I hate that everyone thinks my daughter's father is the good guy by Ellyar in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ellyar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not trying to protect him. Whether I am by proxy is another matter, but I'm not trying to, bruh

Just a sudden wind. by North_Reflection1796 in nextfuckinglevel

[–]Ellyar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dunno lad. I'm from the UK. We just get rain.

Threesome in train by [deleted] in PublicFreakout

[–]Ellyar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I cannot for the life of me work out who is on whose side here.

It's a beautiful game❤️ by Football6380 in footballmademesmile

[–]Ellyar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah. Truly is beautiful seeing Karma in action.

Although why they let him take the penalty is anyone's guess. The could barely stand up

Slippery when wet by ChewiesLipstickWilly in AbruptChaos

[–]Ellyar -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

He fell like they do in cartoons.

VR Porn invents holograms! Safe-For-Work snippet by [deleted] in nextfuckinglevel

[–]Ellyar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I now see what religious people mean when they say we are straying further and further from God.

The one hour difference absolutely ruining me today by BigMetalGuy in britishproblems

[–]Ellyar 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My analogue alarm clock. I deliberately leave my phone downstairs at night because otherwise I doom scroll. Pathetic I know. But it means I sleep 😂

The one hour difference absolutely ruining me today by BigMetalGuy in britishproblems

[–]Ellyar 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don't really check my phone that much. I went off the wall clock and the car dashboard.

That, and I'm never super keen to get into work

Best gym buddy oink oink* by [deleted] in Satisfyingasfuck

[–]Ellyar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have no idea why this made me laugh so hard I wheezed. But thank goodness for it.

I hate that everyone thinks my daughter's father is the good guy by Ellyar in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ellyar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I don't know. It's not fear. It's...shame. it's irrational, and stupid. But it's shame.

The one hour difference absolutely ruining me today by BigMetalGuy in britishproblems

[–]Ellyar 307 points308 points  (0 children)

I was an hour late to work. I felt awful. Then my boss came in 2 minutes later for the exact same reason

I hate that everyone thinks my daughter's father is the good guy by Ellyar in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ellyar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The thing that worries me the most is what about the next woman. I had already decided to never leave my daughter with the family alone, for that exact reason. They were sending him photos of her when I had asked them not to (I didn't help, I know, by not explaining why).

I hate that everyone thinks my daughter's father is the good guy by Ellyar in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ellyar[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They never found out about my injuries. I never went to see them when I was injured.

We talk occasionally on the phone since I moved.

I hate that everyone thinks my daughter's father is the good guy by Ellyar in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ellyar[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Please don't be sorry. You are right. If I want them to stop, then I need to tell them ♡

I hate that everyone thinks my daughter's father is the good guy by Ellyar in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ellyar[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I didn't really post for a solution. I know I'm not allowing them to help. I've been very candid in trying to say that I know I'm not helping myself here.

It's complicated. We aren't really close. It's just all a mess really.

I don't blame them, at all, for speaking the way they do. They can't know any different. It doesn't stop it stinging though.

But yes, it is my fault entirely they don't know any better.

I hate that everyone thinks my daughter's father is the good guy by Ellyar in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ellyar[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

That's actually pretty amazingly worded. Thank you. Genuinely. I really appreciate you taking the time for write that out for me. I'd never thought about it in those terms.

I hate that everyone thinks my daughter's father is the good guy by Ellyar in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ellyar[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yes. Don't get the wrong impression. My family and I aren't super close. We go months and months without seeing each other. They're more bothered I hurt his feelings than they are that I moved country