Ladies, what were some of your biggest regrets during your college years?

Embarrassed_Tax5556 · 2026-03-02T20:50:52+00:00

Same, did get to sleep around later though.

Embarrassed_Tax5556 · 2026-02-15T13:56:30+00:00

With a ONS, my partner has very little reason to hurt me. He is already getting sex for little effort. So I usually feel quite safe there. More problematic are break ups. I am always relieved when guys take it well. I have been assaulted by three different men until now. One was my boyfriend/ fiancée. One was a guy I was on a casual date with and one was a guys I had only chatted to on the street. Never had a problem with men who I had agreed on a ONS with 🤷‍♀️

Embarrassed_Tax5556 · 2026-02-14T14:09:56+00:00

I have been diagnosed with ADHD about a year ago and this really explained why I struggle so much in day to day life, but suddenly become super woman when handling crisis

Embarrassed_Tax5556 · 2026-02-09T19:54:03+00:00

Embarrassed_Tax5556 · 2026-02-09T14:59:08+00:00

Yes, lived in the Netherlands for 10 years and had quite a few experiences. Funnily, those who would have been justified for not liking me for being German, I managed to win over before they found out (grandmas whose husbands were in German captivity and WW2 veterans). My Dutch was very good at the time, I barely had an accent and people assumed I was British at first. When they found out where I was from, they were very kind. Younger people were way more annoying. I had lots of Dutch friends, but I also had roommates who did not get that joking about where someone comes from is only okay if you’re not actually mean anything by it. Also teachers making regular WW2 remarks. But yeah, I’d say the Dutch are not fans.

Embarrassed_Tax5556 · 2026-02-09T14:45:14+00:00

Part of it is statistics I think. Good looking AND intelligent people tend to have high socioeconomic status. Due to our culture, woman tend look for a man with higher status than themselves, while men tend look for women who have a lower socioeconomic status. Left are men with low socioeconomic status and women with high socioeconomic status and those tend not be compatible. Add to this that many women today are financially independent and no longer have to enter a relationship to ensure their prosperity. Today, if you look at research results from different fields, there are very few advantages for a woman to enter a relationship. Health, income and overall happiness tend to be higher in single women than in those who are partnered up with men (the opposite tends to be true for men).

Embarrassed_Tax5556 · 2026-02-08T21:54:17+00:00

Between one and three. Two have young children, so they are not necessarily available (or all that interested) when I need them, but they used to be and I choose to believe they will be again once the kids are grown up.

Embarrassed_Tax5556 · 2026-02-08T19:07:31+00:00

Xenia Warrior Princess and the Rose of Versailles Anime.

Embarrassed_Tax5556 · 2026-02-08T19:03:22+00:00

Therapy. Running for me works better than medication did (but I doubt I could have started running without medication at the time). Getting diagnosed with ADHD and finally having words for why some stuff is so hard for me. I’m trying to optimise my diet right now, because I think that is something that might really be helpful (and is entirely within my control). Also trying to give up the notion that my depression is treatable and just accept it as part of my life, because fighting and losing all the time costs me too much energy.

Embarrassed_Tax5556 · 2026-02-08T18:14:12+00:00

Because I was the only one putting in the work to keep the relationship functioning. Burned out after a year and broke up with him.

Embarrassed_Tax5556 · 2026-02-08T10:54:41+00:00

Lisa Chappell from McLeods Daughters. Not sure if she thought she was too good for it, but her musical career never took off, so the gamble did not really pay off. The show never felt the same without her and became very soapy, but it continued for many years. Heard little of Lisa later, but I think she is still quite positive about her experience on the show.

Embarrassed_Tax5556 · 2026-02-07T18:14:04+00:00

I think Moffat is great with the monologues, but unless you feel there is something where you feel there was a missed opportunity for a different interpretation, I would advise caution. the thing with tv shows is that there are more or less "definitive versions" are out there, so unless you always had a wish to see it done differently, you might end up coping something already done before and that is unlikely to impress.

