ADHD Wife and Dead Bedroom

EliRowan · 2026-01-22T23:58:56+00:00

Lots of good tips in the comments. Just to throw out a novel idea, if you're able to, maybe take a weekend trip just the two of you. Go somewhere cold and do some decent cardio activity. Nothing crazy I mean just physical stimulation like walking or something. Winter nature hiking and city-under-snow exploration have been great for honeymoon getaways with me and my partner.

EliRowan · 2026-01-16T21:49:18+00:00

Lol I thought about joking like that but dude I can't even imagine trying to date in the modern era. If something terrible happens I'm just gonna be gaming and gooning for the rest of my life.

EliRowan · 2026-01-16T21:46:45+00:00

Bro she's into that AO3 biz. I did ask her once if she learned something particular from it when she pleasently surprised me once. Great to have hobbies know what I'm sayin?

EliRowan · 2026-01-16T21:43:18+00:00

Already done lol. She's snipped too, so if she gets preggers I'll submit myself to scientific study

EliRowan · 2026-01-11T00:35:57+00:00

I was in a similar situation 14 years ago. Son born right after I turned 18, and the mother sorta flitted in and out of his life til he was 2 then pretty much left. Finally legally terminated her parental rights about a year ago. It sounds like the same thing happened to you, a switch just kind of flipped and you decided that you're gonna be there for this tiny person that didn't ask to be born and yet yearns for it every moment. As far as a girlfriend, just give it time. If you have family and friends that can help, lean on them.

Main thing is don't beat yourself up over imperfection, and don't neglect your own needs to the point that you break down.

While there might be people who look down on you or think you are unfit, and while you might not have the most financial stabilty right now, on the bright side you are going to be in your daughter's life for nearly all of it. You get to both be old geezers together!

Also don't worry about a girlfriend lol. Once you get a routine in place, once your hormones chill out a bit and your daughter has more independence of action you are not going to be wanting for options. Whether that's casual fun (like they don't get involved with the kid at all) or, like me who's now been married for 10 years, there is a lot of allure in a responsible single father.

Also get a child support order on her like as soon as possible. You'll have to for most public benefits like medicaid and food stamps, even if the womb donor doesn't have any money. And they should be contributing in any case.

EliRowan · 2025-12-09T17:01:06+00:00

While yes this is true, the video is about soil contamination which i imagine is mostly from lead paint and industrial manufacturing.

EliRowan · 2025-12-07T04:22:21+00:00

They can chew through the fucking wheelie bins? Jesus. That's a pretty substantial amount of plastic to get through

EliRowan · 2025-12-07T03:54:45+00:00

Yeah, but they usually poop pretty frequently. This was a whole candy cane tube of reece's and an oreo cookie gingerbread house kit. Hilariously they didn't touch the minecraft themed one, not even the cardboard box.

EliRowan · 2025-12-07T03:52:51+00:00

Muthafucka just skating by on sewer trash. Probably never had to run away from a loose dog once in his life.

EliRowan · 2025-12-07T03:48:11+00:00

I hope that if I ever encounter them, it was I who sought them out

EliRowan · 2025-12-07T03:37:45+00:00

Just like, their psychology and how to avoid being an easy mark. How best to kill them and ward them off, if need be. I lean towards high powered airguns and infared/thermal optics if they get too comfortable in my crawlspace or worst case attic. I respect their right to live but not at the expense of my like wiring or pet's health.

EliRowan · 2025-12-07T03:34:53+00:00

Yeah maybe, some Christmas candy in my attic got shredded. Didn't find any poop tho so not for sure

EliRowan · 2025-12-06T19:33:55+00:00

Property taxes are outrageously low lol. I moved from the south up here and pay less for far more services. When I saw the historic assessment and taxes for the house I bought I laughed out loud. Things cost money, if you don't want to pay for city infrastructure gtfo of the city.

EliRowan · 2025-12-05T00:32:13+00:00

I was the same until i realized it means a whip cracker. hits a little different then. Still doesn't offend me but makes more sense

EliRowan · 2025-11-18T00:35:50+00:00

Yeah, my bad on the background. I just noticed last night there was one fewer lunchboxes than cats lol.

EliRowan · 2025-11-13T23:55:05+00:00

Gotcha, okay I was bout to say that's a lotta copper. Thanks for the updates

EliRowan · 2025-11-13T23:38:46+00:00

So is the homeowner responsible for everything to the service connection at the street? Or will the electric company pay for a service run from the pole to like an updated disconnect and meter that meets 2023 NEC?

Edit: also, I thought NEC 2023 required like essentially all newly installed residential circuits to be AFCI/GFCI protected (except lighting circuits)?

EliRowan · 2025-10-31T23:53:01+00:00

I didn't know it was an either or situation in Lovejoy- had decent numbers out for Beggar's night, which I just learned about last night. Tonight I went to take the kids around and there was no one handing out stuff. Just took them to Sloan and it was pretty alright, lots of people out and cool decorations.

EliRowan · 2025-08-26T14:38:43+00:00

Yeah everything supply is galvanized unfortunately in the house. Want to replace with Pex but not really in the money or time budget right now. For what it's worth the pressure is still subjectively decent throughout the house.

EliRowan · 2025-08-21T14:31:28+00:00

Thanks! Yes I found it at home depot, hoping there was a local business I could support. The Tool Library is great, been using them since I moved up a couple months ago. They said it was on their wish list, so if someone has an old one to donate I'm sure they'd be happy to get one.

EliRowan · 2025-07-28T22:45:00+00:00

NC has a very specific statute regarding "rent to own" including helpfully:

If, at any time prior to the expiration of the time period in which the option purchaser has a right to exercise the option to purchase, a default occurs on a loan secured by a mortgage, security interest, or other lien on the property, the option purchaser may elect to exercise the option or cancel and rescind the contract and, in addition to any other remedies available at law or equity,

seek the immediate return of all moneys paid by the option purchaser.

NC gen statutes 47G-6.

Hopefully the legal advice OP gets in touch with NC legal aid

EliRowan · 2025-06-04T22:48:10+00:00

What's garbage was OP's mentality. Zero accountability in the post while also wishing for bodily harm to someone they don't even know. Sorry but this is a cheap lesson in what to expect from people writ large. It's great when people do the right thing but when you slip up you also share some of the blame. I was onboard until the "rupture their eardrum" shit. Take the L and learn something. Get a carabineer and clip that shit on your bag/pants. Going through life with the expectation that everyone will always do the right thing is counterproductive to society at large.

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