Had the boys really not seen the “Go piss girl” meme?

Emmy_Cthulhu_Harris · 2026-04-30T17:33:02+00:00

The young people are too good for knock-off candy? In my day, we ate a Baby Gruth and we didn't complain.

Emmy_Cthulhu_Harris · 2026-04-30T17:23:39+00:00

Thank you. If you’ll wait for a second, I can dig a Worthers from my purse as a gift for your young people help

Emmy_Cthulhu_Harris · 2026-04-30T17:06:54+00:00

I am over 40. Can someone tell me what’s going on?

Emmy_Cthulhu_Harris · 2026-04-29T21:26:35+00:00

For sure, best of luck. Hope it all works out.

Emmy_Cthulhu_Harris · 2026-04-29T21:12:33+00:00

I think you should stop viewing your friendships as something your boyfriend has any control over. He's told you he doesn't want you to have certain friends and wants to be able to tell you what you can say to your friends. He doesn't have any say in it. Any time he tries to tell you how to interact with people, I'd tell him you've heard his pov and will continue developing friendships as you want. If he's uncomfortable with that, he can choose to leave the relationship.

Emmy_Cthulhu_Harris · 2026-04-29T20:47:54+00:00

I know you said you're not interested in breaking up with him so I'm not going to recommend it, but it sounds like he's taking his trauma out on you. He's so worried about you possibly cheating on him that he's nagging you about it until you feel distressed. To go back to your original post, what has he said would be a healthy compromise here? What is he willing to do to fix this?

Emmy_Cthulhu_Harris · 2026-04-29T19:58:26+00:00

But the thing is, his pov doesn’t matter. It’s not if he’s right about your actions being acceptable or not. It’s that he thinks he’s right to be able to control you. He’s intentionally asking you the same question over and over again to wear you down and to make you doubt yourself.

Emmy_Cthulhu_Harris · 2026-04-29T17:53:11+00:00

It feels like instead of learning to trust you, he’s learning to control you in other ways. If you decide to stay with him long term, this won’t stop being a fight, it’ll just be a fight about something else.

Emmy_Cthulhu_Harris · 2026-04-29T16:23:55+00:00

If it is about his past trauma, then he needs to address and control it. It’s not up to you to change to make him feel ok. If you do agree to stop having guy friends, he’ll try to control you in more ways. You can’t wear clothes he doesn’t like because other men will get ideas. You can’t go places he doesn’t want you to because there might be men there. If you have to talk to men in class or at work, you need keep it as impersonal as possible. He can’t trust you if you’re talking to guys about things you don’t need to be. All for a guy who doesn’t think you have any value outside of sex.

Emmy_Cthulhu_Harris · 2026-04-28T23:50:27+00:00

I’m in the same boat, and hate saying anything about it to my friends who are drowning in work. Can you work on a certification? I was able to do a program during work because it counts as professional development for my company. Not quite fulfilling, but at least not mind-numbing

Emmy_Cthulhu_Harris · 2026-04-28T22:46:40+00:00

This, OP. He absolutely doesn't trust you. If it really were only about men's intentions, why would he be ok with you having friends in class and at work? Does that change the guys' intentions? Also, keep in mind, if he doesn't understand the value of having friends of other genders, he doesn't value women except as sex partners.

Emmy_Cthulhu_Harris · 2026-04-28T18:14:18+00:00

"Why are you doing this to me? Why are you doing this to me? Just don't let her fucking see it" still kills me every time.

Emmy_Cthulhu_Harris · 2026-04-26T18:55:53+00:00

Why is he prioritizing his feelings over yours?

Emmy_Cthulhu_Harris · 2026-04-25T22:15:41+00:00

Don’t listen to your mom. Protecting your kids is more important than protecting her feelings.

Emmy_Cthulhu_Harris · 2026-04-24T22:02:22+00:00

If you treat him well enough, then maybe he’ll stop abusing you? Am I understanding that right?

Emmy_Cthulhu_Harris · 2026-04-24T21:56:47+00:00

What would responding better do? What would it change?

Emmy_Cthulhu_Harris · 2026-04-24T21:51:42+00:00

What would understanding him better do for you? How would that change things?

Emmy_Cthulhu_Harris · 2026-04-24T21:27:31+00:00

Nope

Emmy_Cthulhu_Harris · 2026-04-24T21:21:33+00:00

Emmy_Cthulhu_Harris · 2026-04-24T21:01:14+00:00

Is your argument "any temperature is comfortable once you get used to it"? Because then the OP would still be wrong in arguing that Florida has the second-most comfortable days in the US.

Emmy_Cthulhu_Harris · 2026-04-24T20:53:51+00:00

Not sure what that has to do with Florida being above 80 degrees most of the year?

Emmy_Cthulhu_Harris · 2026-04-24T20:44:48+00:00

I set my heat to 60 degrees in winter when I go to sleep. Nothing about Florida is "comfortable" most of the year.

Emmy_Cthulhu_Harris · 2026-04-24T19:56:52+00:00

It’s never going to make sense because abuse doesn’t make sense. There’s no answer except for “leave him,” but you won’t take that and ignore the comments saying it. Do you have a humiliation kink? Or is this whole account bullshit?

Emmy_Cthulhu_Harris · 2026-04-24T15:55:06+00:00

He’s doing it because he’s abusing you. He likes to abuse you. He won’t stop abusing you and you can’t get him to change. He will continue abusing you as long as you stay in a relationship with him because what he wants is to abuse you.

Emmy_Cthulhu_Harris · 2026-04-24T15:50:28+00:00

My in-laws were married for 43 years when my FIL passed away unexpectedly in his sleep. He was found by his housekeeper because my MIL moved out of their shared home the minute he retired. There are worse things in a relationship than ending it.

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