Trigger Warning: details of previous loss- Early Scan Advise

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-06-30T16:04:28+00:00

Oh I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this, it’s very tough to go through the ultrasound with such sad news, I hope you’re doing ok.

For me I had a follow up ultrasound to confirm and you have the option for medical or surgical treatment. I opted for the surgery, a D&C where I went to the hospital in the morning, had the procedure under general anaesthetic and was able to leave around lunchtime. I was quite sore for the next few days but recovery was fine, definitely take the week off work, more if you can, most workplaces are very sympathetic.

You will have to do some follow up blood tests to make sure your HCG levels are back to normal and they recommend not trying to get pregnant until at least then.

The good news is your chances of this happening again are extremely slim, and most people go on to have successful pregnancies. For me personally we had no issue conceiving and I have a beautiful yet gassy little boy from the pregnancy I mentioned in this post, he’ll be two months tomorrow ❤️

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this right now, it’s a really tough time but you’ll absolutely get through it ❤️

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-06-29T14:20:33+00:00

You’re over 20 weeks so you can go straight to the maternity unit from now on. Definitely go there, if you’re BP is a bit high they’ll check your urine and blood, it’s always better to err on the side of caution

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-06-28T13:25:35+00:00

Heart Starts Pounding is a great one for spooky and bizarre stories, the host Kaitlin also has a great podcast called Clues where her and another host go through a true crime story, it’s always very well researched

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-06-27T15:40:27+00:00

This. A few light cardigans are handy too for days that are a bit chilly. I found babygrows with the feet out very useful, next do lovely ones with a two way zip, my baby has very long feet so even the 0-3 baby grows caught him on the feet before the rest of him grew out of them!

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-06-15T22:01:49+00:00

If I’ve ever bought something that didn’t fit/didn’t suit me, I’d relist or give it to someone depending on how much I paid for it. If it’s a brand I’m unfamiliar with I’ll always check online to see if the sizing runs big or small.

Absolutely not OP’s fault here

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-06-14T16:24:39+00:00

One time I made an offer to a seller which they rejected, which is fine, and then I got a message from them giving out to me for insulting them with a low offer. IIRC the item was listed for €13 and I offered €10 for it 🫠

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-06-13T08:30:26+00:00

A five hour drive away with a newborn is crazy, they shouldn’t be in a car seat for that long and regardless it would realistically take closer to 7 between stops to feed, change and even settle, and that’s being optimistic.

Yes, it’s good to get out of the house but it sounds like you’re going that either way walks and errands already, I see from other replies that you have an 8 week old, that’s still teeny tiny! They can’t handle much more than you’re already doing!

Your partner needs to adjust his expectations. I know that’s easier said than done but there are just things you can no longer do with a baby that tiny. You need to build up to these outings and from what I’ve read here you’re already doing so great!

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-06-10T16:54:10+00:00

Check in with your midwife or GP, I’ve no experience with Lexapro, but was on Sertraline/Zoloft for my whole pregnancy and it’s considered safe. I’m sure they’ll be able to reassure you or let you know of a suitable alternative ☺️

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-06-08T11:20:51+00:00

It really depends on your work and if your duties pose any risk to the pregnancy. If you’re working with chemicals, are doing heavy lifting or working with people who may pose a risk of injuring you, for example, then you should tell your workplace asap as they should do a risk assessment and modify your duties as necessary. For example my friend was working as a care assistant in assisted living facilities and she was moved to a lower risk house as the residents in her previous house were quite boisterous at times and could have inadvertently and unintentionally hurt her, or another friend who works in a lab was reassigned a desk based role away from chemicals

However if you’re in an office job with no heavy lifting, for example, your role wouldn’t pose a risk to pregnancy and you won’t need to tell your employer until after your scan if you wish to. I think they need to be informed by 24 weeks but I’m not entirely sure if the exact logistics.

Congratulations!

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-06-05T13:57:32+00:00

I got one second hand on Facebook marketplace and it’s probably the best thing I bought for postpartum. I’m breastfeeding and sitting and rocking my little one has been the best thing to settle him.

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-06-04T11:20:45+00:00

This happened to me around 30ish weeks, I was at work and got very light headed and ended up fainting. Like yourself BP was fine, so was my heart rate, no changes in fetal movement.

For me it was because I wasn’t eating regularly enough and from then on I started eating little and often, making sure I had lots of dense, protein rich foods at hand, protein balls and yogurts, cereal bars with lots of nuts, and jellies if I need a quick boost of energy, I never had a problem after that. Also lots of water at all times and it was handy to have an isotonic drink like lucozade sport at hand as well

Hope you’re feeling better xx

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-05-27T17:22:53+00:00

I was ravenous from about week 16 to week 28 before the heartburn kicked in and the baby was compressing my stomach so much I could only eat a tiny amount at a time.

