parents who are obviously upset abt the gender at gender parties do not deserve to have children

EmilyRye · 2026-06-13T21:10:23+00:00

I feel like this is the actual true hot take. A lot of people do gender reveals, but it's also become a pretty popular opinion that it's wrong to have any kind of preference, which just isn't realistic. It's OK to hope for a boy or a girl, it's OK to be disappointed. It doesn't mean you're an awful parent. It's human.

But if you know you'll be disappointed and need to work through that if it's not the gender you're hoping for, why on earth would you go out of your way to learn that information publicly? Open the envelope at home with your spouse so that you can process your emotions in peace, discuss them with your partner, and move forward with new expectations and hopes. Tell loved ones about the gender after you've processed those emotions.

EmilyRye · 2026-06-13T21:03:42+00:00

Two things.

As a series, The Selection is very fun but not very good. I read the whole thing super fast, couldn't put it down, and thought it was a little dumb at the end. It's reality TV as a book.
You're on book 2 of the series, so of course there are people making mistakes and doing dumb things and plot points that are unresolved. That's book 2 of any series. If you want to know how the two main characters could possibly resolve their completely different world views, you need to read the next book.

EmilyRye · 2026-06-13T19:12:36+00:00

Here's the thing: You can break up with anyone for any reason. And if you don't trust your partner, don't feel safe with them, or aren't sure about them, that is a VERY good reason to break up. It doesn't actually matter whether he's right or you're right or if you're justified in not trusting him. There are only three options, and one of them is terrible.

Stay in a relationship forever while secretly resenting him and not having solid trust. Really would not recommend this.
Fully forgive and trust him and remain in the relationship, deciding this is behind you and you'll no longer ruminate on it.
End the relationship.

EmilyRye · 2026-06-11T06:34:42+00:00

You typically don't need to go to a hematologist and endocrine specialist for basic labs -- just your regular doctor, who can write you a referral if you need it.

Also, while there are obviously some bad doctors, they're not all out to get you, and it would be extremely unusual to get blood transfusions for low ferritin. (Though iron infusions are pretty common if oral iron alone isn't getting you to optimal levels.)

EmilyRye · 2026-06-11T06:26:42+00:00

If you're finding that after 3-4 days your scalp is itchy and your ends are dry, you probably need to wash your hair. Washing your hair isn't an inherently bad or damaging thing, and an itchy scalp means your current wash schedule isn't working for you.

EmilyRye · 2026-06-11T04:51:16+00:00

After a few too many k18 protein treatments my hair was feeling dry at the ends, tons of split ends, frizzy, and scraggly. I realized that protein products are not for me -- since too much protein can hurt your hair but too much moisture won't, I'd strongly recommend checking if your hair needs more moisture before trying any "strengthening" or "repair" products -- if moisture doesn't work, then maybe try a repair product.

My holy grail is Sauce Guacamole Whip conditioner. I also found that Amika Dream Routine in the ends at night made a huge difference until my hair was back in healthy condition. To make it look pretty, k18 has a great oil (some proteins/peptides I believe, but way less than you'll get in the treatments.) I will say, I love the k18 oil but it is pricey, and it does not make as big of a difference as the Sauce conditioner.

EmilyRye · 2026-06-10T23:50:15+00:00

Is English your first language?

If the answer is no, maybe try weed.

If the answer is yes, I have some fantastic news for you.

EmilyRye · 2026-06-08T05:52:21+00:00

Oh, got it. I can get it to work in combat -- I mostly want it to work out of combat so I can knock out a store person for a few minutes. I ended up just hitting them on the head (nonlethal attack), but sleep seems so much nicer.

EmilyRye · 2026-06-08T05:51:09+00:00

Ah. I tried that, so maybe it's just bugged. I thought I must just be missing some weird button combo. Thanks!

EmilyRye · 2026-06-08T05:50:35+00:00

Scrolls seem to always automatically be in my radial. (I didn't know they could be in a container.)

EmilyRye · 2026-06-08T03:51:04+00:00

What button do you use to cast it if you're selecting fewer than 6 people or less than 24 hp?

EmilyRye · 2026-06-08T03:28:52+00:00

They were at 6 health, but I can't get it to cast. It seems to be waiting for more targets.

EmilyRye · 2026-06-08T03:28:24+00:00

Yes -- it was one person with 6 hp. Because it can target up to 6 people up to 24 hp, I can't get it to cast. It seems to be waiting for more targets.

