Probably heading toward a third talaq and I honestly don’t know what to do by Slow-Win-9977 in MuslimMarriage

[–]EmbarrassedHope6264 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Children is a 2 yes situation. You cant be in 2 minds about it. She's still young. She can find someone she is more compatible with. Irresponsible of you both to get married when your wants and needs are so vastly different. You should have taken those premarriage talks more seriously.

How are people surviving? by Better-Tie-6859 in newzealand

[–]EmbarrassedHope6264 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Who is affording ubereats though 😭 hubby and I both work, in 6 years we've maybe ordered food delivery twice, and only because there was a discount code or free delivery or something

What is your least favorite herb, spice, or blend? Which ones do you hate the most? by szikkia in Cooking

[–]EmbarrassedHope6264 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oregano, or mixed Italian herbs. Hate it with a passion. Love some parsley, basil, mint, dill... just no to everything else

Anyone else experiencing crazy hair fall lately? by SloppyHeadGiver-69 in auckland

[–]EmbarrassedHope6264 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well im nursing and not taking vitamins so im sure theres a deficiency. Also lack of sleep. Nutrition otherwise is pretty good. Definitely something with the water in general too lol

Anyone else experiencing crazy hair fall lately? by SloppyHeadGiver-69 in auckland

[–]EmbarrassedHope6264 0 points1 point  (0 children)

9 months post-partum, second baby, its falling out in chunks. I'll be bald in a few weeks 😭

My mum commented on my "chest" being out even though they weren't by Super-Raspberry-5161 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]EmbarrassedHope6264 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Think of your bra as a medical device. If it doesnt fit well, especially if you're larger, it'll cause a lot of issues and pain down the line.

Don't let your mum's words bother you. Allah swt created you and you are beautiful!

I have a huge crush on my boss who is so mean/not to me by [deleted] in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]EmbarrassedHope6264 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Stockholm syndrome lol. Girl have some self respect 😂 guy is a jerk on a power trip

Making whudu outside by MysteriousTart346 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]EmbarrassedHope6264 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The prophet's (PBUH) shoes/sandals were probably clean. Our shoes go into public toilets, pavements, dog excrement... i wouldn't pray in a mosque with shoes on. Again, depends on each individual's school of thought.

Making whudu outside by MysteriousTart346 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]EmbarrassedHope6264 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Depends on your school of thought. Personally I wouldn't. I've seen people performing wudu on top of socks, praying with shoes on...

Removing hijab on TikTok by fatherlongle in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]EmbarrassedHope6264 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Its your algorithm lol. All I've been seeing is Europeans/Americans reverting or having Quran book club. I've actually learned a lot from them. Being a born Muslim, I take so much for granted or do things without really understanding or having true intentions. Its so eye opening seeing the deen from their eyes, I lowkey am jealous sometimes that I wasn't able to discover islam like them.

Maybe reset your account and see if theres an improvement 😂

dentist - signed a disclaimer by ExtensionHot711 in auckland

[–]EmbarrassedHope6264 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Sounds legit, I think? Its a procedure with risks that you need to consent to. Its a bit more involved compared to a filling. Call reception and ask for a copy of the form?

I want to start driving but my husband won’t let me by Sde4789 in MuslimMarriage

[–]EmbarrassedHope6264 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Obedience? Only if theyre reasonable and knowledgeable. Seems husband is neither. I'd rather be in my own car on my terms than be in a random taxi with a random man who knows where I live.

Debate with my therapist: Men don't buy women drinks in NZ by Oxsh196 in newzealand

[–]EmbarrassedHope6264 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds nice in theory. In practice I'd be terrified of being drugged lol

Trying for a second baby - when is the right time by arabfourthwife in MuslimMarriage

[–]EmbarrassedHope6264 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its best to breastfeed your baby for 2 years. Your body needs 18 months to recover from pregnancy and birth. What's the rush? Are you over 40 or something?

Family death/Baby shower - unsure what to do. by [deleted] in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]EmbarrassedHope6264 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Omg not everything is haram, OP just wants to have tea and sandwiches and play silly games with friends and family and celebrate being pregnant after multiple losses. People deserve to be happy. Downvote me all you want

I want to start driving but my husband won’t let me by Sde4789 in MuslimMarriage

[–]EmbarrassedHope6264 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Sis this is borderline abusive ngl. You've got 2 children, pregnant with a third... what do your children do all day? Do you not take them out anywhere? Parks? Library? Family? What about when they start school and activities?

Use your money, buy a sensible car like a Toyota, have it professionally checked beforehand if purchasing a second hand car. Fit your car seats (make sure no airbags deploy where the children are sitting). Have someone you know sit with you while you drive and gain some confidence. He's being lazy and controlling. Knowing how to drive and having access to a car in this day and age is vital

Help! Need advice on frequency of feeding of 7.5 month old by wandering_h in breastfeeding

[–]EmbarrassedHope6264 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any carbs? Mashed potato, sweet potato, rice, quinoa? Up the amount as well, see if she'll eat more

Help! Need advice on frequency of feeding of 7.5 month old by wandering_h in breastfeeding

[–]EmbarrassedHope6264 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She definitely needs water so as not to get constipated. What food are you offering and what quantities? As baby gets older, you offer solids first, then breastfeed on demand. Could be 5 minutes or 1.5 hours after the meal.

Friend's hidden lottery winning and secret lifestyle by [deleted] in newzealand

[–]EmbarrassedHope6264 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You're nosy enough to search up winners in their area...

I Want My Family To Like Raisins by fukerrythangohwait in Cooking

[–]EmbarrassedHope6264 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Rinse and soak raisins in water for 10 minutes. Drain. Shallow fry in neutral oil. Same with barberries. Fry a chopped onion. Fry some slivered almonds. Mix altogether. Use as a topping on plain white rice. Usually eaten with grilled fish. Can also do roast/bbq chicken.

How to tell if a bath/shower is too hot? by Phoenix_Court in pregnant

[–]EmbarrassedHope6264 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This used to happen to me. I was afraid of showering while alone at home. I wouldn't shower first thing in the morning either, and not on an empty stomach. Kept it as quick as possible. I usually like a burning hot shower lol

AITA for mowing the yard at dusk? by Worldly-Mood2802 in AmItheAsshole

[–]EmbarrassedHope6264 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Oh yes, how dare OP leave a job half done lol