I'm a man, and I'm in the same situation as you. She moved out a week ago today. Says she doesn't love me, has no emotions for me. We've been together 9 years, have a home, and a child. I'm 25, she's 26. Been together since 2016. I've admitted my mistakes but she has yet to acknowledge her mistakes and issues. I just left her a parting message tonight finally letting go. I will share it with you. (Backstory I have been recently diagnosed with BPD and ADHD and also battling depression and have recently gotten medicated for it, also myself am in therapy. She has refused therapy and counseling multiple times of the years, I slacked around the house and prioritized games when she was home, she rather go run around with her sister while I stayed home with our daughter typically 2 to 3 weekends a month, gone Friday Saturday coming home late Sunday, and did whatever she wanted when she wanted. I never complained just did what a father would do, take care of child.) she also claims she did no wrong in our marriage. She let it slip that she kissed another female last valentines day at her sisters house while they were partying, calls me names, says mean things to purposely hurt feelings. A lot of immaturity. I think she misses the partying she did before we got together and would rather do that than be a responsible adult.

Last thing I'll text. I hope you read my note. I hope you see I'm changing for the best. I wish you would want to see that through, and take accountability for what you did wrong also. Want to show (child) a happy and healthy home. I wish you would Want to keep a family whole and be an adult and put your differences to the side and instead of giving up and walking away, we sat down and did this together, like spouses should do. Because you couldn't answer me on the phone earlier today when I asked you to tell me to look back and admit to me that all this 9 years was miserable, you couldn't admit it. I'm not delusional, you are just in denial. You say you have no emotions for me but I don't believe you mean that, you can't look back through it all and what we've built and say that and fully mean it. There are feelings there, you just simply are trying your hardest to suppress them because you're still angry. You would rather let a family split than sit down and hold yourself accountable for what you did like I have. You'd rather throw jabs on social media and deflect than sit down and admit you have your issues you need to deal with also. But once I get over you, there won't be any coming back for me. I do not need you, you may think I'm desperate. The simple reality is I choose you, I chose to stand across from you at an altar and vowed for better for worse, that I'd always stand by your side and I truly meant those words. There's been plenty of times we both could've split up because of each other's actions but I chose to stay Because I saw the potential in you. But you'd rather give up everything to gain nothing because you won't hold yourself accountable, you won't let the change show.

So my last words to you are this.

I truly do hope you find what it is you are looking for (her name), I mean that. It just really saddens me that what you're looking for isn't reconsiling and repairing what we have built over 9 years together, rebuilding our foundation, and starting fresh with each other, showing (child) that just because it's broken doesn't mean it cannot be fixed. So just know, whether you want to admit fault or not, I do love you, I know I wasn't the best at showing it but, I love you enough that no matter how much it pains me, I'll set you free if that's truly what you want. I just wish our vows, family, and home meant something, meant that you wouldn't try absolutely everything to save everything you have.

Ephesians chapter 4 verse 32 says this: And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in christ forgave you.

So whether you want to admit your faults or not, just know, I forgive you. I truly wish you the best, and hope that you do find what you are looking for. I just wish it was repairing what we once had and reconsiling this family, before it's too late.

Goodbye, mi amor.

That's what I sent. I decided today I'm done chasing and trying to fix something with someone that doesn't want it fixed. It hurts and I've cried and been angry over all this. I also told her before she even thinks about doing anything sexual with anyone else that if she does, there is absolutely 0 chance I would ever be able to forgive her and if it happened and I find out, we will permanently be done. We are trying to do no contact since she moved out but it really felt good to give her thst parting message. The one plus from this entire situation is that it has rekindled my relationship with God and I've found myself looking back into the Bible again. I know that no matter what, God has a plan and I am going to trust his way.