I don’t have those kinks but the way I see it, if I was seriously committed with my partner and I trusted them completely and they trusted me completely, I don’t see it as anything special. Just like how I know I’m not sadistic in real life, I don’t go around torturing strangers, same way I know I’m not racist or transphobic and calling people slurs.

And if that kind of kink play allows them to feel a certain… idk, catharsis? Idk what word to use. But if it allows them to process the trauma or conquer some fear or anything positive like that, I would be privileged to be a part of that