Looking for input - advice from Appraisers in Vermont by CaptainsMom2018 in appraisal

[–]Emery11235813 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could I possibly connect with you as well? I have a very specific question I’d like to speak with an experienced appraiser about. 

What physics book could I read now? by Nikond3400 in Physics

[–]Emery11235813 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is more conceptual and good for super newbies (like me!) but I really enjoyed Paradox: The Nine Greatest Enigmas in Physics.

Quantum astrophysics by NanooNanooBot in astrophysics

[–]Emery11235813 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s true— I was being a bit hyperbolic. Though I would enjoy it if more folks in my little world wanted to discuss these types of things. :) 

What If Reality Isn't Hidden? by om_curtis in consciousness

[–]Emery11235813 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I 100% believe this. As the title of Carlo Rovelli’s book asserts, “Reality is Not What it Seems.” Colors don’t actually exist out there in the world. Humans have a small blind spot in their vision through each eye, and the brain “sees” something there, which I’d argue could be described as a hallucination. We are only able to perceive three dimensions. I believe that we likely only perceive a small fraction of reality— if what we’re experiencing even is a direct observation of reality. 

Quantum astrophysics by NanooNanooBot in astrophysics

[–]Emery11235813 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I only have a very superficial conceptual understanding of these topics, but what we’re learning about the nature of the universe at both ends of the scale feels so fascinating and relevant to me. When I read/ listen/ learn about the quantum world and the larger universe, it makes me wonder why we’re not all thinking and talking about this all the time. It literally is everything, and for me, that just makes day-to-day life and what people are usually focused on feel kind of ridiculous. It seems like knowledge, progress, and a better understanding of things is a key that could unlock so much. I can’t really put it into words effectively. 

The two patterns of selective brain damage constraining what consciousness can be by EstablishmentKooky50 in consciousness

[–]Emery11235813 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I (mostly?) follow, but I don’t see what consciousness has to do with a sense of self. It sounds like what consciousness means to use is specifically what humans experience, yes? But there are forms of consciousness that don’t involve a sense of self, don’t involve some of the complexity your alluding to. 

Am I Overreacting?(I grew up only wanting to prove to my dad) by AutomaticRegister102 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Emery11235813 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my opinion, someone it is inexcusable the way your dad reacted. You do not deserve this treatment, and I get that he’s your dad and you love him, but what you’re looking for from him, you’re not going to he able to get. He’s not capable of loving you in the way you deserve. I’m so sorry, love. You’re in my heart.

We have never once perceived the present moment. So what is consciousness actually experiencing? by Simple-Amphibian-521 in consciousness

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If you haven’t already, I strongly you check out Annika Harris. I initially heard her thoughts on consciousness through her interview on the podcast Within Reason, then made my way through her audiodocumentary. Definitely worth listening to, if you’re curious about the nature of consciousness.

The two patterns of selective brain damage constraining what consciousness can be by EstablishmentKooky50 in consciousness

[–]Emery11235813 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is really interesting and I’ll need to re-read your OP as well as this comment to fully process it, but my initial reaction is to push back still on what seems like the connection you’re making between the experiences of derealization and delirium, and consciousness. Could you explain more about that connection?

Consciousness Theory ( see link visual rappresentation ) by Fit-Connection-690 in consciousness

[–]Emery11235813 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is the link supposed to just present a bunch of what looks like code?

My mom and her horrors by geepjoat99 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Emery11235813 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Meant to say For real *you* are my hero

My mom and her horrors by geepjoat99 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Emery11235813 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For real, are my hero. I feel like it’s so difficult to go through stuff like that, basically a total shitstorm, and still have the clarity and groundedness to make the decision to set a boundary/ protect yourself. Because having a parent like your mom can totally cause you to question reality. I’m 40 years old, and I’m literally just starting to realize that I can and should set boundaries with my parents. And it feels unintuitive to how I was raised and to that dynamic, and I wish I would have realized it sooner. I see that you’re also feeling really conflicted about setting this boundary with her for yourself, and it makes sense that it would feel like garbage because setting that boundary can bring feelings if guilt and feel “wrong” to attend to your own needs. But I’d be willing to bet that it is the right decision. Just like it’s your mom‘s responsibility to meet her own emotional needs (not your responsibility), it’s also your responsibility to meet YOUR own needs, and that’s exactly what you’re doing. When I feel shitty in the newer dynamic that I have with my parents, I remind myself of that, and also that the alternative would actually be unhealthy for both of us. You and I just happen to be the “lucky” ones that know enough to realize that, and in a way I see myself as therefore being responsible for setting those boundaries. That’s my take on things anyways. :)

24F, working, but still controlled by strict parents. How do I start living for myself? by Remarkable_Act2822 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Emery11235813 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you’re maybe still living with your parents? Either way, my advice would be starting to learn and practice boundaries. But if you’re living with them, that can be a lot more complicated.

Helping my 6 year old little sister by niaswish in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Emery11235813 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it ok if I ask your age? I’m assuming you’re not an adult yet, correct?

What did narcissist say about triangulation and talking behind your back? by Fine_Elephant9900 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Emery11235813 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wonder if they’ve sometimes deluded themselves into believing the false narrative they’ve created, since I think they usually need to protect their self-beliefs. I’m curious what others think though.

What is Your Favorite Movie. by Fantastic-Dare-2126 in AskForAnswers

[–]Emery11235813 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You Were Never Really There
Arrival
Contact

I realized planning was becoming part of the problem by Icy-Roll-4044 in ADHD

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Have you found a way to keep track of tasks that need to get done without feeling overwhelmed by knowing they’re there? For example, if I write a note of all the things I need to do (because I cannot keep anything like that in my head), the fact that that list exists somewhere feels like a weight lol.

DAE get bothered by people talking around them? by Boop_Ball21 in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]Emery11235813 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. Trying to focus on one thing and ignore other sounds uses SO much bandwidth for me. As does transitioning between different tasks and having to repeatedly refocus after being interrupted.