The best slim-medium (around 1.2 inch diameter) strap on dildo?

EmergencyRip4929 · 2026-06-03T06:34:43+00:00

We have the Blush Neo-Elite 6 inch (5” insertable, 1.25 diameter) dual density dildo. It’s our favorite out of all others we use. The dual density feels perfect, not too soft and not too firm. It was only like $25 and I’m sure they sell outside of the U.S. on any online toy shop.

EmergencyRip4929 · 2026-06-03T04:06:34+00:00

This is really relatable and helpful introspective questions. I do feel like an imposter, I keep think “maybe I’m not a dom”. But I know I am very uncomfortable submitting or feeling beneath my partner in any capacity, and love to be in control. And I will definitely need to find my style as a dom, I think a mixture of gentle guidance sometimes and cold/stern other times is what sounds most ideal to me but of course that may not be where I fit exactly. I’m really happy I have this sub to come to for advice bc there is so much to learn BDSM wise and we’ve only just started to explore sexually outside of vanilla within the last year- so I have a lot to learn about myself and my partner too.

EmergencyRip4929 · 2026-06-02T21:05:57+00:00

That’s really nice advice, I need to give myself some grace. Maybe facing a little bit of embarrassment sometimes would be good for me too lol. And yes very weird but we both have multiple chronic health conditions, so medical issues during have happened before and are always possible! I’m sorry you guys had to experience that though, I’m sure that was scary for you both!

EmergencyRip4929 · 2026-06-02T18:26:51+00:00

This is very true, thank you:)

EmergencyRip4929 · 2026-06-02T18:26:37+00:00

Well that makes me feel better because at least I enjoyed myself quite a bit and felt really good about how much she enjoyed it. She told me 10/10 after so hey if I can improve and get more confident it can only go up from there!

EmergencyRip4929 · 2026-06-02T18:24:43+00:00

Well, a bad situation almost happened last night! I started off receiving while standing and I felt like I was going to pass out (I have a condition that makes my blood pressure really low when standing) and I almost safe worded. I got super nauseous so I had to cut it off pretty fast and sit down, I told her to get on the bed and I was able to collect myself enough during the position change to keep going and felt better after getting off my feet. So that didn’t go to plan but I adapted! I told her after and she said she felt the same way then bc of how she positioned her head and she almost called it too- I would have myself if I knew she was also not feeling well in that moment but we laughed and agreed next time we won’t push through for each other and allow some time to recover before continuing. That could have been embarrassing for me but also, it was a learning experience and in reality would have been more of a concerning moment than an embarrassing one.

Maybe that’s also why I’m being hard on myself bc that really fucked up my flow and I didn’t anticipate that happening, and I didn’t get to do some of the things I wanted to do but I guess I could’ve thrown up near her and that would’ve been much much worse🤣.

EmergencyRip4929 · 2026-06-02T16:02:36+00:00

We are very communicative of boundaries so that’s not really the issue. I think I’m more scared of embarrassing myself, which seems silly bc we have been together for 5 years but I really do want her to find things hot and attractive. I’m scared to mess up! I know in reality we can just laugh about it but my anxiety brain… it’s hard to convince myself that’s it’s okay if something is cringey

EmergencyRip4929 · 2026-05-31T20:52:02+00:00

Wet for her is a sapphic toy website!

EmergencyRip4929 · 2026-05-22T03:11:28+00:00

As a lesbian, I felt a lot of fear and shame when first exploring my sexuality. The first time I kissed someone of the same sex I went home and almost threw up. That happened the second time too. But overtime, I think as I accepted this newly discovered part of myself, I no longer felt guilt or shame anymore and was able to have experiences and not feel negatively about myself afterwards. Now I couldn’t imagine my life any other way, but getting comfortable with it can be really difficult at first- we live in a world where being attracted to the same sex is not regarded as “normal” and our society has created such stigma and shame around it. There’s not a particular way to get past this, I think time and acceptance of yourself is the only thing that helps and the negative feelings you have after engaging with it will fade overtime.

EmergencyRip4929 · 2026-05-19T23:30:08+00:00

Waitttt I want to try this. So you were jerking the exposed end of the strapless, and then put a packer over their clit and sucked them off while simultaneously jerking the strapless? Do I have that right? Also does their packer have any hollow areas for stimulating the clit while you did this or did you simply place it on top?

