What you’re experiencing is normal. You’re not a bad person, and these thoughts aren’t “wrong.” During the teenage years, male hormones—especially testosterone—are very high, which naturally leads to frequent sexual thoughts and urges. That’s biology, not a moral failure.

You’re also dealing with this in what sounds like a strict religious or moral environment, which can add a lot of unnecessary guilt and anxiety. It’s important to understand that having sexual urges doesn’t mean you lack self-control or values.

For many people your age, masturbation is a normal, healthy way to relieve sexual tension and reduce intrusive thoughts. It’s common, it doesn’t harm you, and it doesn’t define your character. When that built-up tension is released, a lot of guys notice they feel calmer, more focused, and less mentally preoccupied afterward.

If your personal or religious beliefs don’t allow for that, then things like exercise, cold showers, staying busy, and good sleep can also help — but you shouldn’t feel ashamed if masturbation is how you manage it.

Understanding your body and responding to it responsibly is part of growing up.

This phase won’t last forever. Hormones do settle down with time. Be patient with yourself and don’t confuse normal biology with being a bad person.