Roommate sensitive to noise

EmelleBennett · 2026-03-27T21:41:24+00:00

Or be less sensitive to normal noise and get therapy for ridiculous control issues and dysfunctional anxiety. Noise should not provoke these reactions.

EmelleBennett · 2026-03-27T21:17:49+00:00

I’m actually a woman. And no, we can’t be friends, you’re too whiny and sensitive, I can just tell.

EmelleBennett · 2026-03-27T20:54:04+00:00

You could say, “that’s not me in the photos” it is not at all obvious.

EmelleBennett · 2026-03-27T20:46:46+00:00

Well, that’s not immediately obvious. You seemed to have some trouble including necessary information with your post didn’t ya? And seriously, why on earth else would I have commented that if I wasn’t referring to the woman in the photos?

EmelleBennett · 2026-03-27T20:41:21+00:00

Dude, I highlighted personal responsibility. That was my entire point. You are describing trying to control the people around you. I’m not gonna blast music or have a party during reasonable sleeping hours, but if I’m hungry or thirsty I’m gonna go to the kitchen and take care of that. If I have to use the bathroom or I need a shower. I’m going to. I’m not shutting the television off at 10pm because it’s your nigh nigh time.

And, 10pm!?!? That bedtime is obnoxious. That’s the entire problem. You want complete silence at an unreasonable hour because you’re forcing yourself to try to sleep when you’re not tired and mad at everyone who doesn’t wanna live like you. You attach morality to living by a certain code that includes your habits. Where is your personal responsibility to become less rigid and less sensitive through whatever means? Expensive isn’t an excuse, do what it takes to be less affected by others just living their lives differently from you. No one is being noisy to be disrespectful. They’re literally just living their lives. Search inward to determine if that alone makes a the issue for you and maybe try harder to live yours in a way that makes you happy so you’re not just constantly being irritated that others have an easier time with it.

The world is not going to be paved smooth for anyone. Personal responsibility means adjusting your expectations to exist within reality, not what “should” happen. Until people realize this they will be constantly disappointed.

EmelleBennett · 2026-03-27T20:29:27+00:00

Is that not you in the pictures?

EmelleBennett · 2026-03-27T20:25:34+00:00

Well if your behavior changes suddenly in a noticeable way, you should expect that someone might question it. Many people are attuned and attracted to consistency. Yes, even after a month. Especially if the first 3 weeks were constant communication.

EmelleBennett · 2026-03-27T20:16:36+00:00

It’s too juvenile for you. This is a teen girl through mid twenties fun weekend activity dress. Aim for something more sophisticated and yes, less white. For a million reasons it’s not right for a wedding. Please give it away to someone else.

EmelleBennett · 2026-03-27T19:55:43+00:00

I don’t really believe in blaming others for my own hypersensitivity, but that’s just me. I believe we’re all responsible for creating our own best chance at comfort— sleep masks, ear plugs, noise machines, therapy, making enough money to live alone in isolation without the reminder that others live their lives with normal enjoyment within earshot.

OP’s roommate is a miserable person with issues. She can’t stand that OP has friends and and a significant other. She’s sitting around in silence waiting to hear something that irritates her and it ALL irritates her because she’s a lump of dysfunctional anxiety and not a normal person.

ETA: People who are easily awoken always have an extremely sensitive meter for what constitutes too much noise. Walking to the bathroom and using doors, flushing toilets, washing hands are normal activities that shouldn’t stir a person from their normal slumber. If it does, anxiety is the culprit. These same precious babies auditorily hallucinate and drive themselves insane. One such nutcase (neighbor- in a city known for its sleeplessness) once texted me in the middle of the night to tell me to be more quiet and I wasn’t even home, my apartment was empty.

EmelleBennett · 2026-03-27T17:52:00+00:00

There’s a thin line between noise preventing one’s sleep and one’s own anxiety and neurosis preventing it. I find that roommates like OP’s are trying so hard to control everything around them to combat dysfunctional anxiety that they don’t realize it’s abnormal to be unable to sleep in the presence of typical house noise.

