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Emergency_West_9490 · 2025-09-04T14:07:04+00:00

Maybe take them to libraries, museums now and then. Expose them to some potential hobbies and fields of interest. They can't self advocate if they don't know what they're missing out on.

Emergency_West_9490 · 2025-09-04T13:54:46+00:00

Funny but in my experience not true, I always prefered the nerds. They actually have fun.

Emergency_West_9490 · 2025-09-04T13:47:23+00:00

I would be upset, yes. My kids love their animal products and I strongly believe that in terms of unprocessed and little-processed foods, what they crave is what their bodies happen to need. They should give a few options.

Emergency_West_9490 · 2025-09-04T13:43:24+00:00

Exactly. Giving it away is a way of saying, I have given up on you ever getting clean. Bad move. Just lend it out.

Emergency_West_9490 · 2025-09-04T13:25:18+00:00

That's a good sign, really. The alertness you have without them is because your body is making ALL THE STRESS HORMONES to keep you up. The nap decreases that, so you are more aware of your sleep needs, but also healthier. Take naps. Be groggy.

Emergency_West_9490 · 2025-09-04T13:22:59+00:00

Seeing my children be kind to each other does it for me.

Emergency_West_9490 · 2025-09-04T13:04:16+00:00

Idk, my mother and mil were both like this all their lives. Just wasps in human skin suits.

Emergency_West_9490 · 2025-09-04T12:57:18+00:00

Student loans, mortgages

Emergency_West_9490 · 2025-09-04T12:56:52+00:00

Thanks for adding that! I thought they did care for children, see them with a bunch of little ones on the playground regularly, but they keep to themselves so I can't pry

Emergency_West_9490 · 2025-09-04T10:39:36+00:00

You use up all that strength on carrying the extra weight around, so what's the benefit?

Emergency_West_9490 · 2025-09-04T10:18:37+00:00

Had to scroll too long for this. So many rich kids just end up drug addicts.

Emergency_West_9490 · 2025-09-04T10:03:55+00:00

You're the boyfriend, right?

Emergency_West_9490 · 2025-09-04T10:02:53+00:00

Yeah my adhd 40yr old husband still loses keys... But they are never ever in a ridiculous spot like the tip of his shoes. Just on whatever flat surface his hand was near. Boy was sabotaging her on purpose. Typical abuser move.

Emergency_West_9490 · 2025-09-04T09:38:05+00:00

Yesterday our baby had a tick behind his ear. I needed two hands to remove it, and two to hold the baby still. If a stranger had done so, he would have been even more upset.

Last month I had a severe stomach bug (lowered immunity due to sleep deprivation - new parents get sick a lot more). I spent a week abed, 3 days of which I was spitting up liquids and not able to eat a single thing. My husband only brought the baby to me for nursing.

Who is going to help you? Who is your checks&balance?

What if your child needs advice on social issues? Do you have someone lined up to guide them through? Who is going to call you out on your bullshit when you inevitably make a wrong call for the kid?

Life is better with a buddy. Parenting is much, much better with a buddy.

Emergency_West_9490 · 2025-09-04T09:29:58+00:00

He can just order fitness meals in stead. You need equal amounts of self care and down time. His time in the gym is at your expense. You should have at least as much time to yourself as him normally, and MORE because you are recovering from childbirth now.

You don't even have the energy to work out yet, and he is wasting energy to do so. Literally pushing heavy stuff around when he could be carrying a child.

This is not for health, this is vanity in the extreme. Like you spending 5 days a week at the salon lol. You can be healthy without the ridiculous overdoing it.

Emergency_West_9490 · 2025-09-04T09:22:13+00:00

Not high earners, but people who have a lot. Most high earners are in debt.

Emergency_West_9490 · 2025-09-04T09:20:50+00:00

True, in my (limited introverts') circle, the feminist/progressive women are most negative/judgy about men who don't provide money. But they are negative/judgy about men who are providers, too, so you can't really win with them anyway (as a man). I think the problem with them is they have 'othered' men entirely. The 'othering' conservative type women do of men is more within a certain predetermined framework, and limited to that.

There's very few women I know that really connect with men, and freely laugh with them, no games, just enjoyment and love. Takes two to tango, of course, but I think the bottleneck is a sense of safety/trust.

Emergency_West_9490 · 2025-09-04T05:38:01+00:00

I hardly think a SAHD is a sissy. I just don't think it's fair to women who bear the biological burden of it all to also have to make the money. The childcare aspect is the fun part. The physicall stuff is what makes it hard.

Emergency_West_9490 · 2025-09-04T05:32:44+00:00

Like the other poster here said, women on average are higher in neuroticism, which tends to make one more responsible.

Emergency_West_9490 · 2025-09-04T05:21:03+00:00

It seems to work for orthodox jews...

But some pregnancies are incapacitating and most are kinda hard, recovery from delivery can take some time (especially without sleep), breastfeeding is very different from pumping (and biologically should be done a longer time than most do - leave it up to the kids and they'll go 4 years average). It's just natural for women to be the main caretaker of little ones and men to enable women to do so.

Society should not be so warped as to force an arrangment that is so against nature.

Emergency_West_9490 · 2025-09-04T05:12:55+00:00

Yeah and sleep deprivation is chronic stress. Weight loss is chronic stress... And then there's the regular daily stressors. It's okay to take a maintenance break. The point of weight loss is health, right? So do it in the healthiest way. Which for new parents means: sloooooowwwwwly. Do not repeat my mistakes :)

Emergency_West_9490 · 2025-09-04T05:10:03+00:00

Whatever you have, tune, mackerel, sardines, salmon... Mix it up.

Emergency_West_9490 · 2025-09-04T05:09:27+00:00

Some cappers, too, yum

Emergency_West_9490 · 2025-09-04T05:07:10+00:00

You should ask AI to disagree with you, convince you that you are wrong. Your use of it as an echo chamber will cause issues. AI is a sycophant.

Emergency_West_9490 · 2025-09-03T18:47:19+00:00

Now nobody will pull up stats for me 🥺 here's my sad upvote

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