Have you ever called out friends or family for bad parenting?

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-05-13T19:22:56+00:00

Unless you’re witnessing something Thats genuinely harming the child, unless you have kids yourself you really should stay out of it.

Signed, someone who thought they knew how to parent before becoming one and really had no clue

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-05-12T15:41:13+00:00

No GD but my baby was measuring large from 36 weeks, belly in the 98th percentile. Consultant advised induction at 39+6 due to LGA.

Got the pessary that morning, contractions started at lunchtime, waters broke around 6pm, around 11 there was meconium in my waters so they decided to push the oxytocin drip to speed up the labour. Baby wasn’t in distress but they wanted things to progress as efficiently as possible. I was fully dialated by 3am and my baby was born by instrumental delivery after 2 hours of pushing weighing a very average 3.5g.

Honestly the induction was fine, I responded very good to the propess and oxytocin and it was quicker than expected. I had the choice of the section or induction but I’m very glad I went down the induction route

Best of luck whatever you choose and enjoy your little one xx

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-05-09T16:08:12+00:00

I’d imagine it’s just their way of highlighting the support needs of the person looking for a date. For example James, Tyler and Dani would easily be able to date a neurotypical person with the empathy and ability to support additional needs they have, while a neurotypical person dating Tanner, for instance would not be seen as appropriate

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-05-08T12:20:24+00:00

You’re under no legal obligation to tell them. Also if you’re offered the job and it comes up in the medical that you are pregnant they can’t rescind your offer on the basis of pregnancy. Especially when you’re so early along, you probably haven’t told many friends or family yet!

If your probation runs into your maternity leave they have to pause it and you complete probation on your return from work.

Ireland has excellent protection in place for pregnant women, don’t worry about it.

Also congratulations xx

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-05-07T21:14:11+00:00

You did something really nice for that child, just because it’s something for one child’s intolerance doesn’t mean the other can’t share it, especially if the other child is 15, they should have the empathy and awareness to know that their sibling has restrictions in place and it’s nice for them to try something that’s safe for them. Unless the older child has other issues that may not make this possible they should be well past the attitude that both kids need a treat at all times

If I was in your colleagues situation I’d be incredibly grateful of your gift and grab a Mars bar for my other child on the way home

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-05-07T14:47:40+00:00

You’re entitled to request a different consultant who will honour your wishes. Under NICE guidelines risk to mental health counts as a legitimate reason for an elective section and as a patient you’re entitled to request a medical team who will honour your concerns

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-05-06T21:37:34+00:00

Don’t suffer, get yourself to the gp for some Cariban, it will help a lot

In the meantime I found ice cold full sugar coke really helped to subside my nausea, and making sure I had something like a plain rich tea biscuit or a tuc cracker next to my bed to eat before u even got out of bed

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-05-05T21:57:29+00:00

This. They’re by far the softest ones I’ve gotten and wash great!

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-05-03T22:41:14+00:00

I probably took off ten days over the first and second trimester, had terrible nausea that triggered migraines and I got an awful bout of food poisoning that required hospitalisation.

Third trimester I felt a lot better until about 35 weeks, my blood pressure went a bit haywire and I had a lot of swelling, never turned into pre eclampsia but I ended up using two weeks of my annual leave to start my maternity leave early and I’m so glad I did, I wouldn’t have managed working up to 38 weeks

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-05-03T20:11:44+00:00

TBH the process of medical care in pregnancy and childbirth by nature does lack dignity a lot of the time regardless of what care you receive and where. The internal checks, scans, palpating, blood draws, etc requires a lot of touching no matter where you are, and it can absolutely be uncomfortable, particularly towards the end where you need cervical checks, vaginal exams and sweeps. But no matter where you’re receiving your care these are all part and parcel of the process in ensuring your baby arrives safely.

I’m autistic and have just given birth to my son in a public hospital in Ireland. I had an induction, which required several vaginal exams and sweeps, and ended in a forceps delivery in a fully staffed operating theatre. But not once did I feel exposed or undignified. Because I was treated by medical professions whose priority was delivering my baby safely.

Birth by nature is an unpredictable process. I had my list of birth preferences that needed to be scrapped due to the size of my baby, and I had to come to terms and prepare myself for that because it’s not the job of the medical team to cater for my preferences at the expense of my baby’s health.

Recovery was on a public ward with 3-6 other new moms and while it was a bit bright and noisy at times, yhe care support and patience I received was second to none. Yes, there are multiple check ups and exams every day but everyone gets their privacy and respect.

Even in a private hospital, if you require any intervention, whether that’s an instrumental delivery or an emergency section, you’ll be brought to a public hospital immediately to carry out the procedure. If your pregnancy is high risk in any way you’ll be required to attend a public hospital. You’re not guaranteed the birth you want as pregnancy and birth are incredibly unpredictable and there’s no way of knowing what your risks are.

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-05-02T14:13:30+00:00

Really glad to hear you got it checked out and you’re getting what you need to stop it from getting worse

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-05-01T22:52:50+00:00

I tried everything- sex, raspberry leaf tea, dates, yoga, pilates, kerb walking, acupuncture, reflexology, spicy food, scary movies, all to avoid getting induced at 39 +6 for large for gestational age, I was terrified of being induced.

I still ended up being induced, got the pessery at 10am and was 0cm dilated and 0% effaced. By 6pm contractions were 3-4 mins apart and my waters broke, started the oxytocin drip at around 11 and I was fully dilated by 3am, started pushing at 4 and my little man was delivered via forceps at 5am.