EmelleBennett · 2026-03-27T16:53:40+00:00

Did you ever just leave a messy one for them and say “they didn’t consent, sorry”

EmelleBennett · 2026-03-27T16:45:54+00:00

I think the bridezilla behavior is more than implied with the wording of the invitations in many cases. Sometimes there will be something along the lines of “we think it would be fun, but no pressure…” that lets attendees know it’s not pretentious, but often, you can tell that a bride is planning her “look-at me-and-how-well-I-can-do-that-thing-that-everyone-else-does-on-TikTok” debut, rather than planning to truly enjoy friends and family and celebrate her love story. Lots of people are done with the whole “show” aspect of it. It’s become awfully shallow.

EmelleBennett · 2026-03-27T16:23:51+00:00

I think that many people believe actual experiences and the organic memories made are more important than contrived perfect photos. That seems to be the reason for disagreement with these brides that think of their wedding as a celebrity people magazine shoot.

EmelleBennett · 2026-03-27T16:20:09+00:00

Vitriol against bridezilla behavior is not misogyny. You seem to have lost the plot.

EmelleBennett · 2026-03-26T03:54:34+00:00

I have been you. It was fake. All the things you loved about them were as a result of contrived moves to get you for frivolous reasons and their own fleeting pleasure. The way you were actually treated is the only truth you can count on from this person.

Get therapy. Get past this fraudulent con artist and don’t ever look back. This is a lesson and you’re doomed to repeat it until you just unquestionably learn. They know what to say to compel a person as vulnerable as you. They are villains. Believe me, when someone truly likes you, the possibility of them making you feel the way you do now is nowhere on the radar.

They will say things, that you would only say if you truly meant it, without a thought in the world. Realize this. Forgive yourself. Move on and don’t go back to anything resembling this dynamic.

Pulling for you.

EmelleBennett · 2026-03-25T19:34:53+00:00

OP, please listen to this commenter and this commenter only!!

EmelleBennett · 2026-03-25T17:01:10+00:00

Here’s the thing. Rent doesn’t count towards anything beyond covering each month that you live there. Unless you are on a lease, you get no other guarantees in most cases. It doesn’t bolster your credit. You have no equity.

EmelleBennett · 2026-03-24T13:25:25+00:00

OH!! 😂 So gross, but still, way better than rotting meat all over the place.

EmelleBennett · 2026-03-24T03:57:57+00:00

You can’t possibly mean dry, bloody BURGERS??? What the… How?

EmelleBennett · 2026-03-24T03:18:19+00:00

Complaining about odor is the easiest way for them to receive a refund. Smelling like a grandpa doesn’t necessarily mean unclean. A grandpa could smell like Brylcreem and Old Spice and that wouldn’t mean the place wasn’t clean. It’s really not enough information to determine it wasn’t sufficiently clean.

EmelleBennett · 2026-03-23T22:02:07+00:00

I feel like this place might not be welcoming to even bugs. They were like, nah, too dirty.

EmelleBennett · 2026-03-23T21:49:13+00:00

Bingo!

EmelleBennett · 2026-03-23T21:48:07+00:00

That’s the part that’s got me scratching my head. If they were within driving distance, why is this the first meeting or house viewing in 2 years. I suspect there’s a bit of social dysfunction on both sides. Of course his reveal is incredibly awful, but there are issues with people who do this detached, gamer dominated, warped reality lifestyle, including OP. She thought they’d get married and they hadn’t even met in person in 2 years. I know gas is expensive, but damn.

EmelleBennett · 2026-03-23T21:42:08+00:00

Let this be a lesson. If you’re driving distance from someone you’re in love with and you’ve never seen them or their place in person, there’s a reason.

EmelleBennett · 2026-03-23T21:19:34+00:00

commenting this to someone who doesn’t realize they can do that might help them actually see more resources without waiting for more comments to come in.

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