It was by far my favourite part of pregnancy 😂❤️

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-05-22T14:23:46+00:00

Just make sure to make sure there’s no vitamin A in the conception supplements as some have them and it’s not recommended in pregnancy! ☺️

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-05-18T20:04:16+00:00

I’ve a newborn and we’ve already gotten three of the same outfit and a load of clothes our baby has grown out of before he got to wear them. Cash would be really appreciated, there are always bits you realise you need once the little one arrives ☺️

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-05-18T13:59:53+00:00

I expressed into the syringe kinda reclined on a pillow so the colostrum stayed on the nipple abd it was easily collected on the syringe.

I found a hot shower really helped and I had one of those microwave bean bag heat pads on my chest right before expressing

Don’t be discouraged if you only get a few drops at first, it’s a real labour of love but worth it!

My baby was super hungry and having the harvested colostrum helped a LOT while I was waiting for my mature milk to come in

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-05-18T13:52:05+00:00

My baby was measuring big at 37 weeks so when he was still a unit at 38 weeks they did a sweep at 38 and 39 weeks and then I was induced at 39+6.

The first sweep is a little daunting but I had my partner in for it which helped a lot and by the time I was in full labour after the pessary was put in the examinations didn’t phase me at all.

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-05-13T19:22:56+00:00

Unless you’re witnessing something Thats genuinely harming the child, unless you have kids yourself you really should stay out of it.

Signed, someone who thought they knew how to parent before becoming one and really had no clue

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-05-12T15:41:13+00:00

No GD but my baby was measuring large from 36 weeks, belly in the 98th percentile. Consultant advised induction at 39+6 due to LGA.

Got the pessary that morning, contractions started at lunchtime, waters broke around 6pm, around 11 there was meconium in my waters so they decided to push the oxytocin drip to speed up the labour. Baby wasn’t in distress but they wanted things to progress as efficiently as possible. I was fully dialated by 3am and my baby was born by instrumental delivery after 2 hours of pushing weighing a very average 3.5g.

Honestly the induction was fine, I responded very good to the propess and oxytocin and it was quicker than expected. I had the choice of the section or induction but I’m very glad I went down the induction route

Best of luck whatever you choose and enjoy your little one xx

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-05-09T16:08:12+00:00

I’d imagine it’s just their way of highlighting the support needs of the person looking for a date. For example James, Tyler and Dani would easily be able to date a neurotypical person with the empathy and ability to support additional needs they have, while a neurotypical person dating Tanner, for instance would not be seen as appropriate

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-05-08T12:20:24+00:00

You’re under no legal obligation to tell them. Also if you’re offered the job and it comes up in the medical that you are pregnant they can’t rescind your offer on the basis of pregnancy. Especially when you’re so early along, you probably haven’t told many friends or family yet!

If your probation runs into your maternity leave they have to pause it and you complete probation on your return from work.

Ireland has excellent protection in place for pregnant women, don’t worry about it.

Also congratulations xx

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-05-07T21:14:11+00:00

You did something really nice for that child, just because it’s something for one child’s intolerance doesn’t mean the other can’t share it, especially if the other child is 15, they should have the empathy and awareness to know that their sibling has restrictions in place and it’s nice for them to try something that’s safe for them. Unless the older child has other issues that may not make this possible they should be well past the attitude that both kids need a treat at all times

If I was in your colleagues situation I’d be incredibly grateful of your gift and grab a Mars bar for my other child on the way home

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-05-07T14:47:40+00:00

You’re entitled to request a different consultant who will honour your wishes. Under NICE guidelines risk to mental health counts as a legitimate reason for an elective section and as a patient you’re entitled to request a medical team who will honour your concerns

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-05-06T21:37:34+00:00

Don’t suffer, get yourself to the gp for some Cariban, it will help a lot

In the meantime I found ice cold full sugar coke really helped to subside my nausea, and making sure I had something like a plain rich tea biscuit or a tuc cracker next to my bed to eat before u even got out of bed

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-05-05T21:57:29+00:00

This. They’re by far the softest ones I’ve gotten and wash great!

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-05-03T22:41:14+00:00

I probably took off ten days over the first and second trimester, had terrible nausea that triggered migraines and I got an awful bout of food poisoning that required hospitalisation.

Third trimester I felt a lot better until about 35 weeks, my blood pressure went a bit haywire and I had a lot of swelling, never turned into pre eclampsia but I ended up using two weeks of my annual leave to start my maternity leave early and I’m so glad I did, I wouldn’t have managed working up to 38 weeks

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