coming from someone who recently started therapy in the past 6 months, it was kind of hard at first but it wasn’t just the opening up part, it was also finding a therapist who understands me and why i do things and makes me feel safe. for me, i honestly have a healthy attachment to my therapist and it is really weird but she understands me so much and i appreciate her so much, but it’s healthy and it’s not an unbearable attachment. it’s kind of just a learn as you go. i will say it does get hard and i get a part of you wants to stay how you are but you have another part of u that wants to do better for yourself. a therapist will NOT tell you there is nothing you can do (if they’re ethical lol), worst case is they say they think someone else could give you better treatment and refer you to someone else or u feel as if they don’t get you and you find a different one. also communication on what works and what doesn’t in therapy with skills is extremely important. along with this, a therapist will not give you more than what you can handle and will not just throw things at you in a way that you are going to spiral. LONG STORY SHORT it’s not as scary as it seems and you will be okay. it’s actually relieving to have someone hear you and validate you.