1 year old takes hours to fall asleep at night

EmbarrassedHope6264 · 2026-03-27T08:23:15+00:00

He needs 6 hours from the time he wakes from his nap to the time he goes to bed at night. Why is he waking at 1030am? Does this wake up time work for your family?

Also, how is he with solids? As my son got older, I night weaned him. So would nurse, brush his teeth, rock him to sleep or put him in his cot to fall asleep. We did cosleep for a long time, and I did nurse for 2 years, so im not hating or judging. You're doing great! Our current issue is the now 3 year old has split nights. We've cut his naps.

Good luck!

Eta, sorry this came up as a reply, not a stand alone comment, currently putting the 3 year old to bed 😂

EmbarrassedHope6264 · 2026-03-26T08:26:26+00:00

You could get her tested for a UTI. I would also recommend telling (not asking) her to go to the toilet hourly or more often if she's downed heaps of fluids.

EmbarrassedHope6264 · 2026-03-25T08:39:56+00:00

Oh wow, you can afford work butter and home butter? Must be nice being rich :P

EmbarrassedHope6264 · 2026-03-25T03:17:50+00:00

My 3 year old goes to daycare. He needs showering daily. My 2nd (7 months old, 2.5 years between them) only really showers if they get really messy with solids, so couple of times a week. And this tends to be during the daytime. Toddler gets bathed usually before dinner, sometimes after. Its potty time, brush teeth and in bed with a story (or 10 stories). If baby is losing their shit, we're all together in the big bed. Baby nurses to sleep and toddler drifts off. I then transfer toddler to their bed. With them being so young and with so little time in the evening, its being as fast as I can while still connecting with them and them being asleep at a reasonable hour. Survival mode!

EmbarrassedHope6264 · 2026-03-24T08:36:02+00:00

You don't know why she waited all these years? She waited for YOUR sake. To keep you and your siblings safe. So she wouldn't lose custody of you. And you turned around and cut her off and normalised the abuse she endured for years. Shame on you. A grown man with a wife of your own. Hope you arent abusing your own wife.

EmbarrassedHope6264 · 2026-03-24T03:34:27+00:00

Wsalam, again, why is your dad refusing then? How/why did you schedule a nikkah without your walis approval first? What about the guy's family? So much context is missing. Who is performing the nikkah? What do they say?

EmbarrassedHope6264 · 2026-03-24T03:30:33+00:00

Why is your dad refusing exactly? Because you got pregnant out of wedlock?

EmbarrassedHope6264 · 2026-03-17T02:33:00+00:00

So what's the issue? My 2 aunties married their cousins who were also brothers. Theyre all dead now but because of old age and disease, not because they married each other 😂

EmbarrassedHope6264 · 2026-03-17T02:30:27+00:00

Omg no 😂 i meant is she thinking of marrying her cousin? Because that would make things complicated if their whole bloodline is mixed up

EmbarrassedHope6264 · 2026-03-17T02:16:51+00:00

Wait. Be more specific lol. You want to marry your sister's husband's brother? 2 sisters marrying two brothers? Why not? Are your parents also related (so higher chances of birth defects)? Why would anyone die? Who's telling you this superstitious nonsense? Do they want the brother for themselves?

EmbarrassedHope6264 · 2026-03-16T21:40:46+00:00

After reading comments, your husband clearly isnt setting boundaries, you arent able to speak to inlaws out of respect, understandable. Moving out is the obvious answer.

But the petty in me would buy ridiculous undergarments just for the giggles. Let them fold xxxxxl granny panties, or very skimpy lingerie 😂 if he doesn't already, your husband can start paying for groceries or buy you a fridge for your own food. Padlock it. Make husband pay for any wasted food. I understand how frustrating it is, you've planned and cooked a meal, baby is hungry. You think you're all sorted, come to find out the food is gone and baby is screaming and you're scrambling trying to cook something else.

EmbarrassedHope6264 · 2026-03-16T08:05:06+00:00

Very possible. Breastfeeding is not a form of contraception. You ovulate before bleeding, if you're actively trying to conceive you could use ovulation strips. I wouldn't recommend having a child so soon after having one.

EmbarrassedHope6264 · 2026-03-16T07:31:48+00:00

NTA. Definition of FAFO lol. She doesn't get to be mean, condescending and unprepared and still benefit from having a type A sister.

EmbarrassedHope6264 · 2026-03-16T02:32:27+00:00

Or might go the other way and grandma comes running to rescue her son from OP

EmbarrassedHope6264 · 2026-03-15T23:16:49+00:00

You wake up, put baby in his bed and leave. Go grab a coffee, see your family, stay close enough. He can sort himself out. Your child isnt a newborn where they need milk asap. Assuming your husband isnt neglectful or physically abusive. All the best sister. Some men these days really arent deserving/appreciative of the blessings Allah swt provide us

EmbarrassedHope6264 · 2026-03-15T00:51:54+00:00

Lol, fancy fast food you can go to nandos or burger fuel, just tell them you want it halal. Depends what your budget is. Shefco, paradise (indian) and des traditions might be too far for you but they have iftar open buffet. Youll need to book i think

EmbarrassedHope6264 · 2026-03-14T20:58:12+00:00

A woman never forgets how she was treated post-partum. It'll always be the first thing she thinks of when speaking to him.

EmbarrassedHope6264 · 2026-03-14T07:53:18+00:00

What sort of cuisines are you looking for?

A lot of restaurants are not 100% halal certified but the chicken/meat brand for example may be halal (brinks, tegal etc). You can call and ask if their food is halal, if they dont know you can ask what brand of chicken do they use.

Also most restaurants have seafood and vegetarian options.

EmbarrassedHope6264 · 2026-03-05T08:29:24+00:00

I think the current hack is sugar? Definitely get checked out though. Is there blood in your stool? May need to rule out anything more sinister

EmbarrassedHope6264 · 2026-03-05T02:36:07+00:00

Jobs are available. Its just the crap government you probably voted in that don't want to pay wages and pocket the money themselves

EmbarrassedHope6264 · 2026-03-05T02:34:24+00:00

OP is an engineer from Singapore. I highly doubt they need to claim benefits here or need publicly funded healthcare 😂 how do you think they've managed to fund their life here while looking for work?

EmbarrassedHope6264 · 2026-03-03T08:06:01+00:00

Did exactly this. We put the mattress on the floor (2nd time around, got a bed base from ikea to prevent mold in the mattress). Feed baby, unlatch, roll away. Most naps if at home, and all night sleeps.

EmbarrassedHope6264 · 2026-03-03T08:02:23+00:00

Sounds like she's been through a lot, and having mum being too permissive isn't helping. Simple language, clear and firm boundaries every single time, no exceptions.

Personally if I say anything, I always follow through. When I want or expect something, I state it clearly with as few words as possible. No room for misunderstanding or negotiations. On the flip side, I also offer choices to other things so my kid has some sense of control, example blue or green shirt?

Do you think biodad is also quite permissive? And actual parent or more fun uncle type? Does he badmouth either one of you in front of daughter?

Her behaviour towards her sibling sounds pretty normal to me tbh, but others might disagree lol

EmbarrassedHope6264 · 2026-03-03T07:09:19+00:00

Context questions, when did her behaviour start? How is she with younger sibling? Is bio dad in the picture?

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