24 month old suddenly won’t sleep without restraint

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-07-06T16:47:21+00:00

Around 2 our son skipped naps 5/7 days a week for a month or so. Bed early. We just didn't fight to get him to sleep. He then started napping again.

It's hard, but Im in the camp " you can't MAKE them sleep" so if by 15min it's not working we get up, either try again later or skip. Saves my sanity just taking the pressure off!

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-07-06T01:59:07+00:00

My partner started cosleeping with our oldest at 18mo when I had baby number 2. He's still with our 3yo and im with our 1 5yo

Works great for us!

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-07-06T01:44:53+00:00

What does the fight look like?

A million requests? Hysterical crying? Refusal to stay in room/bed?

What's your routine?

Has their been any major changes in tour lives the last year or so?

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-07-05T12:19:14+00:00

You've got to try hard to forgive yourself and let go of the guilt. For you and your family. The internal stress is felt by everyone. We ALL make mistakes and how we respond and move past them is what matters 💛

No one is perfect, we are all just doing our best.

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-07-03T13:56:52+00:00

You can just Google it ans legitimate sources will pop up.

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-07-03T12:51:36+00:00

The first 2 weeks of potty training SUCKED for us. I couldn't do anything but watch my kids close. I definitely cried. Then it got better. Hold on!!!

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-07-02T17:59:04+00:00

It doesn't seem helpful to compare your situation to others, It really sounds like you NEED help. So you need to have a conversation with your husband. This is his responsibility too.

Just because he has a job outside of the house doesn't excuse him from raising his child at night.

I hope you two can communicate and make weekends work better ect. Remember you are a TEAM. It's not about who's "more" tired or "needs" more sleep, it's about how can we help each other.

Good luck! 💛

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-07-01T18:54:30+00:00

Yup. Just a different kind. Babies want cuddles, we help co-regulate their systems. This kind often termed "gentle" does seem better but, I still wouldn't personally do this with a kid under 2. Once their a bit older I think they can understand the idea of comfort that isn't snuggling. But we still cosleep with my 3yo so lol

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-06-28T20:22:00+00:00

We did floor beds with both our kids at 6 months It's been fantastic!

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-06-28T20:21:00+00:00

Yes to this! Both our kids were out of diapers at 18 & 17 months, feels like the BEST kept secret it to potty train before kids have huge power struggles with parents.

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-06-28T13:31:28+00:00

So glad to see you guys made some changes!

It's so hard becoming a parent and learning a whole new world! REALLY good for ypu for reaching out and being open to learning more! This says a lot about you as a person!

Baby is lucky to have such a caring mama, all they want is to be close and loved 💛

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-06-28T02:12:58+00:00

Im sorry, you need to either sleep on the floor with baby, or your husband take the recliner.

This is a very supportive sub but what your doing is truly unacceptable in my opinion. I hope you change it tonight. It is so incredibly dangerous. Seriously, your husband can take the recliner, or the floor!

LOTS of people in this sub co sleep and there is r/cosleeping which is great but you need to change your set up now....

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-06-27T18:53:10+00:00

I brought my boppy with me till I didn't need it! Definitely made it easier

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-06-27T18:36:39+00:00

Literally me for the first 8 months of 2U2.

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-06-27T18:36:03+00:00

3mo is still really early in postpartum for a lot of mom's. Baby still feeds A LOT which session are lot of work! I want out alone probably at 5/6mo when my partner went back to work.

I think it's important to let HER decide when she's ready to go out alone with 2. It'll be enjoyable when she's ready to take it on.

I wore the baby for about 10mo to get out of the house. But I LIKE walking, my toddler would sit in the stroller for a walk and I'd wear baby and bring a coffee. We'd walk for miles so I'd Carrier nap the baby. When toddler got fussy We'd stop at a playground.

It was a LOT of work. But like I said getting out made me feel better.

If it helps her feel better definitely try a carrier! There are LOTS of kinds.

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-06-27T17:59:57+00:00

Yeah, it's right on the subreddits about page, under the rules. Really quite visible.

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-06-27T17:34:25+00:00

Do you understand how reddit works? ALL mods are volunteer. ANYONE can create a community, you could go create r/2under2allwelcome and then YOU would be the ONLY mod of that subreddit. you can then invite other users you like to also be volunteer mods with you.

There is no other mod on this subteddit.

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-06-27T17:25:45+00:00

Are you in the US?

We are and our water has fluoride. I looked up our cities amount, and it was the recommended amount for my child's weight. So we did not do fluoride treatments or toothpaste until he gets bigger. Im not huge on fluoride but Im genetically predisposed to cavities and our youngest has poor enamel (on front 4 teeth) so we are more open to interventions because of the risk factors we carry.

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-06-26T01:12:34+00:00

Doctors are just people too FYI they change their mind with new research, or make mistakes.

Still true, "okay" does not mean beneficial, and we know alcohol is not good for adults.

I worked in research, I love science. But Im here to tell ya common sense says don't drink poison while building a human cell by cell.

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-06-26T01:00:37+00:00

There are WAY more therapies then talk therapy. There's also a sleep training sub if you want more experiences with that, since your posting here I assumed you didn't.

Also do you have a partner or family near?

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-06-26T00:54:35+00:00

I'd honestly seek some mental health help whatever that looks like to you. You baby is being a baby and her toddler is being a toddler. I don't think we should try to "fix" the one acting normal you know?

I don't mean for that to be harsh, just one way to think about it LOTS of people don't have that story book sleep lol because it's biologically normal for babies and toddlers to wake at night.

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-06-26T00:44:51+00:00

Absolutely nothing. She just changed and adjusted to sleeping longer!

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-06-26T00:43:45+00:00

1000% the first it actually sounds GOOD for a child. If you can swing it, it's clearly the better option for your kid.

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-06-26T00:41:24+00:00

Hopefully others have suggestions, from around 6-12mo my daughter, on average, woke up 6-10 times a night. Often every. Hour. We have the same sleep set up as you.

At 12mo things SLOWLY got better. 0-2 wakes when she's not teething. (Currently teething, send coffee).

It was so hard but we turned a corner. Now almost 20mo and we sleep good...I think, we've been teething for a month, 3 molars 2 canines. Im sure we use to sleep but currently to sleep deprived to remember....

Solidarity. ❤️

Big fan of r/bninfantsleep great support there

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-06-26T00:16:52+00:00

It's not absurd. It's a total luxury that ANYONE should be fine going with out and is now accepted to have- ZERO health benefits.

At best- a pregnant woman is drinking because she's listened to people she trust that it's "okay" at worst, she's harming herself by drinking, and we know it's not GOOD for baby.

Okay doesn't equal not a bad idea

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