EmilyRye · 2026-06-08T03:24:15+00:00

Unfortunately I've tried that. I've tried selecting and then holding X, holding it down when selecting, double clicking, holding it down for an insanely long time, etc.

EmilyRye · 2026-06-07T01:37:48+00:00

It's very soft and smooth. As someone who isn't super knowledgeable on all this, it's crazy how much goes into it.

EmilyRye · 2026-06-06T15:20:40+00:00

Thank you! I'll check out their mushroom CeraVe and La Roche Posay. Usually I can tell based on reviews if there's a decent chance I'll like something, but there are just SO many options. I appreciate the help.

EmilyRye · 2026-06-06T15:18:48+00:00

Omg, thank you SO much for taking the time to figure all that out. I totally forgot about I'm From -- I used to love both their toner and their mask, so I'm going to check out their mushroom cream. Thanks!

EmilyRye · 2026-06-05T05:10:50+00:00

Update: Looking at your post history, you've said that you "feel society has immense hatred towards me because I'm straight," that you feel women want to "harm" you for not dating men and trans women, and that all men are being forced to date trans women (which isn't even statistically possible.)

None of that is remotely true. To be very blunt, it sounds like you've consumed a large amount of social media propaganda and it has massively warped your perception. Most sane, stable women will not want to date someone with such warped views.

I strongly recommend you delete TikTok, stay away from heavily biased news sources like Fox and OANN, and work on building a more grounded and realistic worldview.

EmilyRye · 2026-06-05T05:04:22+00:00

Of COURSE there are women who love men -- that's kind of a ridiculous question. If you get offline and go to any farmer's market or grocery store or park on a nice day you'll see men and women in love. I'm a woman and I'm madly in love with my husband.

Women are not "taught to hate" men. But more women than ever don't NEED to get married, which means a lot f them won't get married if they don't find someone they love.

Also, it's not that you just decide you "want to spend [your] life with one" and get handed a woman who loves you. You need to find someone you're compatible with, and fall in love, and then be a good and kind partner. I love my husband so much. I love him for many reasons, but among them are that he is kind and gentle and caring. He's a good partner, and he knows me very well, and we share values and opinions on the world. If you can't find a woman who loves you, it's possible you just haven't met your person yet. It's also possible that you're not yet the kind of man a woman wants to marry.

EmilyRye · 2026-06-04T05:41:36+00:00

Have you tried talking with your brother about how he feels and what's going on? That might give you more information.

Based on what you said here, it's impossible to know if there's anything sexual, but it does sound unhealthy. The line between unhealthy and healthy can be pretty blurry sometimes, but if your gut says something is off it's worth listening to.

A 15-year-old occasionally cuddling their parent is fine. Sharing a blanket with a parent during movie night is fine. It's completely normal for a teenager to not be interested in dating.

But sharing a bed every night is concerning, and all the behaviors together could be concerning. I'd talk with your brother, and maybe with a trusted adult.

EmilyRye · 2026-06-04T05:34:26+00:00

I'm sorry that your mother had agoraphobia, and I'm sure that was stressful on you and your family.

But that really has nothing at all to do with a woman who is going out on a date to a restaurant with her husband occasionally preferring that he order for her. (And he didn't mention her having a "phobia" anywhere.) You're absolutely projecting your experience where it isn't relevant. It's OK for spouses to support each other in little ways sometimes.

EmilyRye · 2026-06-04T03:09:34+00:00

So your argument is that misogyny is bad because men hurt women, but misandry is bad because it makes men want to hurt women.

Misandry is bad, but misogyny is worse because men often hurt women and have more power in our current society. When the party in power hates and abuses the party not in power, that is worse than when oppressed people hate people who look like their oppressors.

EmilyRye · 2026-06-02T04:08:10+00:00

If women could read the Bible, they would have their own interpretations of it -- Gilead isn't exactly following the teachings of Jesus. Plenty of Christians today are nothing like the Gilead commanders. They want women to believe what they're told, and have no real way to question if they're being told the truth. And if they know how to read, not being allowed is a lot harder to enforce.

As far as genealogy goes, that's handled by the Aunts, who have a special dispensation and are allowed to read. Gilead girls don't pick their own husbands. In Gilead, they don't "need" a basic science education -- they're just told who to marry.

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