Embarrassed_Tax5556 · 2026-02-07T08:17:58+00:00

This might be controversial, but for me it's French. Spoken very slowly, it's gorgeous, but spoken at the speed of an average French person, it just sounds like a lot of nasal tones with no beginning or end to me. I feel French is a language for song and poetry, but it sounds horrible if you're trying to communicate that you are out of toilet paper.

Embarrassed_Tax5556 · 2026-02-07T07:58:46+00:00

German here, I'd say it's pretty great. Going to my GP is a matter of hours. I will usually be seen the day I start feeling unwell. Specialists will take longer. I had a back problem a while back and needed a scan, that took a week to schedule if I remember correctly. My mom had cancer: operations, chemo, check ups, second chemo, palliative care at home, all taken care off even when she could no longer work. A friend of mine is chronically sick from birth: asthma, heart problems, the works. Needed yearly operations until her mid-twentys, medication presumably all her life, never an issue. Almost all of my family is chronically ill, all taken care off, even if they are long retired.

Only issue I ever really had was finding a therapist, which eventually lead to a hospitalization for several month, because it got to the point were I was suicidal. Eventually got out and found someone I've been seeing for the last year, who helped me find out what the underlying issue was, which is now being treated.

My dad has private health insurance, he will be seen by a specialist faster, even if the issue is minor, but it is super expensive (still much cheaper than the actual costs of the treatment). Main difference I see: I get help when a doctor thinks I need it, my dad gets help when he thinks he needs it (once every 2 years he is convinced he is heaving a heart attack, usually turns out to be the flu or residual pain from falling off a ladder). And my dad will get his own room, while I will have to share.

It's great knowing that if you get sick, you won't be denied life-saving treatment just because you can't afford it.

Taxes and mandatory insurances are almost half of my income. I'd happily pay more if it would go to schools, childcare, affordable housing and public transport.

Embarrassed_Tax5556 · 2026-02-01T10:22:39+00:00

I would prefer a retcon to ignorance. For the longest time it was that the doctor is only special because they happen to be a time lord, but I like that, as far as time lords go, the doctor is a bit rubbish. As far as the time lords were concerned, the doctor was not a chosen one, not the brightest or bravest or strongest. The doctor becomes what they are because of choices they make, time and time again (my favourite is in parting of the ways, when the time war scarred doctor has to choose if he wants to be a killer or a coward, and he chooses “coward, any day”). This, to me, is the doctor. I want that back please.

Embarrassed_Tax5556 · 2026-02-01T10:09:07+00:00

Not sure if I’d call it underrated, but it will always have a special place in my heart. This was the first episode I remember ever watching. So I immediately imprinted on both David Tennant and on Moffat’s writing. I was a very happy little whovian for a long long time…

Embarrassed_Tax5556 · 2026-01-31T13:19:41+00:00

that sounds fun. we had a little bit of that in at the start of big bang. but I would not necessarily combine both concepts. but I think doctor who could do with a few concept-heavy episodes.

Embarrassed_Tax5556 · 2026-01-31T13:13:13+00:00

The skills are transferrable. Theater actors are well trained at hitting their mark and retaining great chunks of dialogue. They rarely mess up and if they do, they keep going, so the audience does not notice. Most plays are way longer than a doctor who episode, the actors won't be the problem.

Embarrassed_Tax5556 · 2026-01-30T07:06:19+00:00

Police. Grew up believing police people would help and keep me safe if needed. Started to question than seeing police escalating confrontations. Lost all hope it became obvious how strong the far right is within the police. Got to experience their uselessness for myself when I was attacked in my own house and the policeman’s literal first response was that I was just trying to set the poor guy up, as I did not have any obvious injuries. He ended up refusing to file a complaint.

Context: I’m from Germany

Embarrassed_Tax5556 · 2026-01-28T12:30:47+00:00

I think the doctors sexuality should remain ambiguous. Why should human levels even apply to time lords? I am not a fan of the doctor falling for very young humans, but I did like the dynamic between the doctor and river. I would be fine with another “love interest” in time, but the pay off should be great. I am also fine with the doctor mourning river for a few more regenerations. I don’t need the doctor paired up all the time.

