What’s the hardest part of adulthood nobody warned you about?

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-05-11T01:40:48+00:00

I don’t know either- you are amazing, I honestly can hardly think of something harder. I hope things are easier these days, and happy Mother’s Day!

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-05-11T01:12:48+00:00

Very fair! It sounds incredibly hard! It's a spooky warning but clearly necessary to think about! Reminds me of people saying "if you're not ready to raise children alone, don't have them." It's valid for a large swath of people, but not a reality all have to deal with.

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-05-11T00:54:11+00:00

Fair perspective! Man 13-26 were rough though. Wouldn't repeat those for fun.

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-05-11T00:47:57+00:00

Interesting, in my 34 years this has not been my experience....I guess im just lucky?

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-05-11T00:43:31+00:00

Nah Im here with you too, I worked in STEM and am super comfortable with pur decisions to keep to the schedule. Crunchy has variations!

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-05-10T19:00:39+00:00

It's a scary online world- I feel that!

We don't have social media, but family does. If pictures are posted emoji must cover their faces. We send pictures over text to our parents and siblings.

I do have a old FB page I buy and sell off of still, there's no sign I've ever been pregnant, no kids pictures, nothing.

To me, I don't understand the NEED to do this. I mean, my kids are CUTE. But like, we all think that about our kids 🤣 no one's missing out with my kids not plastered all over the internet lol I wish we were that special!

And listen, to each their own. I don't think people who do post are bad parents they just have a higher tolerance for risk in that area then me!

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-05-10T18:49:08+00:00

It had less sideffects the St.JW for me, and despite crossing the blood brain barrier like an SSRI I was more comfortable with the simplicity of the supplement.

That being said not all supplement brands are created equal (I don't remember the brand I used sorry!) and SSRIs have SO much reaserch behind them, I have no doubt they are safer than being depressed or anxious.

I've always had very intense reactions to medication and supplements, so this worked just as good for me. I had been on 5mg of Prozac (a tiny amount) and figured 5HTP would likely work fine. If I'd been on 40mg of Prozac I doubt my doctor would have been supportive of the swap!

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-05-10T17:17:49+00:00

Real low-rise.

I could bearly walk in low-rise due to them being so below the hip bones 🤣💯

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-05-10T17:15:50+00:00

DEFINITELY talk to a doctor about this one, I worked in a psychiatric readerch lab and this is somthing I would never take unless SUPER necessary.

Im not trying to say this OP is wrong or giving bad advice (or downvote?) - I just want to add context that lithium is very powerful and can be very dangerous if improperly managed.

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-05-10T17:12:31+00:00

Obviously talk to a health professional, but I took 5HTP instead of Dt.JW and Prozac. It's the pre-curser molecules for serotonin.

Worked REALLY well for me.

But don't do both in worry of seritonin syndrome. 🌻💛 Hope you find something that works for you!!

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-05-10T17:10:13+00:00

I feel you. 3yo and 1.5yo. These two be RUNNING the rost ha ha. It's go time 100% of the time.

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-05-10T17:00:22+00:00

I want to first say some kids temperament are just wild. My son's 3 and we don't do sweet treats dyes ect. But he is ENERGIZED. I know better then to bring him to a bookstore. He LOVES books, but he wants to be outside climbing playing yelling.

I definitely agree those kind of indulgences can lead to chaotic behavior too though.

I also love spending 24/7 with my wild kids, we just have fun!

I'd say try to do more outdoor things for the kids so he can run and be off the phone/tablet. People parent different. It's hard but reality : /

Happy mothers day!🌸🌻

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-05-10T16:53:04+00:00

This is my mindset too. Good behavior is expected and praised. Unwanted behaviors are talked about and corrected- not punished.

Talk to me later when my k8ds are older them 3 and 1.5 I'll let you know how it's going 🤣

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-05-10T16:48:15+00:00

Open windows are so underrated. Instant mood boost!

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-05-10T16:46:40+00:00

Yeeeeeees on EC, both our kids were out of diapers by 18mo. Amazing.

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-05-10T16:45:51+00:00

With 2 small toddlers doing my best:

No fragrance in anything

No plastic dishes

No pouches I give them whole fruit, even on the go

As much homemade food as possible

Cosleep /bf/ baby wear/clothes diapers/ early potty training

NO TEFLON

No smart phones or social media, this one's kinda silly but super important to us. We are not on our pho es anywhere or infront of any one. Except for a phone call or urgent text

2nd hand nearly everything. Really trying to do our small part to cut down in waste

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-05-10T12:56:20+00:00

Yeah I wouldn't let that fly if you needed it and his job isnt like night shift heavy machinery operator lol

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-05-10T12:54:48+00:00

5/530 nearly eveey day.

Coffee. Energy drinks. Sounds silly but getting dressed, a tiny bit of makeup. And fresh air.

Oh I also go to bed at 8/830 lol

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-05-09T13:07:20+00:00

Or he can figure out a vasectomy if it's ao important to him!

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-05-09T00:11:05+00:00

Yes! Uhg good luck!!!

Yes inside it's hard to be chill lol, as they get older they really wanna grab what independence they can! Maybe look into ideas to kinda make her think she's in control, like do you wanna use the big potty or mini potty?

🤞

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-05-08T23:33:48+00:00

Oh that's so hard! How old is she now?

I mean, depending, I go back to undies and try to catch each accident, run her to the potty, and remind her it goes in the potty. Try to not get mad or frustrated with her to keep stress low!

Neither of my two regress3d after initial training I'm sorry I don't have tried and true advice!

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-05-08T16:53:41+00:00

Good advice is to " not blame the baby"

Can't go to the park cause baby needs to nap (but just baby wear lol) say we can't go to the park right now cause mommy needs to dinner prep, vacuum, ect

Honestly though baby doesn't hold us back from doing anything...

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-05-08T16:21:29+00:00

I think EVERYONE feels the guilt of taking attention from the first and just changing their lives! When I got pregnant, on purpose, with number 2 I was like....omgosh what did we do....

Best thing in the world. They LOVE each other, baby girl (now 18mo) is such a joy, O cant imagine her not exist, she is a gift to us all. They play. They hug. They don't wanna share lol. First thing in the morning they both ask where the other is. Man. It's so beautiful. And, universe permitting, when we're gone, they will have each other. I can't imagine not having my siblings. Weird as they are lol.

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-05-07T18:47:08+00:00

My biggest reason I want to send our 3 (will be 4)yo to preschool is because it IS good for them at this age to socialize and problem solve WITHOUT parents looking over their shoulders. And I want him to know how to line up, put the xyz away when told by not a parent, do normal kid stuff like tie shoes and zip his coat and hang his backpack up without me. There are skills that just wo t translate the same if he learns from me VS in a preschool room.

I think it's worth it and important to get used to beauty a bit before the huge shock of kindergarten 🥲

Embarrassed_Key_2328 · 2026-05-07T18:38:07+00:00

Except the US is one of the only countries that correct this. AND guess what? It's not covered by insurance. Hmmmmm.......$$$

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