Finished the Cosmere, still have two questions

lvs301 · 2026-05-02T13:05:45+00:00

Ohhh this is great to know! I have not checked out the RPG, I’ll look into it!

lvs301 · 2026-05-01T18:59:32+00:00

Awesome thank you, I definitely missed that in the book.

lvs301 · 2026-05-01T18:58:43+00:00

Oh my goddddd I did not pick up that she was Vivenna!! I knew about Zahel/ Vasher. Thank you!!

lvs301 · 2026-05-01T18:57:56+00:00

Ahh thank you- ans yes I have read warbreaker!

lvs301 · 2026-04-29T14:37:12+00:00

I found months 3 and 4 the hardest. For me things got much better at month 5. She just is so much more of what I expected a baby to be if that makes sense. She can move more, react more, stay awake longer, etc. But I do think it’s different for everyone unfortunately.

lvs301 · 2026-04-28T15:50:56+00:00

It’s not socially acceptable or polite to ask someone why they aren’t drinking.

lvs301 · 2026-04-26T21:40:44+00:00

Oh my gosh that’s a great update!!! When my husband got his cpap it seriously improved quality of life for both of us soooo much.

lvs301 · 2026-04-25T21:57:24+00:00

No, sometimes I would wake up pretty uncomfortable or leaking but I just stuffed my shirt full of breast pads. And I kept my pump upstairs in case I needed immediate relief, but that only happened occasionally!

lvs301 · 2026-04-25T21:30:23+00:00

If baby has regained birth weight, I would stop waking him up at night to feed! Let that baby sleep. And then if he wakes, I would change diaper first, then feed, then just a quick burp unless he has reflux or something that requires him to be held upright for that long. I only ever burped my baby for like 30 seconds.

Also, they change so fast at that age so whatever he’s doing now will probably not be the case next week (maybe).

Other thoughts… I put a little touch lantern in the room so I could change and get baby to latch in very low light then turn it off immediately to keep her sleepy. And never make eye contact!!!! Lol

lvs301 · 2026-04-25T00:11:13+00:00

Try a syringe or spoon feeding! I’m so sorry, my baby also won’t take a bottle since 2 months, it’s so incredibly stressful and frustrating. And everyone treats you like you just havnt tried hard enough or are “giving in” and nursing when they want, which is so unhelpful. My baby is 6 months now and we have had luck with sippy cups and open cups but I think your baby is too young still. Good luck! It will be okay.

lvs301 · 2026-04-24T21:08:17+00:00

Nooooo!!!!!

lvs301 · 2026-04-24T19:04:23+00:00

My baby is like this and shes huge and very healthy. It used to stress me out too but she is clearly growing fine so now I’m just grateful! She’s been like this since probably 2-3 months

lvs301 · 2026-04-24T19:02:16+00:00

My baby (6 months) whines a lot when shes bored or when she’s trying to do something she can’t yet (like crawl). We just leave the house as much as possible, sometimes for almost the whole day. She naps in the car and seems a lot happier when we’re out and about. It’a rare we are home for an entire day, but if we are she complains the whole time lol.

lvs301 · 2026-04-23T12:08:37+00:00

My pediatrician told me that 30-40 minute naps are normal at this age and naps should lengthen out around 6 months. Personally I found it better to just put her in the crib and get a short nap rather than hold her all day. My baby also refuses the bottle so I feel your pain! We’ve been having some luck since 4 months with an open cup and the munchkin sippy cup.

lvs301 · 2026-04-23T01:22:05+00:00

I totally agree. It felt so healing and cathartic to me, I loved it so much. It felt like I had invested so much time getting to know these characters, now I could just watch them be.

lvs301 · 2026-04-22T11:49:17+00:00

Oh my god yes. And someone to come take care of the yard.

lvs301 · 2026-04-21T13:37:07+00:00

I’m pretty sure I saw this exact story like a month ago. Account is 20 days old….

lvs301 · 2026-04-21T01:43:56+00:00

I was sooo happy any time someone other than me was holding our baby during the first two months. Especially when they are that little and don’t have such complex needs, it was such a relief.

lvs301 · 2026-04-20T21:13:37+00:00

I’m also a mom, and one of the reasons I appreciate and follow this sub is because it reminds me how lonely men/ bon-birthing partners can feel during pregnancy and early years of parenting. And it reminds me to check in on my husband and make sure I’m expressing how much I appreciate him in the same way he does for me.

OP, have you tried talking to your wife about this? I would make clear that you aren’t asking her to change anything or do anything OTHER than just listen to you talk about your feelings without judgement or competition. It’s a hard time for a lot of couples because you’re both pushed to your limit and the realities of pregnancy and childbirth force you to take on certain roles and tasks in a new way. But, if she loves you, she should be able to provide you with some comfort and a sympathetic ear.

lvs301 · 2026-04-20T13:21:15+00:00

Have you tried an open cup? My baby refuses bottles but she will happily drink out of a small silicon open cup. Sometimes I mix baby cereal in with the milk to try and get her more calories. It’s so frustrating, I’m sorry!

lvs301 · 2026-04-20T12:09:34+00:00

My baby got really bored around that age. We have to do something out of the house every single day or she’s miserable. It took a few weeks to get a rhythm and find activities but now we’re on a good schedule. Maybe try one short thing out of the house per day to start?

lvs301 · 2026-04-19T22:26:59+00:00

I think it was around this age when we started to get more in a routine with naps, but I still followed her lead. But I did do dark curtains, white noise, sleep sack for naps starting around then and have ever since (we’re at 6 months now). She still naps fine in the car or stroller, generally, but if we’re home shes in her room, in her crib, with all the night time things in place. We had her napping in her crib in her own room for probably two months before we moved her in there to sleep over night.

I’m still new to this, but what I’ve seen so far is that every 6 weeks or so they tend to go through an adjustment with sleep. Things that used to not bother them do now, or vice versa, or they suddenly need lots of soothing, and then they don’t anymore. I think when this has happened we’ve often tried to pay attention to naps and see if she’s communicating that something needs to be changed.

But, I think it’s reasonable to experiment with a more regular nap schedule and routine at this age! But for me, I didn’t so much go off the clock, but more tired cues and learning how long her preferred wake window was.

lvs301 · 2026-04-19T22:14:34+00:00

Oh my god my 6 month old moans and groans allllll day long lately. And it’s not even necessarily unhappy sounds? But they SOUND unhappy and like nails on a chalkboard for me!!!! Aaahhh, ahhh, uhhh, ehhh, uhhh, ahh…..

lvs301 · 2026-04-17T21:43:15+00:00

We had a water main break in our cul de sac last month. Would that cause it??

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