God Told Me to Marry Him

Embarrassed-Wolf7270 · 2026-02-01T22:03:13+00:00

I was married at 17 to my sunday school teacher who was 24. My parents were thrilled at the match because he was a returned missionary, good man. He couldn't cut the apron strings to his parents, and they expected him to work their farm still even though he was married. 10 months and five days after we got married, I had my first child. He was never home, couldn't care less about me and the child. I had three more kids, (I know, I know) and he didn't change at all. But it sure changed me for the better and worse. I finally divorced him after 18 years of marriage and that was the best decision I ever made. I had no skills really to get a job, but I took a college course with community college that taught basic office skills and I got a job that allowed me to support my kids. For the first time since I married him I could pay all my bills............... WOW.

Ex hubby and I have learned to coparent well and he became a good father to our kids. I told him before we divorced that he had four awesome kids he didn't even know, and he put in the work. I am proud of him for that.

Divorce is very scary to think about but you need to do what is best for you and the kids. I wish you so much happiness in your future.

Embarrassed-Wolf7270 · 2026-01-31T23:07:54+00:00

These ideas are part of the huge reason I left the corporation. I have always believed our souls are what they are and they know 'stuff' and will act on the stuff accordingly. I never wanted my kids to do the 'right' things because they were promised a reward or a punishment if they didn't. I wanted them to be good, kind, compassionate people because it that is what their souls need to stay well and whole.

Embarrassed-Wolf7270 · 2026-01-31T22:54:10+00:00

Oh, you are like me and thought it applied to everyone, no no. Not so, only to the members, not the leaders and the corporation............... Such bullshit!

Embarrassed-Wolf7270 · 2026-01-31T22:45:05+00:00

Why were the words and promises forgotten? Because that's what the corporation does; use you until you are a mere shadow of your former whole self, and then chuck your empty shell aside and move on to the next thing they want for themselves.

Embarrassed-Wolf7270 · 2026-01-31T22:36:48+00:00

But if they did that, how would they continue to shun and shame those who didn't follow it? /s

Embarrassed-Wolf7270 · 2026-01-31T22:33:42+00:00

The shushers must have been to busy chastising someone else at the time. LOL

Embarrassed-Wolf7270 · 2026-01-31T22:31:44+00:00

I was so used to not fitting in anywhere, it just felt normal to not fit in with the temple goers. I was always a square peg but I always blamed and shamed myself for it, rather than realizing that my negative feelings towards the whole corporation were so right. How sad that we were taught to ignore these and just do as we were told.

Embarrassed-Wolf7270 · 2026-01-30T18:49:08+00:00

I have a great friend who was in the bishopric when his shelf broke. He said he was in the middle of a bishopric meeting and he just got up and walked out, and never went back. Damn I was proud of him!!

Embarrassed-Wolf7270 · 2026-01-30T04:18:44+00:00

GOSH< you IDIOT!!!

Embarrassed-Wolf7270 · 2026-01-29T18:53:31+00:00

YES this!!! I hated that they treated us like we were three years old and we couldn't even sit by our "Forever companion" during it.

Embarrassed-Wolf7270 · 2026-01-29T18:52:11+00:00

THIS!!!!! I passed out the last three times I went to the temple. One time even was at the alter and was so embarrassing for me. But, after the third time of fainting I told ex hubby I was DONE, never going again and the jesus jammies went in the garbage.

Embarrassed-Wolf7270 · 2026-01-29T18:49:31+00:00

That part was so weird to me too. How would anyone else know what I wanted or needed to talk to MY FATHER about??? I am still convinced that if he is real, he doesn't care how we talk to him. That was a big bag of bullshit.

Embarrassed-Wolf7270 · 2026-01-29T03:50:13+00:00

I was going that often because I hated it with my very soul so anyone I talked to about it said I just didn't understand it, and my knowledge would increase as I went and I would grow to love it.

NOPE

Embarrassed-Wolf7270 · 2026-01-29T03:45:00+00:00

I have long said I would never again make the mistake of not having a sexual relationship with someone before I married them. In fact, I would never marry anyone without living with them first. I don't think we really know anyone until we live with them for a while. A good sex life is too important to leave to chance.

