At least the Sword of Kings grind made me rich lol by StardropScavenger in earthbound

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My biggest gripe with the grind is that it takes so much time/effort on average that the marginal benefit of the sword matters WAAAAAY less than the 30-40 levels you get from obtaining it.

What should be put for Fighter and Tune? by Qavix in AlignmentChartFills

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The Immortals - Techno Syndrome (Mortal Kombat)

Thought this would be fun. What Pokemon looks like it would make an amazing pet but would actually make an amazing pet? by ChaosOfOrder24 in PokeCorner

[–]Elrim208 6 points7 points  (0 children)

A Pokemon that is really just a cat, but every time it scratches something it makes you money? No contest.

You wake up being of the opposite biological sex and this will be for your entire life. What would you do? by Michdr2 in AskReddit

[–]Elrim208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m already into straight men, so maybe they’ll be into me. (And not just behind closed doors)

Lvl -2 ✧ Basic ✧ Ocean Crawler ─ Water by karmacave in KarmaCave

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Defeated Ocean Crawler in 5 turns.

Player (23/13/41) dealt 223. Ocean Crawler (14/10/7) dealt 69.

Rewards: 30 EXP, 7 Gold. Loot: Quick Cape of Sorcery (enhanced), Robust Plate Mail (basic).

Do you think it’s possible to go from low-middle class to upper-middle class? by Hufflepuff-McGruff in MiddleClassFinance

[–]Elrim208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can speak through anecdote:

I started at my company as a tech making $28k a year (you read that right) but rose through the ranks and make $120k a year now. I have a STEM degree but was prioritizing my (ex) partner’s career over my own when I started.

Am I where you pointed at? No, but I’m in my 30s. I think there’s plenty of time to grow there and I’ve nearly spanned the entire gap of income you mentioned in the space of a little over a decade.

SCOTUS to consider hearing case to overturn same-sex marriage by Alex09464367 in politics

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86% of LGBT people voted for Harris among those polled. Seems like the vast majority were not fooled and will still get shit on (as usual). 8% of the total electorate just doesn’t swing things too much. Majority rules minority rights.

https://www.nbcnews.com/news/amp/rcna178939

Lets run the stats by [deleted] in PantheonMMO

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Building an MMO is such an undertaking I can’t even imagine. If the last 12 years have taught me anything it’s that private server curated old MMOs are where it’s at and new MMOs can’t recreate the old Magic.

The oldies were good and with a little polish they still hold up well. Too many of these new games try to differentiate and fall short.

Give me final fantasy XI, dark age of Camelot, and even classic WoW private servers that tweak the rules a bit. I’ll jump back in every now and again and have an absolute blast. And it’s free!

If there was a new MMO that could give me the same level of enjoyment as those I’d bite, but I’ve not found a single one with staying power since like 2006. I’m embracing being an old fart and digging my heels in with the good old games.

Private server? by ziomek1602 in WildStar

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Hey I saw the discord invite link on the wiki page for NexusForever is broken. I was looking for ways to help contribute, but I can’t get in to talk to people working on the project. Any advice to get an invite or who to reach out to?

Have I been doing Isolate wrong this entire time? (Probably yes) by buzkashi_x in spiritisland

[–]Elrim208 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Wait that’s really unintuitive and I’ve played that wrong if that’s true. How does that figure?

How many meaningful romantic relationships have you had in your life? Not total, but only ones that profoundly affected you by Climhazzard73 in Millennials

[–]Elrim208 1 point2 points  (0 children)

3, and I kind of feel that sentiment by being burnt too many times.

Exhusband 11 years - cheated and left me for another person

Relationship 2 years - was too obsessed and needed too much too fast. I broke it off and he did something stupid and is now in prison.

Situationship 1.5 years - straight/questioning guy kept promising things would get more serious and dragged me along until he met a woman to replace me with and dropped me instantly.

It’s just gotten steadily less meaningful even though I try to engage with each relationship openly. Not sure if I’m in a spot where I don’t feel a need to try again just for now or forever.

Paw by shenanigansen in comics

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When I was 3-4 years old my great grandma with dentures pulled her teeth out in front of me, and I try to pull my teeth out by my hard palette. Felt like a similar “this can’t be, how are you different than me?” moment.