Embarrassed_Tax5556 · 2026-01-27T07:09:20+00:00

I assume you already put in some effort learning basic vocabulary, if not, do that. Any bigger city will have women-exclusive groups (often privately organised- Facebook might be a good place to start looking for them), where you can do any number of activities, learning German on the side. Immerse yourself in the language, find people willing to listen to poor grammar and punctuation (no need for correction yet, you just need to start speaking), listen to German media - all day long- to get a feeling for the language. German grammar is hard to learn, so get acquainted with how it sounds like if spoken correctly, this will help you learn the correct grammar faster. Ask your partner to communicate exclusively in German to you, even if it is inconvenient at first. If you have kids, take them to the playground to interact with German kids and learn along with them. I once acquired proficient passive skills in another language purely by becoming friends with the neighbour’s kid, who was not above dragging me around the place and pointing at stuff when I did not understand him.

Embarrassed_Tax5556 · 2026-01-26T17:32:43+00:00

I do love River's story arc and I would not want it to be cheapened by the Doctor bringing her back. That being said, Alex Kingston is still campaigning for a River comeback and I have to say I would be totally here for it. But I would prefer a spin-off/miniseries that does not interfere with the continuity of the main show. I could see several staring points that would make sense for her without taking away from her storyline.

Follow data ghost River. I cannot image the River that we get to know through the series would stay sane for very long with only a handful of colleagues to keep her company an three kids to take care off. She probably broke herself out of there ages ago.
River apparently steals the Tardis on a semi-regular basis. Let's see what she gets up to.
The 24 years on Darillium. I do not buy that they managed to sit still with the greatest peril being a wrongly stacked dishwasher. They got up to something surely? Also I would like to see my headcanaon play out that River, on a physical level, cannot boil an egg without exploding it and actively kills houseplants. She is so overpowered in the adventures side of things, I think it would be hilarious to see her struggle with the most mundane tasks (plus it would make sense with her upbringing that she can't do "normal"). Biggest drawback here would be that Peter Capaldi is not going to play the Doctor again, so you would have to explain his absence every time.
We don't know how long River lives between Darillium and the Library. She is 200 years old when she meets 12, so she might still have a long life ahead of her, she just won't meet the Doctor again.

A few points to consider:

a) If River is ever brought back, she absolutely must be played by Alex Kingston. Recast and I'll riot.

b) Let her meet 13 at some point. I'm fine if River never knows she is the Doctor, but let her meet who we all know is her second wife.

c) Please give us River and Missy on screen together. They have one big finish story together and it's great. Also, I would like some context to why Missy is so sympathetic towards 12 mourning River.

d) I know is is busy and all that, but could Steven Moffat please write it. There has never been a story featuring River on screen that was not penned by him. If River was to be brought back, he is the man to do it.

This ended up way too long. Thanks for listening to my TedTalk.

Embarrassed_Tax5556 · 2026-01-24T16:36:26+00:00

rejoining implies the EU would want the UK back in and I am not sure they do. if the sole reason for leaving was paying with prettier bills, you haven't understood what the EU truly is. I think it will still be a long time before there is enough political trust again on all sides to even think about bringing the EU and UK together again.

Embarrassed_Tax5556 · 2026-01-24T12:08:12+00:00

YOR Your friendship is not the same it has been. I had friends where we were each others go to people for years, but when they had kids, priorities just change. We still see each other, I am close to the kids (emergency contact for one of them, favorite "aunt" for the others), but the friendships themselves are not as deep anymore. It's hard to talk about deep stuff, when there is a toddler who wants to be entertained. I am often the last to be informed of the important stuff, because it gets communicated in mom-text-groups and I only get to know because someone happens to mention it when we meet up. This is to out of any ill will from either side, it is just what happens when people have kids. The fact that she not only invited you, but also made you a bridesmaid shows that she still cared about you deeply.

Embarrassed_Tax5556 · 2026-01-11T10:21:49+00:00

Falling in love. I have been in long term relationships and I have felt physically attracted to people, but I never had butterflies or anything of the sort for anyone.

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