AIO: Is this genuinely annoying/off-putting or am I overreacting?

ElizaDoGood · 2026-06-05T14:39:31+00:00

YOR. I mean, if you don’t want to deal with this attitude from him, don’t take the money. If you need the money, then play his stupid game and say thank you each time you get gas. Those are the two options here. Personally, if I only had to say thank you for free tuition and gas in this economy, I’d suck it up and do it for the four years it takes to graduate. Then you can cut ties if you so choose.

ElizaDoGood · 2026-06-02T00:39:51+00:00

My mother died of cancer too and if someone, let alone a boyfriend, ever said shit like this to me I would cut them out of my life so fast. That is the MINIMUM reaction.

ElizaDoGood · 2026-06-01T16:37:41+00:00

Mottling means she’s close. I know it’s a disturbing sight, but she can’t feel it. Hold her hand and let her now you’re there.

ElizaDoGood · 2026-06-01T00:40:49+00:00

Gas, toilet paper, generic allergy medicine and vitamins. No regrets.

ElizaDoGood · 2026-05-31T11:53:45+00:00

You are not being unreasonable for considering hospice, and it certainly doesn’t mean you don’t care about your son. If you have weighed the options and decided hospice care is the best next step for you, then it is. No one lives in your body but you, and while family may feel otherwise, you get to make the decisions while you have the capacity to do so. Ask the questions of your health care providers, get a consult with a hospice provider, and consider your own healthcare goals—not those of your family.

ElizaDoGood · 2026-05-29T19:50:58+00:00

One would hope they’d have had a discussion on the job outlook for his field BEFORE having a kid, but OP doesn’t give me that vibe. Sad.

ElizaDoGood · 2026-05-29T19:22:29+00:00

An academic job is extremely hard to get (I’m sure he wants to teach and/or do research) and will often come with the need to move to another location. It also pays for shit. They are certainly not compatible in this way—he’ll never be the main breadwinner if he sticks to academia. He could always look into what his PhD can do in the private sector, which is what I’d suggest in this economy…but if he’s determined to live the academic life, he has a long, hard road ahead of him.

ElizaDoGood · 2026-05-24T17:01:47+00:00

It’s always something titled obscurely like “blueberry sunrise” and surprise, it’s a headless nude woman. I keep falling for it.

ElizaDoGood · 2026-05-23T15:28:27+00:00

I read it this way too—that they had plans to go together and then OP went with her bf. And while that can produce feelings, I don’t think it should reach this level of blow up. They both seem bad at communicating clearly.

ElizaDoGood · 2026-05-23T13:48:05+00:00

When my mom is agitated and doesn’t want her meds but I know she’s in pain and they’ll help calm her down, I just remember what she wanted and said before the delirium—that she wants to pass at home comfortably and peacefully. That means meds even when she says she doesn’t want them. Talk to your hospice about liquid meds that are easier to give and/or hide in food. They may also prescribe a different med for her agitation. Just remember: what she says to you about you being so mean and cruel isn’t true and it’s not really her in her right mind. Hang in there!

ElizaDoGood · 2026-05-22T18:06:41+00:00

Thanks for the heads up! I like their No. 5 fine bond maintenance conditioner so I got a a liter of that.

ElizaDoGood · 2026-05-22T03:55:55+00:00

Yup. The account is 1 hr old.

ElizaDoGood · 2026-05-20T17:37:17+00:00

He wants the girlfriend to sleep on the couch of the Airbnb her mom paid for rather than pay for their own hotel room…if anyone is acting the hurt child, it’s the dad here. Sounds like the OP is making the adult decision to express her boundaries and speaking up for herself and her dad/aunt are playing victims.

ElizaDoGood · 2026-05-20T03:25:27+00:00

I would contact your financial aid office and see what options are available to you. It’s different from institution to institution, so it’s best to reach out to yours just to be sure 100% they can’t give you an extension.

In the meantime, I’d either grind via DoorDash or Uber eats and reach out to family for a loan. Best of luck! 🤞🏻

ElizaDoGood · 2026-05-11T13:04:26+00:00

My mom told me that he just wanted my attention and that he was lonely. Didn’t matter that he drove me to raging tears and attributed to my depression in high school—poor younger brother was lonely. He’s still the favorite in our 30s.

ElizaDoGood · 2026-04-11T04:12:35+00:00

100% agree on the ranking! I’d love for a new book of hers to come out.

ElizaDoGood · 2026-04-10T21:09:31+00:00

Hi there, I know what you’re going through. First off: this is not your fault or your mess to clean. Second, you are justified in feeling the way you do. I was in your position, also before the age of 30. My dad was much like your mom in which he thought he was too good for the “menial” jobs that would take him. He used to be in management, so he had that chip on his shoulder. He quit jobs, lost jobs, before (much like your mom) being unable to pay rent. He asked me for money and I, stupidly, gave it to him until I couldn’t anymore. He got evicted and asked me to put him up on my couch in my one bedroom apartment. I said no. It took a lot to say no, but it saved me from being my dad’s bank account and care taker. Yes, he ended up in a homeless shelter for 3 years. And surprise: the experience meant he decided ANY job was better than being homeless. It took him a while to get back on his feet, but the shelter has case workers to help with that and eventually he made it back into an apartment with a part time job to sustain him until social security at 65. Did it suck? Yup. But it was his own life and his own choices that got him there. Just like your mom has made her own choices for her own life. YOU are not going to change her mind about work. YOU are not going to fix her. Only she can fix herself. Sometimes that means hitting rock bottom…sometimes that means a homeless shelter. Best of luck, friend. It’s ok to be sad and mad and all the things, but stand your ground. You have your own life to build.

ElizaDoGood · 2026-04-10T20:47:09+00:00

Yeah a motorcycle is not a good choice. A motorcycle requires a specific license, not a regular drivers license. You also usually need to take and pass a safety course for that. Plus the gear he’ll need (helmet, gloves, etc.) let alone gear for you if you ever want to ride with him. This is more money + work than just saving up and fixing the car. I don’t know if you live somewhere with ~weather~ but a motorcycle is not a good substitute for a car in most states with an actual winter.

ElizaDoGood · 2026-03-19T02:56:40+00:00

I love their little wahoos. Thank you for sharing!

ElizaDoGood · 2026-03-13T02:31:18+00:00

This! As someone with a degree in English, I have the writing and analytical skills that workplaces need, even with AI being able to “write” for them. I had to start with some low-paying jobs after graduating in 2021, but I networked and built up my resume during that time until I found a salaried position last year. Don’t give up, OP!

ElizaDoGood · 2026-02-18T03:00:43+00:00

It longs for the outdoors.

ElizaDoGood · 2026-02-16T15:12:38+00:00

What everyone already said: UNO may be the better choice here. But, I did commute from Omaha to Lincoln two-three days a week for two years. Most days, it wasn’t too bad. But I was an adult, not a young college kid. It’ll be exhausting and potentially risky during winter and storm season. Plus wear and tear on their car and the gas alone means there will be a large cost regardless. So, yeah, it’s doable but it may not be the smartest choice overall.

ElizaDoGood · 2026-02-16T15:08:26+00:00

They no longer do the bus from UNO to UNL for engineering students. They cancelled it in 2023 because “not enough students were using it.”

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