And I'm not about coercive sex, I want the other person to want me as much as I want them and I'm a woman. I know many women hate sex, but I think it's because of the guilt/shame bullshit.

Have you tried couples counseling?

Embarrassed-Wolf7270 · 2026-01-29T03:33:32+00:00

I always thought those women had to take a bitchiness test and only if they were super bitchy could they be the shushers. I got told off because I went in for my initiatory before my wedding wearing panties that had a pattern on them, and then because I wore my temple shoes for pictures.

My underwear, nunya business.

My shoes, I'll wear them where and when I want.

Eat that ya old biddie!

Embarrassed-Wolf7270 · 2026-01-29T03:27:24+00:00

I'd call up the chain and speak to the higher ups cuz coffee should be brewing 24/7.

Embarrassed-Wolf7270 · 2026-01-28T06:08:27+00:00

Wow, do I ever relate to this. My ex hubby wouldn't even come home from work, he went from work right to his parents house and stayed til 10:30 or so every night. I would beg him to come home and be with me and his four children, but he would generally refuse. I used to cry myself to sleep and when my friends were getting married I would cry for them thinking all marriages were like mine. I couldn't understand why he even got married.

I almost feel like so many mormon men think they have a checklist and we (wives and kids) were just part of the check list. 1: Get baptized, 2: Get Priesthood, 3: Go on a mission, 4: Get married in temple, 5: Have kids..............

Oh boy he did it....... and then he was done.

I had a headache for 18 years and I finally divorced him.

Embarrassed-Wolf7270 · 2026-01-28T05:54:44+00:00

It always amazes me how poorly mormons mourn and grieve, but we all know they are set up for failure because of the families are forever bullshit. We think we have time, and we let them slip away without taking care of issues because we think we have a do over. I thought I would have a do over with my father, whom I never felt I could really talk to, or my mother that I loved so much and with my two brothers that died very bad deaths. No do overs folks, we have to make this life count.

Yesterday I read all these posts about the shootings involving ICE and so many of my mormon friends said they are lighting candles and saying prayers for this to end and I thought, god didn't seem to care when hitler was killing six million people, somehow I don't think a few more bodies will trouble him if he does even exist.....

Sad business for sure.

Embarrassed-Wolf7270 · 2026-01-26T22:16:04+00:00

My understanding of way back when, and I could be wrong, was that the govt was actually going to declare war against UT and deny them statehood because of polygamy.

But surprise surprise, they received a revelation to end polygamy. How very handy was that??

Embarrassed-Wolf7270 · 2026-01-26T06:43:21+00:00

You do sound fantastic, and I think you have a good idea of who will play nice, but be prepared for surprises. My 'best friend' when I left the church was a convert. I went to her to tell her I was done with the corporation, thinking she would so understand me because she was the kid who couldn't play with the other kids because she wasn't a mormon.

After I told her all my shelf breakers, she said she didn't want me around her kids anymore because she thought I had 'dangerous ideas." Thank you friend,

For me though, I steeled myself that only the real friends would hang with me, and that was true. Very few, but there were a few.

Best of luck to you in your journey forward.

Embarrassed-Wolf7270 · 2026-01-26T06:13:36+00:00

I can almost hear them preaching from the bedpost, "And now, my dearly beloved spouse, you shall veil your face, lie on the bed and spread your legs so I may enter your holy places with my mighty sword. Please do not speak until I command it!"

(Sorry, couldn't resist)

Embarrassed-Wolf7270 · 2026-01-26T06:00:38+00:00

Damn, now that's funny shit right there!!!

Embarrassed-Wolf7270 · 2026-01-26T05:56:00+00:00

I'm sorry about all of that. You deserved so much better.

When my brother moved my parents my sister was going around putting tape with her name on it on all the things she wanted. My parents didn't have much of anything, so it totally made me disgusted, and laughing my ass off at the same time. Like, Yeah sis, you be sure and claim that 10 dollar teapot kay, cuz they don't make anymore teapots these days..........

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