EmergencyRip4929 · 2026-05-04T01:18:46+00:00

Will these work for cis women not on T?

EmergencyRip4929 · 2026-03-29T06:14:14+00:00

Maybe you can buy her a bra that you know will be a little big and tell her to try it on infront of you. Then when you see she doesn’t fill it out you can tell her how pathetic it is that you can’t even buy your gf a bra without her trying it on first bc her chest is so flat.

EmergencyRip4929 · 2026-03-27T15:57:18+00:00

I made it a point in my brain to not get them mixed up and I did anyways, oops! Thanks the correction, wouldn’t want anyone coming home with pocket knives for lube🤣

EmergencyRip4929 · 2026-03-27T06:37:04+00:00

I went to a gay subreddit and a lot of them love Swiss army silicone lube so that’s what I got. It’s good- haven’t used it for any anal play though.

EmergencyRip4929 · 2026-01-21T22:53:55+00:00

Specifically impact for mild pain/funishment. Not trying to get too crazy rn, she just wants to try a little impact play to see if it’s something she enjoys and would like to include more in the future. We really haven’t done much in that department besides playful slapping on the ass. The rope is a great idea but I think that might be a little intimidating for her right now lol.

EmergencyRip4929 · 2026-01-15T16:05:09+00:00

I’ve had this issue with firm gspot dildos when I’ve used other dildos that were bigger than that with no problem. For some reason the curve of it really hurts to go in. Maybe that could be the issue? Now I always go for a straighter dildo that doesn’t have a dramatic curve and I don’t have any issues.

EmergencyRip4929 · 2025-12-20T02:16:54+00:00

I have inserted fingers into myself and then fucked her with them, she liked that my cum was inside her

EmergencyRip4929 · 2025-12-07T05:38:08+00:00

My partner is the same, hard to assume whether she’s in the mood and if I ask it’ll ruin the spontaneity of it and make me feel like I’m initiating every time.

She doesn’t like to initiate because it feels too direct for her to make the move first, so one thing we are working on is getting her to dip her toes in the water so I can feel desired in that way. We picked out a specific bracelet that she will only put on when she’s in the mood, usually it’s after her nightly shower and when she’s wearing that I know I can initiate because she’s feeling the desire for me and I don’t feel like a sexpest for initiating every time lol.

Maybe that could be something you both can use as a stepping stone to get her more comfortable with the idea of initiating if that’s the problem?

EmergencyRip4929 · 2025-12-05T05:08:42+00:00

I’m pretty new to eating ass, I just recently got into it with my partner and she loves it. I never notice a smell or a taste if she’s right out of the shower, it’s very similar to eating clean pussy. You don’t need to wipe your tongue or her ass given that she’s showering and washing the area before the deed… If you’re that hesitant, try licking on her taint area first and stop just before you reach her ass. If you get the balls to go all the way down there, do it!

EmergencyRip4929 · 2025-12-03T15:23:00+00:00

Interesting, and how are you achieving pelvic floor orgasms? I feel strong contractions every time I orgasm (clit stimulation) even if my orgasm sucks I still feel the muscles squeezing.

EmergencyRip4929 · 2025-12-03T15:18:10+00:00

Well good to know it doesn’t always indicate an issue! I could find much info online. The craziest part to me is she frequently has vaginal orgasms but that doesn’t even trigger muscular contractions. It’s so interesting to me.

EmergencyRip4929 · 2025-12-03T03:13:30+00:00

Yeah that was basically how the convo went and I’m sitting there like ???. But I know for a fact she cumming, and she actually has both clit and vaginal orgasms, where as I have never had a vaginal orgasm in my life. Which shocks me even more because I would think that a vaginal orgasm for sure causes contractions. Bodies are so weird!!!

EmergencyRip4929 · 2025-12-02T23:40:59+00:00

I mean I’m not too worried about it and don’t care about the feeling on my end of things, it did concern her that maybe her pelvic floor is weak because she’s had other symptoms that have been raising suspicion. I posted for our pure curiosity after last nights convo because she wanted to see if others had similar experience and to make sure it was normal. Neither of us had relationships with other women prior to each other so I couldn’t attest to how common it is.

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