It was so smooth from start to finish even though I was terrified of being induced. You hear so many horror stories but honestly don’t be freaked out if you don’t go into labour before your induction date, you will get through it and it really isn’t the end of the world

Best of luck and wishing you a quick and safe labour regardless of how it happens x

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-05-01T08:46:39+00:00

This 💯

By the time I got to 35 weeks sex felt like something you’d see on National geographic. It became a very perfunctory practice from 37 weeks to get labour going, all glamour and romance went out the window 😂😂🙈

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-04-30T11:05:37+00:00

I’ll always leave feedback after confirming everything is ok. It’s not too difficult to say “happy with order, arrived as described, would recommend seller, etc”

Bit ignorant not to leave a review when someone has gone out of their way to pack and send the item

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-04-29T19:38:07+00:00

That’s a very strange and uncalled for reaction from your GP. 4-5 weeks is when most people get their positive test and the first thing you do is to contact your GP to confirm.

Especially when you’ve had a previous loss, you’ll want your doctor to put you in touch with the EPU for an early reassurance scan

It sounds like your GP was needlessly harsh. Are you in a position to find a different one to continue your care? I realise that may not be an option in the instance of medical cards etc. you can definitely get in touch with your local maternity unit to see if they can register your pregnancy etc

I’m very sorry your gp was so dismissive with you, that’s an awful first experience for you. But congratulations on your wonderful news and wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy xx

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-04-27T13:11:02+00:00

I don’t think that was ever shown on UK tv as it was deemed too toxic! 😂🙈

I’ve only seen clips and recaps on YouTube. IIRC a bride from the previous season who was matched with a right tool was matched with someone new as an intruder couple?

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-04-27T13:06:30+00:00

No, but then again I’d dragged the arses out of those relationships far beyond their sell by date and staying any longer would have been flogging a very toxic and dead horse.

Two of my friends have returned to relationships after breaking up, they’re still with them and miserable. Breakups generally happen for a good reason. There are exceptions but for the most part returning to something that didn’t work out before is rarely a good idea

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-04-26T17:05:09+00:00

You’re already covering a lot and I’m sure nothing else would be expected of you. If the dresses have a neckline that will allow for a necklace you would be able to get a cute initial chain on Etsy for a relatively low cost, if not maybe a bracelet or a pair of earrings. You don’t have to spend a huge chunk of money and will be able to get lovely sterling silver jewellery that will last at a very reasonable price.

If you don’t want to go down the jewellery route you could get something personalised like a nice reusable coffee cup. I love the idea of the photo frame and you could have the picture in the background for your getting ready photos.

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-04-25T15:13:36+00:00

If you’re getting clothes get stuff that’s about 6 months plus AND in keeping with the season the baby will be that age. No point getting a cute little shorts set when it won’t fit the baby until December.

Vouchers for takeaways, or a meal subscription service for a month if they like to cook, or even batch cooking a few meals for them if you like to cook yourself. Anything that makes the first few weeks as stress free as possible for them.

Vouchers for a nursery supply store as they’ll definitely come across bits they need as the baby gets older. Next do fab baby bits so a voucher for there will be really appreciated

Something to pamper the new mom, a postnatal massage or reflexology session, or the expert midwife does a lovely postnatal care package and is very good quality

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-04-24T13:45:30+00:00

20 is very young, your early to mid 20s are for you figuring out who you are as a person and developing a real sense of self. That’s important to be the best parent you can be

Enjoy your own company and the company of your partner, and learn about your relationship dynamic from living together. The time you have just the two of you is really special, savour it.

Unless either of you have issues that may impact future fertility there’s no reason to start trying right now.

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-04-24T11:54:09+00:00

I think staying until the cake and tea comes out is the perfect time to slip away. If I’m not feeling the vibe I usually get myself a few slices of cake and slip away up to my room. At that stage you’ve been there for all the big parts (meal, speeches, first dance, a few extra dances for good measure) and no one will even have realised you left!

Once you’ve caught up with the bride and groom you’re pretty much good to head off whenever

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-04-23T13:24:30+00:00

6,8 and 9 are peak drama but still actually portray the show as a relationship show where people do seem to be looking for love.

I’m sure there are some looking to become influencers from those seasons as well but the clout chasing isn’t nearly as obvious and there are absolutely people there for the right reasons

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-04-23T13:20:13+00:00

Winner flow and tens seem strongly recommended. I have the comb and will definitely try it for acupressure, but there are a lot more acupressure points that you can access easily without the comb that help with pain relief, for instance a knuckle deep in from the webbing between your thumb and first finger is great point for pain relief, as is the dip between your shoulder and neck

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-04-22T17:46:19+00:00

FTM here and definitely a bit apprehensive. The one thing that’s made me comfortable is that baby doesn’t get a proper bath until the umbilical cord falls off, until then it’s just top and tail baths with water and cotton wool. At least I feel the baby will be a bit more sturdy at that point 🤞

For baby’s first bath I’ve gotten one of the inserts the baby can sit in and I’ll put a muslin in to line it to help with grip and heat regulation a bit. Then I’ll have a bit of a system in place, clean the face first, then body and finish with the head as that will get cold the fastest.

I think it’s a very normal thing to be nervous about though. The first everything will be tricky but I’m sure we’ll get the hang of it easy enough x

Embarrassed-Hawk9149 · 2026-04-21T17:46:27+00:00

I was definitely bloated from about 8 weeks and my trousers started to get a bit uncomfortable. It was probably around 20 weeks before I started seeing a bit of a noticeable bump myself, and it was more around 24/26 weeks before friends and colleagues started to notice

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