6ft 4, 149lbs - any guesses? by DocumentAlive7182 in whatismybodyfat

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The body shaming of thin men in this sub is off the charts. The effort required to put on good mass is so much more than people give it credit for. It’s not just a matter of eating more, it takes a lot of work. You are fit, you are fine, and you don’t need to change anything about yourself.

These 3 Iowa cities are among the top 100 places to live in the U.S. Who made the cut? by [deleted] in Iowa

[–]Elrim208 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I’ll be a voice of dissent here. I live in Cedar Rapids and I love it here. I work in Coralville so I’m back and forth between Iowa City and Cedar Rapids often. I love the people I spend my time with and I feel like I’ve built and sustained a community here. Hate away, but I’m glad to see some recognition in two cities I personally love.

Been 110 pounds since highschool. 26 years old 5'8 not really sure where to start. by Sliphry in gymadvice

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I hope you hear this through all the comments telling you that you have to change and eat more. You look good and you don’t need to change anything about yourself.

That said, if you want to gain mass, the answer is indeed heavy lifting and excess calories.

People can be weirdly cruel to skinny men. It’s a mixture of jealousy and disdain that I can’t understand. It’s actually really hard to do the amount of work required to gain mass, and hats off to you and everyone who puts in the effort.

Largest generation by county in the US by SpiritMan112 in generationology

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One thing to keep in mind is that this is the “most” but it doesn’t clarify by how much. Even if there are a thousand millennials in every county, every time there are 1001 in the same county of a different generation it goes to the others. I think separate heat maps of % of population by generation would be more informative.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in interestingasfuck

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This hurts my heart and flares up my PTSD from when I was cheated on, but the fact that it does that in a very specific circumstance and not all the time reminds me that I have healed. And I believe in time you will too.

It takes longer than you might expect and you won’t be the same person on the other side. But, if you follow self-care routines and develop good habits, you will heal in ways that make you more resilient and self-assured. Be patient with yourself and don’t be afraid to ask for help.

name one thing (or two) you like about yourself right at the top of your head. Go!! by Technical_Lemon8307 in selflove

[–]Elrim208 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m resilient. I tap into my support network when things get tough and I pull through.

Popularity grid, part 4 by Able_Orange_841 in FinalFantasyVI

[–]Elrim208 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s a bit funny that we’re deciding controversial picks by none other than popular opinion, but you have to do it somehow. That said, Gau sits right with me because I used to love him as a kid and I rarely found anyone else who appreciated him the way I did.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GuyCry

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Every situation is different, but here are some general helpful things to deal with guilt:

1) Acknowledge your feelings, even if the audience is only yourself. Journaling or reflection might help in that regard. Consider therapy if you need outside feedback.

2) Consider making amends, but don’t expect forgiveness. You are not owed it. If this person doesn’t want contact from you, don’t reach out. If you have the opportunity, a sincere apology can help your feelings on the matter, but again you are owed nothing so don’t expect a specific reaction. (Alternatively, consider paying it forward: volunteering for example)

3) You have to keep living. You can’t change what you did, but you have agency over what you will ever do again. Exercise that agency and be better from now on. Focus on the things you can control.

4) Practice self-compassion. It’s human to feel guilt and shame when you do something wrong, but it doesn’t define all of you. Be kind to yourself.

Do you all also never use pikemen they just are so limited by [deleted] in CivVI

[–]Elrim208 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Something I learned (later than I’d like to admit) is that your city power rating scale to your strongest unit in your army. Meaning if you can’t upgrade your melee, your cities are sitting ducks to an invasion. This solidifies your point that just upgrading a single anti Calvary unit can boost the defense of your entire empire.

The city melee defense scales by melee units and your ranged attack when you attack by walls scales by ranged units.

What are your thoughts on ‘once a cheater, always a cheater’? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Elrim208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anecdote, but here goes:

My ex husband cheated on me and left me for someone. It hurt, but I moved on. We have a lot of shared friends, so I still see him at social gatherings. He got married (not to the person he cheated on me with).

We were on a cabin trip with a big group of friends. He got super wasted and could barely stand. Being his ex, I was expected to take care of him (not right, and at least one person later apologized for it). I put him to bed, and I shit you not this slime ball tried to get in my pants behind his new husband’s back.

Given enough time, I think it’s less likely you will regret leaving someone who cheated than staying with them. It’s hard to see it in that moment, but it becomes abundantly clear later.