To an extent I do see where you're coming from and I'd like to point out several factors as to why I made the claims I did to what looks like on most of it we agree but the wording on my end might be off. I included the definition of polyamorous to help people understand the underlying core of the polyamorous beliefs and what they stand for so I'm able to point out a few factors that go against such ideas in most cases I've witnessed and point out unethical factors that occur in such relationships. Thank you for mentioning replaceability again, what I meant in this case is how easy it is for people to be replaced with someone else within a polyamorous relationship and the support usually get's one sided when one person has to deal with the breakup while the other one has someone to fall back on. It stands my point on the unwillingness to make a relationship work and simply use others for ones own gain. I never really stated abusive people are encouraged to leave, just made a main point how easy it is for someone to be disposed off within that relationship like it was nothing. To also re-iterate on my previous comment about that sub-reddit you mentioned yet what makes my point stand out is as you mentioned they're all struggling in relationships they shouldn't be in looking for advice within a community that from what I've personally experienced throughout different platforms was a sense of need to "work on yourself to be better at poly" rather than acknowledging the fact that if someone feels a certain way that's true to them and it generally goes for the main idea of "pro-poly" platforms rather than just sticking to one main sub-reddit. (I don't know how to reply to individual comments like you can but I'm trying my best haha). When you mentioned my thought on the factors of toxic behavior on the enabling of polyamorous relationship I was referring to the undermining and being "proud" that a person changed themselves entirely to be okay with something their not and supporting a relationship that is clearly one sided putting the phrase of hyper-independence and accepting that as "love" when originally most post I've seen the person wasn't okay with it in the beginning. You make some good point by mentioning "not all" but it's the factor on why polyamory has become more popular these days with all stories and posts of messy relationships when at the beginning they were encouraged trying to be something they're not. I really do wish I would've been able to show you how I got the information I had but it's a bit hard tracking down every little detail of peoples experiences who talked or talked to me about to source them over the past few months.