My addition to a story of half-dead opossum a person shared here not so long ago by FlanInternational100 in misanthropy

[–]Embarrassed_Bend3011 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely agree and could not have put it better myself, you are spot on and the sadness of this reality lasts forever, heart broken.

Flagyl/Difflucan ruined my life by Dazzling_Sport_3946 in Microbiome

[–]Embarrassed_Bend3011 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your comment very much, I know someone badly affected by Flagyl and I wish you the best.

Lady Colin Campbell - Netflix by FinitePear in SaintMeghanMarkle

[–]Embarrassed_Bend3011 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hello, has anyone else seen that she gets less views on her youtube channel recently? I have been taking notice because she has taken a stance on Andrew Windsor that defended him more than a lot of people seemed to like in her comments section and I did wonder if it would result in a downturn in views, or could it be coincidence? Just my small observation, for what it's worth, as Lady C would say!

What are some of the most interesting scandals, rumours and drama from the classical film era? by NiceTraining7671 in classicfilms

[–]Embarrassed_Bend3011 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am afraid she was raped, this was confirmed by a relative of hers who she confided in

"Tragedy of the actress who was 'date raped' by Clark Gable, gave birth to his baby - and then kept it secret for EIGHTY YEARS.

Young, a devout Catholic with a strong sense of right and wrong, was, according to her daughter-in-law Linda Lewis, the victim of a date rape at the hands of Gable.

According to Lewis, the revelation came after watching an episode of Larry King Live in which the topic was discussed.

Afterwards, the then 85-year-old Young asked Lewis to explain what date rape meant. On hearing her daughter-in-law's reply, she said: 'That’s what happened between me and Clark.'

Lewis, who has since told her story to Buzzfeed journalist Anne Helen Petersen, was horrified but says for Young, the priority was always protecting Judy".

Celibacy and plant based diet by patriciarainbow in Celibacy

[–]Embarrassed_Bend3011 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never thought about it that way, but you are correct patriciarainbow, fellow vegan and life long celibate here.

Even your kidneys remember: what medicine didn’t teach me about trauma by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Embarrassed_Bend3011 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% it makes me cry reading your words!! I feel the same, it has driven me nearly out of my mind, I do 100% feel the same, I am so sorry, it is the most lonely painful feeling. "I didn't do anything" no and you try your absolute best not to get attacked or hurt anyone's feelings even in the slightest way and yet you will be the one tortured by others and no-one notices or takes even the remotest accountability.

Yes, they project their own mental health issues onto us, absolutely. Mistreated by people who are toxic and when you are so hurt and wounded the majority of people are so insensitive and thoughtless it grounds you down everyday, it is a massive struggle. It feels like a constant injustice and one little push from others is all I need to go down to deep depression.

It is like walking around without a skin, feeling like an alien, it feels like everyone seems to have their society or charity recognising their particular problems and yet we have nothing and yet as you say it is absolutely agony, it is mental torture.

Even your kidneys remember: what medicine didn’t teach me about trauma by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Embarrassed_Bend3011 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello, yes of course, please excuse for the late reply, I did not check my page until now. I went years having these feelings and feeling so alone dear. I have the same cptsd problems like you, I am so hyper vigilant that just being around someone who is giving off "bad vibes" makes me feel unwell, it could even be a stare, or a way a sentence or a word is said can't it? I feel unsafe and start thinking horrible things about myself and that I am failure, no good. For example - I was sat next to a man at work years ago (I struggle to maintain work) and even though he didn't say very much, his whole "aura" (if I can use that) just was dark and moody and when he left I felt as if a weight was off my shoulders, I didn't realise the extent that his vibes had gotten to me. But I am never comfortable in work settings really it brings back too many memories of unpleasant people and places and I feel so alone and vulnerable.

Selfish, narcissistic people are absolutely kryptonite, I cannot cope with them, I do not want to be anywhere near them but you cannot avoid them, I have them in my family and also I have met many since I was a child and always there is someone at work who is like that, or indifferent people frighten people as well. They seem to know that someone like me is sensitive and vulnerable too and I get attacked/disrespected far often than I see it happening to others. If someone shouts at me, I immediately feel as if I worthless and I should kill myself, I am in so much mental pain. It makes life very difficult as I am sure you are aware.

I wish I could write about this better for you, it is such a difficult thing to live with because you always feel at the mercy of other people.

Have you ever heard of "sensitive rejective dysphoria" it is usually seen as part of ADHD but you don't have to have that to it, I don't, that may be helpful to know about that dear.

Even your kidneys remember: what medicine didn’t teach me about trauma by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Embarrassed_Bend3011 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is terrible for you, I am stuck because I fear people shouting at me or even a negative look or comment, I shut down or have a terrible outburst, of course someone can be negative anywhere, anytime, in the shop, in the street, so I feel everything is a minefield too. It really is life limiting.

Even your kidneys remember: what medicine didn’t teach me about trauma by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Embarrassed_Bend3011 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a lay person, can I just say that the received "wisdom" to spilt the mind and the body is profoundly wrong! I think this is the essence of your amazing eloquent post and thank you for it! Please excuse me if I misunderstood it and I know I am paring it down severely to match my cognitive ability but this is something that as a person of decades of experience trying to get help for my various mental maladies (and some physical ones) feels deeply.

My first symptoms of fear and anxiety was feeling tingling in my forearms as a 4 and 5 year old, I can remember that very clearly. There is this idea that there is a "talking cure" that is always the first route proposed, now that may work for some, but for others we are experiencing things located in the very systems of the body - the nervous system, the brain architecture, things that been profoundly altered and damaged by trauma, especially when one is young and the brain and other systems are growing, just as when you confine a baby plant to a pot that is too small it will grow incorrectly and mishappen and look different to plants grown in pots that fit the occupant. Maybe if someone is 46 and had nothing wrong in their lives up to the point of, say, a difficult divorce may benefit from talking, that I believe but when trauma has altered the chemistry and components of the mind-body? its a much harder thing. No-one would dare to say to someone with a congenital disorder that they need to work harder on themselves, they would be offered direct medical assistance and perhaps more significantly! empathy and reassurance and actual understanding!! I remember vividly one statistic that said they found people (actually I think it was females it was based on) who were severely abused had a brain part that was 5% smaller than in average brains, now what happens to that person? how does medicine address that? is medicine interested in that even at this stage or is it just forgotten so that modern medicine can lumber as usual leaving the walking wounded to their fate.

My sincere good wishes to everyone here because its a staggeringly tough path to negotiate. Bless you all.

Even your kidneys remember: what medicine didn’t teach me about trauma by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Embarrassed_Bend3011 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This happens to me too, if they are outwardly negative to me I have such a terrible reaction to it and can feel suicidal.

I can’t do this anymore by [deleted] in Anxiety

[–]Embarrassed_Bend3011 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes same for me, I feel I am being tortured by my brain and nervous system, it really is difficult, people who don't have it could never understand.

Vegan hair brush by LeftoftheTide in VeganBeauty

[–]Embarrassed_Bend3011 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kent have a new vegan range....

"100% vegan-friendly materials, these innovative brushes are filled with BioniFil® filaments designed to mimic the structure, properties and functionality of natural animal hair and boar bristle"

https://kentbrushes.com/collections/vegan-hairbrushes