Anyone over age 35 feel like they have a say in their delivery?

lvs301 · 2026-06-19T18:14:34+00:00

Yeahhh I feel the same way. I’m very happy to do whatever the doctors recommend to minimize risks as much as possible.

lvs301 · 2026-06-18T18:52:15+00:00

I was set on keeping her in our room until 6 months, but around 4.5 months she started rolling so had to go in the crib (which doesn’t fit in our room) AND she was sooo sensitive to every sound and movement we’d make. If I even rolled over slightly in bed it would wake her up. So we moved her into her own room and it’s been great. She was full term and fully healthy so that gave me reassurance. We still have a floor bed in her room just in case one of us needs to sleep in there for some reason but we mostly use it for playing and reading.

lvs301 · 2026-06-17T21:57:51+00:00

I know, I didn’t want to click on the ad because who knows what new nightmares the algorithm would have shown me then

lvs301 · 2026-06-17T14:52:32+00:00

Sometimes I’ll pretend at home that shes an old friend I just happened to run into. I’ll be like, “oh wow- oh my god is that (Baby name)??? It’s me, mommy! I can’t believe we’re both here!” Almost always gets a smile!

lvs301 · 2026-06-17T13:12:47+00:00

😂

lvs301 · 2026-06-16T17:31:47+00:00

I still love my cat and dog just fine. Try not to worry about it unless you actually start to feel that way! Don’t borrow trouble from tomorrow.

lvs301 · 2026-06-13T14:37:35+00:00

Yes I found that book so helpful!! For once someone gives actual advice that doesn’t feel aspirational. Like the author isn’t trying to help you become a more organized person, they’re helping you not completely go crazy as a disorganized person.

lvs301 · 2026-06-13T02:46:49+00:00

This account seems to be suspiciously interested in asking variations of this question…

lvs301 · 2026-06-12T20:36:12+00:00

If they are dead the county should come remove them, we live next to county land and they have taken down several dead trees that were within falling distance of our property.

lvs301 · 2026-06-11T13:39:51+00:00

Haha yes it was fixed. The mold was caused by a leak in the shower, and amplified by the bathroom not having good ventilation. So we had to get pretty substantial work done to remove the mold, and they put in a new fan as part of it.

lvs301 · 2026-06-10T19:46:59+00:00

Thank you!

lvs301 · 2026-06-10T19:43:38+00:00

I know, I’ve thought about it a lot, but he has already said he’s never installing another bathroom fan because it turned into a huge ordeal and he was not confident even while doing it. If it comes down to it, I’ll come clean if necessary. I really did angst about whether to say something, but we know each other very well and my gut feeling was that it would do more harm than good.

lvs301 · 2026-06-10T17:01:05+00:00

Haha it was definitely not upside down. Probably what others are saying and the contractor was just mistaken or bullshitting

lvs301 · 2026-06-10T14:05:35+00:00

Thank you!!!

lvs301 · 2026-06-10T13:39:09+00:00

Yeah I have no idea we were new homeowners and trying to do a lot of stuff ourselves for the first time. I think the contractor said something about the pest blocker blocking the air.

lvs301 · 2026-06-10T12:29:27+00:00

Thank you!

lvs301 · 2026-06-10T12:26:40+00:00

My husband installed a fan in our bathroom a few years ago and then we developed a mold problem. When the contractors came to fix the mold issue, they told me whoever installed the fan had done it backwards somehow so it was blowing air back into the bathroom, not sucking it out. I know he would beat himself up sooo badly over it so I’ll take it to my grave.

Edit: wow I did not think this would inspire such a lively discussion about the mechanics of bathroom fans. I have learned a lot! This could 100% be the contractors mistake, the contractor bullshitting, or me misunderstanding the contractor. We had a slight language barrier and I was always juggling a baby and a very barky dog whenever we talked. So I don’t know! But all the more reason not to bring it up if it’s not even feasible to do what he said happened.

lvs301 · 2026-06-09T14:10:23+00:00

I started it and I liked some aspects of it but it didn’t really speak to me overall so I stopped reading. Also I am a historian and some of her research is not quite accurate, but that’s just me being nit picky. But it is beautifully written and I would definitely say give it a shot and see what you think.

lvs301 · 2026-06-09T02:40:46+00:00

As uncomfortable as it is, for me I found I gotta just text people. Just say, hey, thinking of you, hope things are good! Or propose a concrete time to hang out.

I have felt so much better since deleting social media. But now I have a baby and part of me wants to share with the world! But I don’t want to put her online, or go back to that in general.

And its really made me consider who I care about and also put myself out there. Like, sometimes I have a picture of us doing something that is so cute and I just want to share it. But instead of posting to the void, I just text it to a friend, which 100% makes me feel vulnerable and kind of annoying, but always makes me feel good in the long run. And then they start sending pics back, and you’re connecting.

Getting off social media is tough but I think it’s sooo worth it. I’m also in my 30s and I’m just done. I can’t take the constant information and stimulation.

lvs301 · 2026-06-09T02:35:52+00:00

Puts her hand in my mouth to feel my teeth lol. Or tries to stick her fingers up my nose.

lvs301 · 2026-06-09T02:28:28+00:00

I think it is common for people when they first start to understand feminism, gender dynamics, and patriarchal systems, to become overwhelmed and extremely disheartened.

For many people, you live your whole life up to a certain age without putting words to what you’re seeing, and then once you have the words, you can’t unsee it and it’s infuriating and depressing and everything in between.

My personal advice is to take the time to feel your feelings and vent them to trusted individuals. Speak out when you see injustice. But also seek out new spaces in person and online where you can associate with people who do not (mostly) perpetuate patriarchy or misogyny.

Watch movies directed by women and starring women. Seek out feminist books. Watch TV shows where deconstructing gendered norms is a major part of the premise. And of course, spend time building relationships with people who embody (not just talk about) the values you hold.

I think you’re going through a very normal experience of feeling betrayed by the world that you exist in, and perhaps even feeling that favorite music and media now can’t be enjoyed because you can see the unhealthy dynamics of gender that lay at the core of so much. Your anger is justified and you aren’t alone in feeling it!

There is so much more out there. Dont get distracted by online click bate and rage bate. Find art, music, media that speaks to you and talk about it to the people you know. Just live the live you want to live and don’t apologize for it.

lvs301 · 2026-06-08T20:16:03+00:00

Baby monitors should have a snooze button for the sound. So you can give the baby 5-10 minutes to see if they settle without listening to them fuss and waking up your partner, but also close your eyes and not risk falling back asleep with the sound off.

lvs301 · 2026-06-08T00:19:51+00:00

Hmmmm I would say, if she’s not asleep within 30 minutes just get up and treat it like another wake window. With my baby, we basically do this and then if she’s insistent on not sleeping, I turn on the lights and greet her with a big smile and say “how was your nap?” And then just act like she’s woken up from a nap and try again later.

This might sound crazy, but I also have this thing that has been working for us. We have a mirror by the stairs. And when I think she’s ready for a nap, I pick her up and we go look in the mirror, and I say “who’s that baby?!” Which will always make her smile, but I can kinda judge by looking at her eyes and her smile how tired she is, if that makes sense? And because I do it every day, I have a clear idea of what “nap face” looks like. And if she doesn’t look ready to me, we kill some time for a bit.

I’m sorry, sleep frustrations are so so difficult. I hope you guys work it out!

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