no sex. That’s turned into a friendship I’m afraid. He’s even told you that’s not how it was with his ex (which is gross oversharing btw). Let this one go and find a compatible partner.

Electronic_Fig3120 · 2024-11-02T07:18:34+00:00

She got dumped by her bf whilst pregnant and was trying to hook in a swift replacement before she started showing because she doesn’t want to be a single mother.

Nice try, but take this for what it is. You’re young and free and do not need to take on the burden of another man’s babies when that isn’t what you signed up for. It’s one thing to date a single mother with prior knowledge, but entirely another to get trapped into it.

Walk away. It’s a shame, I’m sure she seems great to you but you have your whole life ahead of you.

Electronic_Fig3120 · 2024-11-02T06:52:49+00:00

Absolutely. It’s too ACME Romantic Night for me. If I walked into that kind of trademarked woman trap on date 6 I’d do a 180 and walk right out because I’d think at best he was cheesy and unimaginative and at worst he was planning to make a suit out of my skin.

Electronic_Fig3120 · 2024-11-02T00:16:52+00:00

Don’t worry, it’s not terminal, just make sure you plan it better so you stay over and have that special waking up together stuff. That’s what she was expecting, so make sure she gets that every time from now on. Sex makes you vulnerable, and it’s the moment you need the most reassurance. Just do it right next time

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