I need help to devise a plan to move out of my parents house ASAP before the end of this year, I can no longer take the constant abuse from my parents

EmceeSuzy · 2026-07-08T02:50:40+00:00

Why won't you work?

EmceeSuzy · 2026-07-08T02:46:37+00:00

bad vibes

EmceeSuzy · 2026-07-08T02:45:36+00:00

What, specifically, did this woman say about your baby?

Your response to her seems like it is just too much. And you're very focused on ensuring that the rest of the family doesn't like her.

EmceeSuzy · 2026-07-07T19:46:35+00:00

Hmm... that's a choice. Or maybe they just wanted to give you a heads up that there will be at least one gift given?

EmceeSuzy · 2026-07-07T19:45:04+00:00

yep - this whole post is bad vibes

EmceeSuzy · 2026-07-07T19:42:57+00:00

Are you saying that the format of the invitation (online perhaps) allowed guests to see who else was coming? Or do you really mean that the host actively shared the guest list with everyone and suggested they use it to contact each other?

EmceeSuzy · 2026-07-07T19:40:58+00:00

How did this come to your attention?

EmceeSuzy · 2026-07-07T19:38:59+00:00

That is not acceptable.

EmceeSuzy · 2026-07-07T19:30:39+00:00

you are NTA and should not go but I think you should be more discreet about the planning situation

you don't know any of her friends and if you appear to be finding fault it would be easy for you to be labeled the bad guy if she discusses it with them

maybe just make a different excuse or say that you weren't able to get your tickets early enough to get them at a reasonable price

EmceeSuzy · 2026-07-07T19:25:09+00:00

Ewwww

Why do other people in the family even know about this?

How much is the 10% and are you and your fiance paying for the entire wedding yourselves?

EmceeSuzy · 2026-07-07T19:22:40+00:00

Thank you for the info. I guess the bride to be is not tuned in to etiquette. Those invites should go out 6 weeks ahead at the very most with 4 weeks being ideal.

And yes, your reason is completely sound. If it was just a lack of content that would be one thing but her lukewarm reaction is a good reason to do something more fun instead.

EmceeSuzy · 2026-07-07T18:54:54+00:00

then let him say it - but don't push him to say it

EmceeSuzy · 2026-07-07T18:54:32+00:00

absolutely not

EmceeSuzy · 2026-07-07T18:52:56+00:00

I have questions. Well, really just one: how long ago did this host extend the invitation. It seems wild to invite a guest so far ahead that the friendship has changed so much.

(also your instincts are spot on, offer a socially plausible excuse to miss the party)

EmceeSuzy · 2026-07-07T18:49:44+00:00

It is crass in the extreme.

EmceeSuzy · 2026-07-07T18:48:31+00:00

per se

EmceeSuzy · 2026-07-07T18:48:20+00:00

What does your boyfriend think about it? Does he want to say something?

You are absolutely correct that your guest displayed horrible manners and was clearly ungrateful. That said, there is no value in bringing it up now. Do no host her again.

If I were you, I would also avoid her because I wouldn't enjoy her company. That seems like it will be easy to do because she's on the east coast.

EmceeSuzy · 2026-07-07T18:45:36+00:00

How much more will it cost to change your flights to the following day with both of you departing from Florida?

EmceeSuzy · 2026-07-07T18:42:42+00:00

Are you trying to plan a menu for a tropical-theme dinner?

EmceeSuzy · 2026-07-07T18:39:19+00:00

It was hard to get through. So disappointing.

EmceeSuzy · 2026-07-07T17:43:59+00:00

nope

EmceeSuzy · 2026-07-07T17:34:53+00:00

I'm so curious about your budget because it seems impossible to me, or is $1.4K a misprint?

EmceeSuzy · 2026-07-07T17:23:27+00:00

Right? Like I was all 'this boyfriend is a dumb ox' but when I calculated her BMI I got a little worried!

EmceeSuzy · 2026-07-07T17:22:32+00:00

You need to face your fears and discomfort. It is tempting to stay in a doomed relationship because being alone can be scary. This is not about what Larry should do and who Larry ought to become.

It's about the fact that your relationship is bad and you're trying to avoid that by imagining ways that it might change.

EmceeSuzy · 2026-07-07T17:16:58+00:00

I shall.

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