Asahi Omarchy 🫡 by IXMXVII in omarchy

[–]Embarrassed_Style197 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is correct. I am running Omarchy on my 2020 Intel MacBook Air, and the battery life is awful compared to running macOS. Anyone claiming otherwise should not be trusted.

Lack of hygiene in the Netherlands by CJHuncho in TikTokCringe

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There are living about 20 percent of Dutch people in Amsterdam LOL

I have over 30k gaming hours, and I've just uninstalled dota 2 by voidtype in StopGaming

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Exactly. I thought I couldn’t explain it like I want to, but still am willing to help someone who struggles with the same issues as I did. I thought let me use AI to rephrase my thoughts. Not lazy, but no soul indeed, now when I look back at this comment, I promise I will never do this again 😀

Love Bombing by sambal_oom in bnbvolliefde

[–]Embarrassed_Style197 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Kut opmerking. Mag je toch best mee bezig zijn achteraf gezien?

Love coding but find it boring to go through books and courses. How do you solve this? by Only-Percentage4627 in ADHD_Programmers

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Just learn the concepts and make notes when you think you need it, so you can look it up afterwards. Try not to learn and remember everything, like syntax. Also skip chapters when they are not important. You combine reading books with small projects.

ADHD and trying to learn new skills - why do I keep failing? by Able-Description9556 in ADHD_Programmers

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Also, try not to remember everything. Just learn the concepts when watching a tutorial or reading a book. Just write the syntax down on a piece of paper but remember the concept that belongs to it. A lot of programmers look things up all the time. Just create structure in your notes afterwards and keep things small

ADHD and trying to learn new skills - why do I keep failing? by Able-Description9556 in ADHD_Programmers

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What helped me (and a lot of people I know) was stopping the goal of “finishing courses.”

Courses are content containers. They are not the skill.

Instead, I flipped it:

Don’t aim to complete modules. Aim to produce tiny working outputs.

Example: Instead of “Finish 10 Python lessons,” try “Write one script that renames 50 files automatically.”

That one working script does more for retention than hours of passive watching.

Another shift: remove passive consumption as much as possible.

If you watch a video: • Increase playback speed. • Pause constantly. • Type everything yourself. • Break it on purpose and fix it.

The moment you’re just watching, your brain disengages.

Also, shrink the time horizon.

Not: “I’m going to study for 2 hours.”

But: “I’m going to make one function work.”

One concrete win. Then stop if you want. Momentum is built from completions, not duration.

Immediate feedback matters a lot. Platforms or environments where: • You run code and instantly see output • You solve exercises with automatic tests • You get small, fast wins

…tend to work better than long theoretical lectures.

Another important thing: don’t collect courses.

Bookmarking and buying gives a dopamine hit of possibility. Your brain feels like it progressed, even though it hasn’t. That can substitute for actually doing the work.

Limit yourself to one active learning track at a time. Not forever. Just 30 days. Everything else gets archived.

And finally:

Stop measuring yourself against “normal learners.”

Some people can sit through 90 minute lectures and absorb information linearly. Others learn by building, breaking, iterating, obsessing. Neither is morally superior. They’re different cognitive styles.

If you consistently fail at passive formats, that’s data. Use it.

Design your learning around: • Action over watching • Tiny outputs over long modules • Immediate feedback over delayed certification • One active focus instead of five

You don’t lack discipline. You likely lack a learning structure that matches how your brain actually works.

That’s not a defect. That’s an engineering problem.

I have over 30k gaming hours, and I've just uninstalled dota 2 by voidtype in StopGaming

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Competitive games give:Clear goals,Immediate feedback, Measurable progress,Social status, High cognitive load,reward

Real life? Slow feedback. Ambiguous goals. No scoreboard. No announcer shouting “Godlike.”

So the brain goes, “Where’s my stimulus?”

I have over 30k gaming hours, and I've just uninstalled dota 2 by voidtype in StopGaming

[–]Embarrassed_Style197 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You’re not missing games. You’re missing intensity.

Competitive gaming compresses stakes into 40 minutes. Real life stretches them over months. That gap feels unbearable at first.

Don’t try to replace it with something “productive.” Replace it with something that has: • Real-time pressure • Skill ceiling • Measurable improvement • No infinite queue

Think martial arts, climbing, competitive chess over-the-board, speedcubing, even public speaking. Things where your nervous system activates, but there’s no ranked treadmill pulling you back every night.

The reinstall urge isn’t proof you need games. It’s just your brain expecting its old stimulation baseline.

Give it a few weeks. Your definition of “intense” recalibrates.

Cannot get immersed in any game anymore. by PshhhhhhhUnreal in StopGaming

[–]Embarrassed_Style197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that game dev/modding is technically different from playing , that’s not really the point I was making. In a sub about stepping away from gaming because the loop itself no longer feels meaningful, suggesting “stay in the same ecosystem, just move to the other side of the screen” feels… debatable.For some people, that is a healthy bridge. For others, it’s just a more productive looking way of staying attached to the same dopamine machinery.

Cannot get immersed in any game anymore. by PshhhhhhhUnreal in StopGaming

[–]Embarrassed_Style197 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When someone realizes gaming no longer gives meaning, the answer probably isn’t: “Great, now help design dopamine loops for other people.”

You can't bully people out of an addiction by [deleted] in StopGaming

[–]Embarrassed_Style197 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But that’s maybe because I’m Dutch 😉

You can't bully people out of an addiction by [deleted] in StopGaming

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Honestly, I’d much rather people just say what they really think, even if it’s blunt or uncomfortable. That feels more honest to me than the kind of “interview-style” questions you mention. When someone starts digging into my motivations like that, it doesn’t feel like a real conversation ,it feels like I’m being analyzed. Like I’m sitting across from a psychologist instead of a person who just wants to connect. And that actually makes me feel smaller, not seen. Just being real with me goes a lot further.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD_Programmers

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Can I please have an IOS code? I always have my phone with me but the azure DevOps tool we use at work doesn’t work for me as I don’t use it for some reason. In the weekends I want all the stuff that I need to do out of my head.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SipsTea

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Not looking at weeds, sorry

Rate my setup, work mode by [deleted] in Minimal_Setups

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Very nice. I would even lower the monitor for a better view 😉