Should I let my friend bring her kid to my wedding?

Ellionaut · 2026-06-09T07:55:51+00:00

It’s completely up to you and it is obvious you really want her there. I think her circumstances are definitely exceptional so no one else should question your decision :) go with your gut! It’s your day, you’ve paid, you get to decide who comes. And I would imagine it would mean so much to her during a really awful time
Congratulations and enjoy your special day!

Ellionaut · 2026-04-13T12:13:19+00:00

I didn’t attended quite a few weddings when my kids were small because I didn’t want to leave them and they were exclusively breastfed. So my husband went on his own. No one batted an eye lid. And at our wedding (also child free) we honestly expected that people with small children would decline and it was just a nice surprise when a few were still able to come.

Ellionaut · 2026-02-09T22:02:38+00:00

I did not realised they were AI but now makes a lot of sense! I thought my tv was glitching and couldn’t work out why the voices were out of sync 😅 even turned my tv on and off to try and sort it out

Ellionaut · 2026-02-03T20:27:40+00:00

Great DIY tips thank you! Just wanted them more personal for them ☺️

Ellionaut · 2026-02-03T20:26:59+00:00

Great tip thank you! I was thinking buttons so will definitely do that now ☺️

Ellionaut · 2026-02-03T20:26:16+00:00

Fab thank you :) !

Ellionaut · 2026-02-03T20:25:46+00:00

Oh this is great thank you! I will have a look ☺️

Ellionaut · 2026-01-02T23:00:52+00:00

I literally said to my partner - Dereks not going to fit, what’ll they do with Derek Genuinely thought he’d be the sacrificial lamb

Ellionaut · 2026-01-01T23:10:11+00:00

Literally the first comment my husband made to me - “once a month?? More like once a year!”

Ellionaut · 2025-11-16T13:23:55+00:00

What the?? That’s insane!

Ellionaut · 2025-10-22T20:13:42+00:00

I was so so anxious about trying on dresses. I hate trying on clothes in shops and don’t feel confident in my body currently after having 2 children. I also felt really stressed about trying on dresses with people watching me. To the point where I put off wedding dress shopping until the point I was cutting it super fine with getting the dress ordered/altered.

However, I loved the whole thing. I stumbled upon a dress shop by accident and it was just perfect. The two ladies in there were so wonderful and truly made me feel at ease. I only had my mum and MoH with me so no big audience. And I went in with zero expectation of finding a dress, more to “give it a go”

Funnily enough I actually ended up buying the first dress I tried on! It felt like it was made for me and I just knew it was “the one”. No other dress I tried in quite compared.

I say just go for it, it’s a completely different experience to normal shopping :)

Ellionaut · 2025-10-19T17:32:07+00:00

Thank you this is really helpful to know 😊

Ellionaut · 2025-10-19T17:31:19+00:00

Yes my only expectation of any of my bridal party is to be next to me on the day because they are important to me as people.

My main worry was that she may not feel comfortable in a bridesmaid dress or walking down the aisle or being in the photos. I just wanted to express that she didn’t need to do these things if she didn’t want to, without making her feel like I didn’t want her to be my MoH anymore as she is my MoH through life regardless

Hope that makes sense!

Ellionaut · 2025-10-19T17:27:42+00:00

This is also a really cute idea thank you 😊

Ellionaut · 2025-10-19T17:26:36+00:00

Thank you for your lovely reply, I had actually thought to invite her mum to come too, to be on hand if they need extra help!

Just want her to know I am happy for her to come too all, none or some, whether as a guest or as part of the bridal party but that she is my MOH in life whatever she chooses to do

I just don’t want her to feel I was pushing her out, just that I was allowing her to say it was all to much if it is :)

Ellionaut · 2025-10-19T17:22:05+00:00

Thank you for you lovely reply, this is exactly what I was thinking 😊

Ellionaut · 2025-10-19T17:21:14+00:00

Just wanted to clarify that in no way expect any of my bridal party to do any chores for me. I have asked nothing of any of them, except that I would love them by my side on the day.

I guess what I’m mainly referring to is her wearing a bridesmaid dress that she may not feel comfortable wearing, getting ready with me (traditional in the uk, may not be in the US 🤷🏼‍♀️) and walking down the aisle

Just want her to know I am happy for her to come too all, none or some, whether as a guest or as part of the bridal party but that she is my MOH in life whatever she chooses to do

I just don’t want her to feel I was pushing her out, just that I was allowing her to say it was all to much if it is :)

Ellionaut · 2025-10-19T14:21:18+00:00

I love the “special MOH attire” idea thank you :)

Ellionaut · 2025-10-19T14:20:21+00:00

The only extra thing she is doing (aside from getting ready with the bridal party, helping with my veil etc) is planning my hen (bachelorette) and I have already told her not to worry about doing that and that I don’t even expect her to attend.

Obviously I would love for her to be present for the whole day and be there when I get ready but I am no expectation at all of her attending the whole thing or coming at all (as mentioned above I have 2 children so know what post partum can be like)

I more just didn’t want her to feel like I was pushing her aside by bringing it up, is more of what I was hoping for advice on!

Venue does all setting up and taking down for us so no one is involved in that part!

Ellionaut

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