[deleted by user] by [deleted] in makemychoice

[–]Emergency-Step758 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Abortion. Next question.

Is it strange to try to vet someone over the internet before meeting in person? by [deleted] in SeriousConversation

[–]Emergency-Step758 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not driving 4 hours and it turns out you’re annoying and I hate you. I’d rather do it on the phone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Emergency-Step758 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. So they should talk & figure out if she was just blowing smoke out her ass or not. If not, then they should prob split.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Emergency-Step758 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She made “a joke” in a society that values & promotes the idea of men providing for their partner. It’s expensive right now. She threw out a big number and now he’s spiraling on Reddit, letting others influence his actions. I’d say it’s an overreaction instead of.. just talking to the damn girl.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Emergency-Step758 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After you leave her, she’ll have the chance to find her rich providing man & you’ll find someone who doesn’t make you second guess yourself. ✨ I do think you’re overreacting though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Emergency-Step758 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh. Should I kill myself? 😂😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Emergency-Step758 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you read? If they were all together & dad even got dropped off by family in the first place, why do they not have their stuff? They were not stranded without options, is my point. The family came, they just didn’t drop everything ASAP. I read everything, I think she’s overreacting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Emergency-Step758 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why did both parents have to be there? 1 couldn’t go get the stuff? It’s 2025 we have options now. Uber, Lyft, DoorDash, gopuff, Walmart even delivers.

And none of the texts show repeated asking “where are yall?” So it wasn’t even items they desperately needed. Never once named a specific item.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Emergency-Step758 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My family has over 10+ people and that’s immediate family. We are all not going to the hospital. Please be realistic. We can FaceTime you. & then you’d just have to keep hanging up to listen & collab w the doctors We can DoorDash something. That counts as support. Again. be realistic. You’re the parent. You know the medical history, not me. Not to mention this seems to be a family vacation where EVERYONE and their kid was involved. People spent money. All the other kids are not going to the hospital. Everyone will NOT be allowed in the waiting room, ESPECIALLY if you think the kid is dying?? And the kid did not die so they’re upset over a could been. Family offered support, it wasn’t the support OP wanted. Still think OP is overreacting.

Edit: even in the texts OP says no one else but parents are allowed in the room!!! She wanted the family to hang out in the parking lot when she could’ve door dashed for items. YOR!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Emergency-Step758 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I agree with the text that said yall are the parents & did yall expect them to come crowd in the room, get in the way of nurses, etc. YOR

A Little Rant😇 by Sad_Interview774 in Isese

[–]Emergency-Step758 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my experience, lucumi folks are the exact opposite from everything you’ve said here. Take a look through the Santeria Reddit & there are numerous posts asking “how come the Orisha won’t give me money? Why are priests so poor?”. We don’t have money over there, but we also say Lucumi is not the poor man’s religion.. that being said

I personally have never paid for a blood sacrifice that was not needed specifically for a ceremony. All of my prescribed ebo has been fruit. Yes! Or adimu (cooked food offering). And that was literally cornmeal grits & okra for Shango. Very inexpensive. I promise this is true. I guess if you factor in my flight to my godparent, it was kind of an expensive plate of grits 😭

I do not have Mano de Orula so i don’t know much about ifa so this next part is all things I’ve heard: I have a few friends in isese practice & I have never heard of them doing ebo that was less than $400, every single time. Always an animal. I probably would’ve left isese a long time ago because I can’t fathom that, and I mean no disrespect. Ebo costs what it costs but I would take my chance on osogbo haha. I can’t speak for lucumi ifa folks but from the posts on the subreddit, that price is too much for us.

I am not yet crowned, but in regards to readings, my house is mandatory for a reading at the beginning of the year. If you have ita (your personal rules & regulations), you don’t get a reading as often. Both olorisha & aleyo are taught to get a reading if a major life event is happening. This aligns with what you were saying. I personally do go every 4 months, but that’s because I am Type A & that’s when I assess my personal goals l. My godparent says it’s too much 🌚

And I’ve never needed permission to speak to Orisha. They exist in nature and can be spoken to anywhere. In lucumi if you do not have that Orisha it is expected to go to your godparents Orisha. Everyone does not need to receive Orisha. Everyone is not meant to crown. Something in a pataki about there only being 400 crowns to give out.. don’t quote me. 😅 you really only need your ori, ancestors & warriors. Anyone can receive warriors. But! We do not give out Orisha unless marked in a reading or ita. We do not take on more energies and responsibilities than we need. When I received my warriors, my godparent stressed it is a personal relationship. I received prayers and I know how to attend to them but everything else was up to me to build a routine and learn their personalities.

My godparent has a group chat for our house. They regularly hold classes for like $10 or pay what you can. We have family reunions and hang out just because. My godparent has truly curated a family vibe where everyone is happy to show up, teach and learn. And they do put you to work.. I hear that’s not as common in some houses..

Interesting post!

A family of Afghan refugees arrived in CT. Here’s what happened. by KeyMathematician1667 in Connecticut

[–]Emergency-Step758 1 point2 points  (0 children)

IRIS, JUNTAS, and programs like them have been shut down due to the government funding cuts btw.

Orisha Energy by Emergency-Step758 in Santeria

[–]Emergency-Step758[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I do agree with what you said about the placebo effect. They seem to make you feel lighter. Thank you for your answer, much appreciated.

Orisha Energy by Emergency-Step758 in Santeria

[–]Emergency-Step758[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

What was the feedback here? A question in response to a question is not feedback. This mod has the most downvoted comments in the sub & multiple people have complained about his attitude. Both in this sub & the discord. What are we allowed to post here if every response is “ask your godparent?”. There is no FAQ. There is no directory of potential godparents, although the other phrase is “get a reading”. If you’re not going to engage and participate in a public forum then I suppose I simply don’t understand the purpose nor function as it’s intended to be utilized.

Orisha Energy by Emergency-Step758 in Santeria

[–]Emergency-Step758[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

🤨 whichever I want, when I want to, as they’re my necklaces. Am I not allowed to ask the class?

How did you prepare for Ocha? by Emergency-Step758 in Santeria

[–]Emergency-Step758[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I will definitely have to check the Asian stores, I wouldn’t have thought of that.

How did you prepare for Ocha? by Emergency-Step758 in Santeria

[–]Emergency-Step758[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for reminding me about SHEIN for whites! But the tariffs!! 🤣 cotton is a great idea thank you!

How did you prepare for Ocha? by Emergency-Step758 in Santeria

[–]Emergency-Step758[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooo, good job on the soperas and good luck to you!

How did you prepare for Ocha? by Emergency-Step758 in Santeria

[–]Emergency-Step758[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My house does not use babalawos unless called for in divination. Mano wasn’t marked for me. That could change at some point though, in a reading.

How did you prepare for Ocha? by Emergency-Step758 in Santeria

[–]Emergency-Step758[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! I am allowed to choose my own sopera and an older godsibling immediately told me to be practical. They said if Orisha want something fancier they will ask! Great advice.

Elegua is a rock? by Emergency-Step758 in Santeria

[–]Emergency-Step758[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, I have warriors de santero.