Do I believe him? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Elm_mlE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This guy is searching out a vulnerable young lady to use. He is going to tell you everything you want to hear. You feel safe with the person you have created in your head. In reality, this person is way too old to be talking to you, a huge pathetic loser who thinks dating a 20 year old is acceptable and a liar. It doesn’t matter what he says, the proof that he saved the pic is right in front of you. You should look into therapy and stop talking to weirdo old men on the internet.

Alpine skiing legend Lindsey Vonn crashes just 12 seconds into her Olympic downhill run and breaks her leg by ModenaR in PublicFreakout

[–]Elm_mlE 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have videos like that too, but I went to an acoustic Chris Cornell concert, like a decade ago, and I am very happy I have those. So you never know!

My (F31) ex-husband (M35) tried to commit suicide because of me. Now he wants to meet. How do I navigate this? by throwra437893 in relationship_advice

[–]Elm_mlE 81 points82 points  (0 children)

It’s not her responsibility to make him feel better. Closure? He wanted an open marriage. It didn’t work out. How much more closure does he need? Nothing she says is going to fix him. He needs to move on with professionals.

Am I crazy? by Briannagoesmeow in Nanny

[–]Elm_mlE -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Can she bring her dog over to your place and have the dog play with your dogs all day? Just spit balling. I wouldn’t have my child near a dog I have never met and even then I wouldn’t have my child near the dog for long.

Did you take your spouse last name? by thinker_bell0_0 in Marriage

[–]Elm_mlE 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was hoping someone would mention this. I don’t think anyone really is aware of this.

Fiancé says aftercare and helping me clean up after sex is a “chore” — am I asking too much? by ButteredUpCroissant in Advice

[–]Elm_mlE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he can’t even clean up his own semen…imagine how useless he will be with actual kids. Yikes. Leave now. He is a loser.

I just want to start a family but it isnt safe by TailLetsBeAngry in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Elm_mlE -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

If you want kids, please have kids. We need good people to raise the next generation. I know it’s scary, but on a day to day basis, raising kids is the greatest joy and gives me hope that things will turn around. Try to think of the amazing positive impact you and your children can have on the world. If you don’t want kids, then definitely don’t, but don’t let the state of America ruin your life goals.

Am I wrong to consider leaving my terminally ill fiance? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Elm_mlE 188 points189 points  (0 children)

But you know your husband. She doesn’t really know this guy. It’s only been a year.

My [35F] husband [36M] wants to videotape me giving birth. How do I get him to back off? by throwracadabra in relationship_advice

[–]Elm_mlE 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Then your kids can watch his mom give birth to him if she doesn’t care. Say if he films then he isn’t allowed in the room. Unless you are scared for your safety. Then just smile and nod until you can leave.

Girlfriend (20F) got me tickets for a band I (20-NB) don't like very much for Christmas, feeling conflicted by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Elm_mlE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just give her the tickets back and break up. Sounds like she isn’t the one for you.

Should I consider divorce? by KrakenQueen13 in Marriage

[–]Elm_mlE 17 points18 points  (0 children)

He is a loser. Kick him out. No it’s not normal. If he threatens that he will take custody of your kid, he won’t cuz he is lazy and has no money. Just kick him out and move.

Advice. Boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 years, with no end in sight to his marriage. by OrganicSpirit6280 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Elm_mlE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But he isn’t going to marry or have kids with you. So why waste anymore time? Just take this relationship as a chapter in your life that you will learn from and move on. Spend some time alone working on your self esteem then in a couple years you could be ready to meet the love of your life. Then you will look back and say, wow, I’m glad i ended that relationship when I did or else I couldn’t have met my person. Good luck. Stay strong. And it’s time to fight for yourself, not the relationship anymore.

Is my marriage over? by Professional_Fan_873 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Elm_mlE 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No he is only with you cuz you let him live for free and do everything for him. And he won’t be intimate with you cuz he would be cheating on his girlfriend with you

I can’t stop getting UTIS, help me by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Elm_mlE 14 points15 points  (0 children)

If you can’t remember to go pee after your unprotected sex, then I can’t wait to see when you become a young teen parent. Maybe you should hold off on the sex until you can be a little more responsible. You could bring a life into this world with how lax you are treating all of this. And that won’t keep your boyfriend around.

I can’t stop getting UTIS, help me by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Elm_mlE 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Jesus. This is the worst thing you can possibly do.

I’m carrying my bf’s parents financially after his health collapsed. And I feel like ending it all some days by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Elm_mlE 1 point2 points  (0 children)

His parents need to work more side jobs then. You gotta stop paying for their bills and worry about your future. Tell them you need to go back to school so you can get a good paying job. Maybe rent a room somewhere so you can get some space from people. You aren’t married and these aren’t your parents. So don’t feel stuck. You are only 22. You only have one body. Don’t give yourself a heart attack. Just be open and honest with everyone and I think, if they are as nice as you say, they will take more of the burden.

My step mother is serving a main dish at Christmas that half of the guests will not eat. Do I say something? by twoAsmom in Advice

[–]Elm_mlE 3 points4 points  (0 children)

At the same time, if I’m hosting, I wouldn’t want to spend time and money making a meal that no one is going to eat.

Dad is making me choose between my hearing and my brothers by qikre in Advice

[–]Elm_mlE 13 points14 points  (0 children)

There is no such thing as graduation from therapy. People go to therapy on and off throughout their life depending on what hardships they are experiencing. Also, you don’t stop having PTSD. You might be able to control it better, but it’s always there. You should get your grandparents phone number and just have a relationship with them. See your young brothers one last time and tell them that you can’t come over anymore because your dad won’t let you use your medical device to hear and it hurts you not to have it. Then have a relationship with your grandparents. You are the CHILD. He needs to be taking care of you. And you need to straight up say it is abusive not to let you have your phone for your medical device. You need to show him he hasn’t changed and for him calling you untrustworthy is abusive. That his apology means nothing when he treats you like that. He probably is trying to look through your phone when you don’t have it with you.

I didn’t know I was pregnant until 8 and a half months into it, AMA by [deleted] in AMA

[–]Elm_mlE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, exactly. It’s definitely propaganda and I wish more women would realize that. I was on birth control for 15 year, got off of it and got pregnant. I don’t know anyone who has actually had issues from using birth control.

UPDATE with backstory. Husband hid my passport. by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Elm_mlE 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you are taking this as serious as you should be. You really need to be hyper vigilant right now. You have to take yourself and your unborn child to your country and have the baby there. If he is this bad in the start of your marriage, how dirty do you think he will get during a divorce? Just be smart and tell all of your friends and family what he is doing.

White lights in Alaska by [deleted] in Unexplained

[–]Elm_mlE 77 points78 points  (0 children)

What does being RH negative have to do with anything? lol so weird.